admired1
03-04-2006, 12:46 AM
Hello All, I am an overweight female weighing in the 200+ range, and like many others I am just tired, but you know what I'm not giving up because I feel that everyone that is suffering from this has to have faith, I hear a lot of sob stories here like everyone just have given up the battle of the bulge. I know that this is the best place to air all of your grievances about this issue but there comes a time in our lives were we have to take control of ourselves we own our bodies and we can't let food dictate whether we will be skinny, fat, healthy or not, we have to discipline our bodies just as we have to discipline any other situation in our lives that may put us in harms way. If you had mace in your hand and a thug tried to rob you wouldn't you spray him until the can was empty. ''Get it''- The robber is the food, but the food is robbing us out of so much more than valubles, it's robbing us out of our self worth. I'm not saying we should starve ourselves, the only thing that I'm saying is that over eating and bad choices of what we eat is robbing us out of a thinner lifestyle that we really want to be apart of.
On a ligher note if you were to magically become thinner what's the first thing you would do that was FUN???? For me definitely Go shopping....
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nodda
03-09-2006, 03:42 AM
Hello, great post! Like so many other things in life, one's weight and image has alot to do with your attitude. Just a couple years ago, (maybe even a year and a half) I too weighed in excess of 200 lbs. I was always tired, had no energy, had to buy large, unattractive clothes to fit in, and had low confidence and self-esteem, partly as a result. Well, I had enough of that, and I started to take control of my life, work out on a regular basis, stop touching the crap like pop, chips, etc, and attempt to make a positive difference.
For me, thats all it took, a little determination and will power. Now, I am under 170, according to the scale Im down to some 167, thats almost 40 pounds lost in about a year, and I didnt do anything drastic like crash diets or the like! Just work out and have some self-control and whatnot. I now have so much energy, enthusiasm, and zest for life! Where there were once flabby arms and legs are some real definition. I had to buy an entire new wardrobe ( a good thing), and can dress sexy, with style and class - I get compliments all the time, from young and old, male and female. I am even now starting to attract beautiful women to my side, whereas before they wouldnt give me the time of day!
Anyways, hopefully this is the right place for a post like this, but I felt I wanted to share my success story with others, maybe give some motivation! All I need to do is look at some pictures from a few years back to see how drastic it has been! I guess my main point is, working out 3+ times a week, etc etc, may seem like so much at the start (and it is!) but trust me, hold the fort for a few months and you will not want to stop! After a while, working out becomes addictive - it gives you so much energy and positive vibes! And, I have not given up on junk food or comfort or what not - I usually have a 'cheat day' once a week where I still eat stuff like pizza, chips, etc, and will ocasionally indulge in a snack like an iced cappucino or something, occasionally go on a good drinking session, but moderation is the key. I was so lazy and pessimistic in so many ways, but now I have made so many positive changes to my life, I hope people reading this can too!
For me, thats all it took, a little determination and will power. Now, I am under 170, according to the scale Im down to some 167, thats almost 40 pounds lost in about a year, and I didnt do anything drastic like crash diets or the like! Just work out and have some self-control and whatnot. I now have so much energy, enthusiasm, and zest for life! Where there were once flabby arms and legs are some real definition. I had to buy an entire new wardrobe ( a good thing), and can dress sexy, with style and class - I get compliments all the time, from young and old, male and female. I am even now starting to attract beautiful women to my side, whereas before they wouldnt give me the time of day!
Anyways, hopefully this is the right place for a post like this, but I felt I wanted to share my success story with others, maybe give some motivation! All I need to do is look at some pictures from a few years back to see how drastic it has been! I guess my main point is, working out 3+ times a week, etc etc, may seem like so much at the start (and it is!) but trust me, hold the fort for a few months and you will not want to stop! After a while, working out becomes addictive - it gives you so much energy and positive vibes! And, I have not given up on junk food or comfort or what not - I usually have a 'cheat day' once a week where I still eat stuff like pizza, chips, etc, and will ocasionally indulge in a snack like an iced cappucino or something, occasionally go on a good drinking session, but moderation is the key. I was so lazy and pessimistic in so many ways, but now I have made so many positive changes to my life, I hope people reading this can too!
