Even though this happened about eight months ago, I am thinking about it now and I feel really guilty about it because I know it was my fault, yet I still have so much anger towards my aunt. Well, anyways, here is what happened. In June, I was visiting my family and friends in Ohio and I stayed with my aunt and uncle and theirtwo younger daughters because I wanted to spend time with my cousins. Before I came, my mom explained to my aunt that I only eat once, which is at night and I never eat during the day or morning and she told her to stay out of my eating, and my aunt agreed, so I stayed with them. Then, when I was there, one day, I was going out with a friens from Ohio and she told me she wanted to eat something, so, at the time, I didnt feel like arguing with her or to cause a problem, so I took a Kudos bar into the living room and hid int in my CD case because I planned to throw it away later, then when my aunt was in the kitchen, I threw away the wrapper to make it look like I ate it. A few days later, I was going with another friend and before I had to leave my aunt said, before you leave, I want you to eat that Kudos bar that you never ate. I made the mistake of not throwing the bar itself away. She must have saw it in my CD case. I said I will go inside to eat it(but I would not actually eat it) and she said that she would go inside to watch me and then I knew I would just have to refuse to eat it, so I told her I would not eat it, then her and I got into a long debate about my weight, which, at the time, I was at the weight that my mom is making me get to, which is around78(I am only 4 feet 10 and a half inches though) which my mom considers a healthy weight, which I agree. But my aunt was saying how she thought I was underweight, and then, to her ten year old daughter, she yelled up to her because she was in her room, and she said''Erica, how much do you weigh?'' and she said 80 pounds because she just had a routine doctor checkup, so my aunt said, see you dont even way as much as a ten year old. When I got home, I told my mom all about it, so she called up my aunt to get mad at her because my mom told her to stay out of my eating habits and she promised she would, so my mom was really mad that she broke that promise. My mom callled her up and my aunt said how I was not normal, so my mom said''Well Jill, I dont think any part of an eating disorder would be normal to you, but Crysta is doing a great job'' She got really mad at that, so she tried to change the subject to how she thought I was so bad to be friends with a person who uses drugs. I told my aunt about her drug use because I didnt want to go to a certain party because I was afraid there would be drugs there and I didnt want to get into that. I was listening to the whole conversation while my mom was talking to her in the hot tub because I was in there too. The phone call ended by her yelling and hanging up. They have npt even talked to each other since and I know it is all mmy fault abd I know my mom is still mad at her. I really dont know how to make this right, but I would appreciate advice.

you know what you need to do? forgive yourself. what happened is NOT your fault. it is something going on between your aunt and your mom and, although it arose over you, it is not your fault. if they got that upset and stayed that angry with each other, then they're obviously dealing with something more than that one incident, you know? talk to your mom about how you feel, but KNOW that you did nothing wrong. but definitely tell your mom all the guilt you're feeling. their issues with each other shouldn't be affecting you, especially when you're already in a delicate state, so your mom needs to know how you feel.

Thank you for your reply. I am afraid to talk to my mom about how I feel so guilty because I am afraid that would make more trouble between them. I am afraid if I tell my mom, she will call her up and get mad at her all over again and since they are sisters, they are not afraid to tell each other anything and I dont want anyone to get hurt feelings.