saphire82
02-23-2006, 10:55 PM
In highschool and couple years after I wouldnt go anywhere not showered every day and caring so much about my makeup and hair. Now I rarely ever wear makeup and usually just pull my hair back and take a shower when my hair starts to look greasy. Ive also started smoking and used to do anything I could to avoid smelling like it when I didnt smoke. I used to think that an hour wasnt enough time in the morning to get ready(i would be late if I wasnt finished) and now I literally roll out of bed, put clothes on, put my hair back and off I go. I dont know what happened, I want to start taking care of myself like I used to(maybe not as drastic) but cant get myself motivated. Did this happen to anyone else?
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MzPrincessReina
02-23-2006, 11:07 PM
this has happend to me, but for me its because I think I got too comfortable with being in my relationship, its almost like Im not going out anymore and im not looking for anyone, so I try a bit less.
SophiaM
02-23-2006, 11:52 PM
Have you been feeling depressed, maybe?
saphire82
02-24-2006, 02:05 AM
I dont think Ive been depressed, if I am it might be just slightly. Ive been married for 4 years, and I know my husband is aware that there is a difference but of course hes not going to say anything. Ive made efforts before (like a one day thing). Im just stuck in a rut.
___vintaqe
02-24-2006, 03:28 AM
That happened to me as well, as a result of being too comfortable in my relationship, until my boyfriend mentioned that it was starting to irk him. That was definitely my motivation. If you want to start taking care of yourself, start slowly and work your way back into a routine. If that doesn't help, maybe you are depressed, and not even know it!
tigerlillyrose
02-24-2006, 06:12 PM
Yeah, I can relate. I find that the positive feedback from others is a great motivator.
I think taking baby steps is probably a good idea or "taking care of yourself" will seem overwhelming. Try going to a new hair stylist, maybe getting some subtle highlights, some side swept bangs, a few light layers, or something that will motivate you to spend a few extra minutes on your hair. Instead of plunging into a full face of make up, pamper yourself with skin care products and get used to using a little mascara and a tinted lip balm in the morning. I find that when I think my skin looks nice without make up, it motivates me to enhance that, so a little tinted lip balm leads to a bit of blush and a little mascara leads to a little eyeshadow, etc.
Also, make note of how you feel physically and emotionally when your hair is freshly washed, when your skin feels soft and smooth, when you have that healthy glow or thick lush lashes that only make up can give you, and when you're not worrying about wreaking of cigarettes.
On the other hand, maybe you are not taking care of yourself due to depression or a lack of self-confidence? If that's the case, there's plenty you can do about it... There's hope, trust me... :)
I think taking baby steps is probably a good idea or "taking care of yourself" will seem overwhelming. Try going to a new hair stylist, maybe getting some subtle highlights, some side swept bangs, a few light layers, or something that will motivate you to spend a few extra minutes on your hair. Instead of plunging into a full face of make up, pamper yourself with skin care products and get used to using a little mascara and a tinted lip balm in the morning. I find that when I think my skin looks nice without make up, it motivates me to enhance that, so a little tinted lip balm leads to a bit of blush and a little mascara leads to a little eyeshadow, etc.
Also, make note of how you feel physically and emotionally when your hair is freshly washed, when your skin feels soft and smooth, when you have that healthy glow or thick lush lashes that only make up can give you, and when you're not worrying about wreaking of cigarettes.
On the other hand, maybe you are not taking care of yourself due to depression or a lack of self-confidence? If that's the case, there's plenty you can do about it... There's hope, trust me... :)
greenfairy84
02-25-2006, 12:01 AM
I've been caught in this rut too but only half way sorta.I will put make up on to go to work and if i'm going out to a social thing but thats it.and I never do anything with my hair other than a pony tail or messy bun.I will go to my BF's house with greasy hair and unshaved legs most days if it's only slightly bad.Not too bad.I think there are more things to worry about in life than looking perfect.It does feel nice sometimes but I guess I feel it's too much work.Maybe that's just the way you feel and if you don't think you're unhappy then it sounds like you're just really comfortable.I do think there is such a thing as being too comfortable though and a little bit of maintenance could probably be just enough.