i had sex with a girl i didn't really know over 2 years ago and then sex again with a girl i did know alittle over a year ago. i was tested once and cam out neg. i started dating a beutiful wonderful girl and have been with her for 10 months now! anyways about 4 months ago i got really sick. doctors say inner ear infection and i ran tests and i definetly have some inner ear stuff going on. if anyone has ever had this then you would understand how horrible these symptoms are. anyways....i used to worry so much about having hiv from dumb decisions i made and i can't get it out of my mind that mabe i have it. i got tested again after getting sick and it came back negative. now that was 8 months after dating my current girlfriend and a year after my last possible encounter. i guess all i need is some reassurace. im worried because my girlfriend has been getting dizzy latley and i know that dizziness is not a main symptom of hiv. i just finally found the love of my life and im scared that i messed it up before i even had it.

dear comeandrelax: you need to do just what your posted name tells you to do - come and relax. There is no reason to believe that your tests were anything other than what your physician or health care worker told you. You are negative! Now, you are in real danger of losing this 'love of your life" if you don't get hold of your fear and anxiety and turn it into something positive. chris

Symptoms mean nothing when it comes to HIV...you should tell your girlfriend about your fears and worries, it can only make you two stronger...if she's not understanding or leaves you, then maybe it's not such a good position to have been in in the first place. Look. We all make mistakes. Whether you take control of your sexuality in the middle of a new relationship, or at the begginning, you're still taking initiative to be safe and protected. She'll value you that about you. Now, the two of you should enjoy a lovely little date to the STD clinic. It will strenghthen your bond, and make you and her feel a whole lot better

-s-

your right i need to just relax and be happy and not let anything get in the way. i made a mistake in the past like everyone else and i got tested and it was negative. not i just need to getover this inner ear infection

And you're still at the point where you can make the best of your mistake by making things even better w.your girlfriend, and turning this situation around to benefit you..let us know what happens
best of luck
-sarah

Hi There, I have just gone through the whole nightmare for 6 months or more. I had all the symptoms swollen glands for 2 months, dirrhea for a week , a rash, night sweats, dry cough the lot. I tested negative during my symptoms in august 2005 and just got a negative result today April 3rd 2006.
My wife also had a couple of night sweatd and has a dry cough.

The doctor told me that the internet is a dangerous thing and i can totally agree. Visiting the HIV sites just makes you convinced you have HIV. It is a good idea to trust the medical testing and continue to live a normal life.