admired1
03-09-2006, 09:57 AM
That's wonderful mike :bouncing: , I know for a fact that you feel like a whole new person, I am really putting my all into becoming leaner and healthier as well, I just don't want to sit around feeling sorry for myself because that's only going tact on other issues that I don't need, This is so great to finally hear a response from someone that is so motivated and determined to take control over their body and actually use self-control when it comes to what and how much you eat, Thank-you sharing your great story, that's a reassuring feeling that when I am at my ideal weight that I will continue to look forward in life and not back wondering if someone is saying some derrogatory about my weight. Thanks for your post.
nodda
03-10-2006, 03:10 AM
Hi Admired1,
No problem, I am glad I can help out even a bit with a post like this! Good luck in your quest - it seems as though you have the most important thing down, and that is attitude. Once you have set your mind into a positive framework, then anything can be done with the right level of determination. If someone didnt have that frame of mind, then attempting to make changes would be for naught, because once could work out for a month or two, say things are not happening fast enough, and then go back to square one. So Im glad you know that, too - stay positive, realize that it may take a while to get there, but once you do, it will be amazing. The 'comfort food' wont even be a factor anymore, because when you look and feel good, and once you finish up at the gym, you wont want to even look at a bottle of Coke or a bag of chips, things like that even become a subconscious matter.
Good luck to you, and to everyone else out here!
No problem, I am glad I can help out even a bit with a post like this! Good luck in your quest - it seems as though you have the most important thing down, and that is attitude. Once you have set your mind into a positive framework, then anything can be done with the right level of determination. If someone didnt have that frame of mind, then attempting to make changes would be for naught, because once could work out for a month or two, say things are not happening fast enough, and then go back to square one. So Im glad you know that, too - stay positive, realize that it may take a while to get there, but once you do, it will be amazing. The 'comfort food' wont even be a factor anymore, because when you look and feel good, and once you finish up at the gym, you wont want to even look at a bottle of Coke or a bag of chips, things like that even become a subconscious matter.
Good luck to you, and to everyone else out here!
Zayazmama
03-10-2006, 11:14 AM
Mike & Admired1,
Great posts. I WISH that it went that way with me, but it didnt. I posted also under (just had gastric bypass) recently. I used to LOVE to work out. I attended step classes, kickboxing, I worked out with cardio and weights nearly every day. I had a trainer, I ate right, and everything. It took me over a year to lose something like 20lbs. I have been heavy my entire life, including childhood. For me, simply eating right and exercising did not to it for me. No matter what I did, my body would not let go of the weight. Im glad it did it for you. I had to go to more drastic measures and have gastric bypass surgery. That was only 8 days ago. To be honest, I have many regrets, but what is done is done.
I wish you guys the best of luck. Keep up the good work!
Jen
Great posts. I WISH that it went that way with me, but it didnt. I posted also under (just had gastric bypass) recently. I used to LOVE to work out. I attended step classes, kickboxing, I worked out with cardio and weights nearly every day. I had a trainer, I ate right, and everything. It took me over a year to lose something like 20lbs. I have been heavy my entire life, including childhood. For me, simply eating right and exercising did not to it for me. No matter what I did, my body would not let go of the weight. Im glad it did it for you. I had to go to more drastic measures and have gastric bypass surgery. That was only 8 days ago. To be honest, I have many regrets, but what is done is done.
I wish you guys the best of luck. Keep up the good work!
Jen
sudufu
03-11-2006, 10:52 AM
Hi all :wave: ~
I'm a 46 y/o female who has struggled with food all my life. (feel like I just introduced myself :p @ 12 step program) I'm 5'8" and 250 lbs. I've been in the 240-265 range for 10 years. A few weeks ago, the lightbulb clicked ON for me. In my signature for a step-mom group, it's said: think H-U-G-E lifestyle CHANGE(s) are the only way I'm gonna beat the demon that I allow to drive MY bus since then.
