Everything I've heard and read says that you can't spoil and infant, but I think my Ds is! He will sometime cry for no reason, and when I pick him up he's instantly fine! After I've held him until he's asleep again, I lay him down. Within a few minutes he's crying for me.

Is he spoiled? I can't just let him cry! He's only 6 weeks old!

This is the EXACT thing that happens with me. My DS will be 6 weeks friday. We need advice! :)

Babies this age need a lot of comfort and need to know you will be there for them. Spoiled is when they have learned that crying will get you to pick them up so they cry even though there is nothing wrong. Right now your son is too young to make that association. He's crying because he needs comfort. You are not spoiling him by picking him up, you are being a great mom! :D

We have the same problem. I found this to help. I bought a Cuddle-U (from Wal Mart). It is a lifesaver, and my son will even take naps in it, he sleeps for a long time and is very happy in it. I beleive that it is becase it cuddles him and he feels like he is being held. Babies are happy when they feel comforted and cuddled, and he really loves to sit in this. You can feed, nap, and teach babies how to start sitting up with this. I Love it!! I really think that he beleives that someone is holding him when he is in there, because he is so content, and I can actually get things done around the house. It comes with a harness that keeps the baby in when they are small, kinda like the bouncy seat. Try it, it might help you. Good luck.

Most babies do not sleep well flat on their backs. The seat which was just suggested may work very well for your baby. You can also try having him sleep in the carseat, right in the crib, in his swing, on his tummy (SIDS rates for a newborn tummy sleeper are not even close to 1%), or propped on his side. You can also try swaddling him or sleeping with him at night. Keep on picking him up when he cries at this age too. Our oldest is 18 and I can assure you that when your son is walking out the door to college or down the aisle (hasn't happened yet but being in community college it is within view for us) you will not be thinking about how spoiled he was at six weeks old. You will be wishing you had held and cuddled even more!

Nancy

At what age do they become spoiled? I love holding my son, I never want to put him down. But sometimes I need to eat or go to the restroom!! LOL I have literally had to hold it for a while until he's out completely. He sleeps in a sleep positioner now, but he will soon outgrow it. I'll check out the cuddle u. I know that he's content in my arms because he smiles like crazy when I'm holding him, so it does kill me when I have to put him down. But mom needs a break now and then!! :)

My daughter was exactly like that. I held her all the time and rocked her to sleep. I had a sling that I put her so I could do house hold chores. She is almost a year old now and for the past 6 months she bearly wants to be held. She wants to run around and fall to sleep on her own. The only time we get to hold her is when she is sick or overly tired. My Grandmother told me a was spoiling her by holding her too much. Doesn't seem thta way to me. Babies are used to being with you all the time in your belly and when they are born they aren't. It is a big change for them. Enjoy it while you can! Before you know it they will be too big and too busy to be cuddled. Until may daughter was about 5 months old she would take alot of her naps in her highchair. It recline all the way back. She slept so much better like that during the day.

Okay....i agree with everyone on so many levels....I was so worried to hold my daughter too much (she is almost 1) because I didnt want her to get spoiled. No lie...from the first night in the hospital, she cried when I put her down. Wish I was joking, but that is completely true. She has many health problems, so I dont know if that has anything to do with it or not, but she and I are sooo close and when I hold her, I could just cry. Sometimes I think maybe she is just being spoiled. Most of the time, I am the only one that can comfort her, when i leave the room, she freaks out. She wont sleep in her crib no matter what I do. Many nights she sleeps in her car seat by my bed or in the living room cause I end up on the couch. She doenst ever sleep more than an hour or 2 at a time (she cant eat food and formula just doesnt stick), so I will take whatever I can get when it comes to her sleeping habits.
At any rate though....love them, hold them, make sure they know that you love them. You will know if it is going to become a manipulative situation. Kids are pros! LOL.......
I would worry too much about it. Enjoy them when they are babies cause its gone before you know it!

Jen

I was told in the hospital that you can't spoil a newborn, but at 3mo+ they can get spoiled. This is when they start to want mommy and daddy more than others. DS is just under 3mos, and I say he is getting spoiled. He used to lay on the floor with his toys and love it. Not anymore. I lay him down, and if he can't see me, he gets upset. This just started a week or 2 ago. I am trying not to pick him up when he "yells" for me, but when he full out cries I get him. I know the difference between his cries now, so I base my actions on that. He loves interaction now too, so talking to him while he plays seems to help, but he is always looking around for me. If me and DH are around, he prefers his daddy. Its so cute and DH says he is really starting to feel like a father now. Before it was me he wanted for feedings and he wasn't very interactive with DH. It is so adorable the way he talks to DH!

Hold your babies!! Soon, they will not want it, and you'll miss it. Enjoy them while you can. Also, I don't think you can spoil a baby doing really anything, that's so old school.