I suffer from manic depression and my girlfriend suffers from extreme anxiety. she convinces herself that things are wrong and cannot/will not listen to reason. I am wondering if anyone has any tips on dealing with this? any time she gets this way i end up extremely depressed and frustrated because it seems like i can't help and she has no way to stop it herself. she says she wants it to stop but can't motivate herself to get help and whenever i try to help her she gets upset with me and makes me feel bad for implying that her condition bothers me, thus sinknig me into depression again. i love her very much and want to marry her, but this is extremely hindering. she has gotten so bad that i can't leave her alone in my house because she will either convince herself that she is dying or that someone else is in the house. nothing i say can change her mind. i am out of the house from roughly 5:30am to 5pm everyweekday so she usually stays with me. i don't know what to do. its getting to the point where neither of us can take it. my depression has gotten so bad that i feel it all of the time on some level, if i'm not almost throwing up and crying i just have this impending doom feeling, i try to keep it to myself because she can't handle it but then it explodes as anger and frustration when i finally can't stand it anymore. i feel like hurting myself (not suicide, just punching or pinching, no cutting or anything of that nature) and i am afraid it will get so much worse if i can't stop it. i do not currently have insurace through my job and it won't be available for a few more months. i need help but i don't know how to get it. if anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated.

Sounds like you would both benefit from medication or counseling. I don't know what to tell you about the insurance thing though. Just going to the doctor is pretty expensive and these anti-depressant medications are too especially without insurance. Maybe there is a free clinic of some type in your area that you could go to. If you go to get help and start to feel better and then your girlfriend see's what a difference it can make it will encourage her to get help too.

Taking medication when you find the right one takes away that feeling like you want to cry. I have cried like you explain you do many times and it had been getting worse and worse recently. I started taking an anti-depressant and now I never cry. I almost feel like I can't cry even if I wanted to. I also don't feel depressed and I was laying in bed 12 hours a day and wished I could lay in bed 24 hours a day I was so depressed. It really can take away the pain.

Medication can also help with your girlfriends anxiety and fears that someone is in the house. So don't give up I know it seems like it's just never going to get better but it really can and it will. Even if you have to wait for your insurance to kick in just hang in there both of you.