No, I haven't made any changes since then. But, I think identifying the problem is a HUMUNGOUS part of the solution. Or atleast, its THE FIRST STEP! (not trying to excuse myself yet ~>>) I had thyroid surgery last fall and just got on meds in Feb. It's been quite a RolLleRcoAstEr on Mr. Toads wild ride. Insomnia & extreme moodiness (med side-effects) are *not* MY FRIENDS.
Can I suggest a book? Geneen Roth has written several books on emotional eating. And has struggled with it herself for many, MANY years. I've probably had When Food is Love for 8-10 years. I guess you have to be in the right emotional state to read & APPLY what her books say. Recently, I purchased 3 more, and am really enjoying "When u eat at frig, pull up a chair" now. It's given me some very useful tools that I will start applying TODAY.
For me personally, thin or appropriate weight according to the charts ISN'T what I'm after. I just want to be happy & comfortable with me. Honestly, I'd probably be perfectly happy being *just* pleasantly plump. You know, when I can buy clothes at REGULAR :D stores!!
What is the first thing I'd do? Go swimming! Or horseback riding, where they don't up me on BIG,tall 17 hand high horse, cuz of my weight,,, And I can see myself pulling a "Pretty Woman" like Julia Roberts did in the movie. You know what I mean,,, going up to the people/businesses who've slighted us as if to say LOOK @ me NOW sucker!
And I kinda think I'll be enjoying more nekkid parties w/ hubby of 11 years along the way :D
GREAT thread!
Sue
:dizzy: <~ me & thyroid meds!
I'm a 46 y/o female who has struggled with food all my life. (feel like I just introduced myself :p @ 12 step program) I'm 5'8" and 250 lbs. I've been in the 240-265 range for 10 years. A few weeks ago, the lightbulb clicked ON for me. In my signature for a step-mom group, it's said: think H-U-G-E lifestyle CHANGE(s) are the only way I'm gonna beat the demon that I allow to drive MY bus since then.
No, I haven't made any changes since then. But, I think identifying the problem is a HUMUNGOUS part of the solution. Or atleast, its THE FIRST STEP! (not trying to excuse myself yet ~>>) I had thyroid surgery last fall and just got on meds in Feb. It's been quite a RolLleRcoAstEr on Mr. Toads wild ride. Insomnia & extreme moodiness (med side-effects) are *not* MY FRIENDS.
Can I suggest a book? Geneen Roth has written several books on emotional eating. And has struggled with it herself for many, MANY years. I've probably had When Food is Love for 8-10 years. I guess you have to be in the right emotional state to read & APPLY what her books say. Recently, I purchased 3 more, and am really enjoying "When u eat at frig, pull up a chair" now. It's given me some very useful tools that I will start applying TODAY.
For me personally, thin or appropriate weight according to the charts ISN'T what I'm after. I just want to be happy & comfortable with me. Honestly, I'd probably be perfectly happy being *just* pleasantly plump. You know, when I can buy clothes at REGULAR :D stores!!
What is the first thing I'd do? Go swimming! Or horseback riding, where they don't up me on BIG,tall 17 hand high horse, cuz of my weight,,, And I can see myself pulling a "Pretty Woman" like Julia Roberts did in the movie. You know what I mean,,, going up to the people/businesses who've slighted us as if to say LOOK @ me NOW sucker!
And I kinda think I'll be enjoying more nekkid parties w/ hubby of 11 years along the way :D
GREAT thread!
