If you have any words of wisdom, please let me know. She's seeing an oncologist Tues. She's in her late 30s with two young children so I'm very upset for her. I know this is a pretty treatable cancer but I'm at a loss for what to say to her too. I don't want to say the wrong thing so I've just "been there for her."

Is there something specific she should know from those who have been there? What questions to ask the oncologist. What is the long term survival for this cancer. I don't know any other things other than B-cell lymphoma. She had a swollen gland in her neck and that's how this all came about.

Thanks.

Your friend needs to ask for a second opinion on diagnosis, then she needs to find out ALL the available options for treatment and the cost/benefit to her health. If a second opinion is not available or she trusts this diagnosis, she then needs to ask how many cases the doctor has treated sucessfully, does this doctor treat patients in a conservative manner or does the doctor go into the experimental areas for treatment. The type of cancer and the degree it has spread, whether it is contained in the one lymph node on her neck or if there are other nodes in the body that are effected as well. Does she have any other current symptoms, and how much is the treatment going to cost? You would be surprised at how the treatment varies depending on the amount of money that is available to cover the costs....I know that it sounds pretty bad, but good health care costs a lot of money, sometimes money does determine life and death matters.