Okay,

I am going to share with you all of my issues.. I would appreciate it if anyone could give me advice on how to fix/change them. Thank you very much. And, please no laughing (some of the issues are very personal :) ).

1. I am stricken with social phobia. When I get into social situations, I stutter and have loss for words often. It exacerbates around women.

2. Because of my social phobia, I have problems meeting women. Since I am usually avoiding social sitatuations, I usually don't get many opportunities to meet them.

3. I must have a hormonal embalance, because I can't stop thinking about sex (I am a virgin). This problem usually worsens when I am suffering from anxiety.

4. I am 99.997% sure that I suffer from poor self esteem. I don't consider myself as masculine as I should be. It pains me to think of how women may not not be attracted to someone skinnier than Clay Aiken. Although, I am straight and far from ugly.

5. Umm. Of course, as you probably assumed, I am suffering from lonliness.

6. I easily get obsessed with things. I am probably OCD.

7. I fear death.

Well, I think that's about it. Please tell me what you think. I look forward to hearing your replies.

Hi,

I'm sure you're suffering with social anxiety. I am female, but I think young males have more pressure put on them when it comes to dating. Keep in mind, I haven't been a young female for years. lol

Do you see a psychatrist?? How about your family Dr?? Do they know how you feel?? Don't be afraid to tell them. You're missing a part of your life that should be fun. Are you on meds?? There are several that could help you. How about depression?? Do you also have that, too.??

I hope you tell exactly how you feel to a Dr. I'm sure there is help for you. Don't put it off please.

Take Care and Good Luck...........Connie

:) I know how lonley it can be when you are feeling so consumed by anxiety.
My first bit of advice is, You CAN NOT love anyone else unless you love yourself first. You have to get to the bottom of why you lack such self confidence. If your worried about you weight try some weight gainer at a gym or something. Try to love yourself first. Then the rest will come I know that.. I felt the same way as you. As soon as I started paying attention to me and my needs I started to build more and more self confidence. And now Im getting married in a year!!
As for the death part. This is my biggest fear but you know what. How are you going to stop it if its supposed to happen. I beleive in fate and only God knows your time. I lost my dad 7 years ago. Watched him die in my living room of cancer he was 45. So young but It was his time. If thats the worst that could happen so what. Don't let it stop you from living every moment. Wouldn't you regret worrying about life so much and not living it if you did die? This is what helps me get over my fear of death. There is only one shot at it. Live, Love, Laugh!
Stay strong and keep those close to you closer~! IF that makes sense.

read up on social anxiety disorder on the net, paxil is promoted as the med for it but I think prozac is better, both are the same type of med, should also help with the OCD if any

any valium type med helps a lot for social situations, but be cautious with alcahol, valium in an adequate dose lets you enjoy socialising and so you get more self confidence

Thanks VDubbgrl for the kind words. Yeah, you're right that I need to love myself first. But, I really don't know where to start. Weight Gain isn't an option because of my high metabolism. So, I guess I'll have to start loving the way I am.

And to Navarro and hry, I'm not sufferring from depression and I'm not on any medications. I am afraid to take paxil or any other kind of medication. I guess I would be ashamed if I were on meds; I wouldn't want to get too dependent; and I have the sterotypical view of drugs (it gets you doped up). I know that probably isn't true.

I just don't know. I am in college and going through alot with my classes. Maybe my anxiety will go away after I graduate this semester. Though, I think the real problem is lonliness. I don't have many friends outside of my family. And I'm dying to to have a girlfriend. I guess I'm being repetitive. Can you guys give me your take on anxiety medicines? I would appreciate it.

Teetotaler, I just wanted you to know that you and my son are alot alike. He turns 19 next month and is having a really tough time. He has had problems socially since he was little. He hasn't had hardly any friends. He is still a virgin also and wants a girlfriend soooo bad. His hormones have went into overdrive I'm afraid. He sneaks our porno tapes and watches them or rents them. We've had to block the computer because he searches for it on the computer, which is bad because it lets virus's in. He thinks he is ugly and he's far from it. He has NO self esteem. He's been thru many jobs already. He takes zoloft which is a depression med and helps with other things too. We had to put him on it because he said he felt like he was biteing everyones head off and he was. Anyways my point is there are meds that will help you, just talk with your doc about the right one. Good luck