Sue
:dizzy: <~ me & thyroid meds!
admired1
03-11-2006, 04:36 PM
Hello sue, I will certainly look into those books on my next barnes&noble I think reading is a brilliant motivational tool, Thanks for your post,you sound like a person with a very big heart with a great personality, and you see things in ways people don't, Thank Again.. :)
sudufu
03-12-2006, 08:31 AM
Amazon has the books. Free shipping if you spent $30. I bought 3 of GR's, so it was easy,,, Have to admit I bought two of the books cuz of the quirky titles (kind of goes along with my :cool: personality, kwim?)
yesterday wasn't perfect eating wise, but SO0 close :p Rome wasn't built in a day. So I cannot expect years of bad, addicitve habits to disappear overnight or with a blink of an eye.
yesterday wasn't perfect eating wise, but SO0 close :p Rome wasn't built in a day. So I cannot expect years of bad, addicitve habits to disappear overnight or with a blink of an eye.
nodda
03-12-2006, 11:59 PM
Yeah, I guess books can help, although I never really looked at any. Check out some websites though, and message boards like this one. I never really did, but I did for the whole aspects of attracting women/dating, etc, I went to lots of websites and message boards and got the advice and opinions of many, and I have to say it did help me alot with that.
Basically I just decided enough is enough and started to do something about it. Motivation can be one of the hardest things to start with, I agree. But one thing I also found, is you have to be confident and positive about other aspects of your life first for anything to work. If youre not focused and happy about other aspects of your life, it will be difficult to stay motivated enough to get into good shape. I think one of the reasons I improved so rapidly was because I finally found my niche in life and realized some goals I always had. I had attempted to start workout regimes before, but I was just so miserable with my life in general I couldnt do it because my other problems and worried dragged me down. With the working out, came lost pounds, which led to increased confidence and compliments from others, leading to various other things such as improved health, stamina, energy, etc. And it just goes from there. Its like the opposite of a viscious cycle.
A tendency that runs in my family, at least on my dads side, if we let ourself go, we will get pretty pudgy, but never really excessively more than 200... but if we stay active we can stay at a very good level. For myself, I know that I will NEVER let myself go like that, ever again. I feel too good right now to ever justify eating to excess and getting fat again. One great thing about it, is once you realize what you have gained, you will go to great lenghts to ensure you dont lose it, even if it is just little things like throwing out that bottle of Coke or going to the gym twice a week in the morning. Once you do find that niche, I think it would help to find one good thing about what being in shape does for you, and whenver you are tempted to let go again, ask if you would want to risk that. For me, I had never had any girls interested in me before. I dont think it was all because of my appearance but it also included the attitude that went with it. In the last 8 months I have managed to attract quite a few beautiful women, I was very close to getting into one relationship and might very well be on the verge of another one right now. If you took me two years ago, this would not have happened.
Anyways, I dont know how useful any of this is, as Im just speaking from my own experiences, but hopefully it does something. Good luck all!!!
Basically I just decided enough is enough and started to do something about it. Motivation can be one of the hardest things to start with, I agree. But one thing I also found, is you have to be confident and positive about other aspects of your life first for anything to work. If youre not focused and happy about other aspects of your life, it will be difficult to stay motivated enough to get into good shape. I think one of the reasons I improved so rapidly was because I finally found my niche in life and realized some goals I always had. I had attempted to start workout regimes before, but I was just so miserable with my life in general I couldnt do it because my other problems and worried dragged me down. With the working out, came lost pounds, which led to increased confidence and compliments from others, leading to various other things such as improved health, stamina, energy, etc. And it just goes from there. Its like the opposite of a viscious cycle.
A tendency that runs in my family, at least on my dads side, if we let ourself go, we will get pretty pudgy, but never really excessively more than 200... but if we stay active we can stay at a very good level. For myself, I know that I will NEVER let myself go like that, ever again. I feel too good right now to ever justify eating to excess and getting fat again. One great thing about it, is once you realize what you have gained, you will go to great lenghts to ensure you dont lose it, even if it is just little things like throwing out that bottle of Coke or going to the gym twice a week in the morning. Once you do find that niche, I think it would help to find one good thing about what being in shape does for you, and whenver you are tempted to let go again, ask if you would want to risk that. For me, I had never had any girls interested in me before. I dont think it was all because of my appearance but it also included the attitude that went with it. In the last 8 months I have managed to attract quite a few beautiful women, I was very close to getting into one relationship and might very well be on the verge of another one right now. If you took me two years ago, this would not have happened.
Anyways, I dont know how useful any of this is, as Im just speaking from my own experiences, but hopefully it does something. Good luck all!!!