This is my dd 3rd week at daycare. She is almost 6 months. She only goes 2 days from 9 - 5. Well she is SOOO miserable. All she does is cry all day long and there is they do will calm her down. They try the swing, toys, stroller, exesaucer. There is no way they can hold her all the time. I feel so bad when I pick her up not only for her but for the teachers and other babies. Today she wouldn't even hardly eat. She didn't eat any cereal and fruit, or her veggies for lunch and she only drank 2 8 ounze bottles all day.

One of the teachers questioned me today asking me if I'm sure she doesn't do this on the days she doesn't attend. I told them that she doesn't. She was very colicky up until 4 months old. She has since grown out of it. I don't know what to do. What if they tell me that they can't handle her and don't want her to attend. I do bring her to work with me 1/2 days on Tuesdays and Thursdays and she's fine. I mean she does have her moments but not hysterical.

The only thing that I can think of is that she is going through seperation anxiety. Maybe she is afraid of strangers. I am a single mom and it has just been her and I for 5 months. Then on Wed. and Fridays is when she goes to daycare. Does this sound like seperation anxiety? Will it ever get better? Has anyone else gone through this before? I am so upset. When I pick her up she is fine until bed time. Back to making noises and giggling and playing no problem.

All I can say is...I completely empathize! I work 2-1/2 days a week; one day DD is with one grandma and the other 1-1/2 days she is with the other grandma....and she hates them both !! She cries most of the time she is with them and as soon as I step in the door she stops. The big kicker though is that DD does not take a bottle, pacifier or anything that is not mom :dizzy: Luckily I am able to go at my break and feed her in between otherwise this could be worse than it is.
So, sorry I have no advice for you, but take solace in knowing you are not alone! :)

What I would try, if possible, is for you to go into that daycare w/ her, maybe on days that you're not working, just go in for 3-4hrs. During that time, maybe you could leave for a bit.

My son cried like crazy when I would take him to grandma at 6mo, even if I was holding him, we would have to leave the room. Well, 2 weeks ago I had to attend a conference for 4 days and needed my mom to look after him. Well, I was so stressed. What I decided to do was go to visit my mom 2.5 days earlier, so I could spend all that time w/ her and have DS get used to her. 1st night, he cried in my arms, the next day he was better in her presence as long as I was nearby, and 2nd day as long as she was nearby he was fine. Huge difference

I'm not an expert, but I think, every time you leave her there, she sees them as strangers, and b/c she is not there everyday, it's more difficult for her to get used to them. I don't think she remembers that she saw them a week ago. I don't think their memory is that good yet. That's why I think if you went there more often even if it's for short time, it may help. Hopefully the daycare would not charge you for going more often. Just say that it will save them a lot of crying and headache.

I hope I was somewhat helpfull. Oh, I visited my parents recently again, and guess what, DS cried like he never met the woman.

This is my dd 3rd week at daycare. She is almost 6 months. She only goes 2 days from 9 - 5. Well she is SOOO miserable. All she does is cry all day long and there is they do will calm her down. They try the swing, toys, stroller, exesaucer. There is no way they can hold her all the time. I feel so bad when I pick her up not only for her but for the teachers and other babies. Today she wouldn't even hardly eat. She didn't eat any cereal and fruit, or her veggies for lunch and she only drank 2 8 ounze bottles all day.

One of the teachers questioned me today asking me if I'm sure she doesn't do this on the days she doesn't attend. I told them that she doesn't. She was very colicky up until 4 months old. She has since grown out of it. I don't know what to do. What if they tell me that they can't handle her and don't want her to attend. I do bring her to work with me 1/2 days on Tuesdays and Thursdays and she's fine. I mean she does have her moments but not hysterical.

The only thing that I can think of is that she is going through seperation anxiety. Maybe she is afraid of strangers. I am a single mom and it has just been her and I for 5 months. Then on Wed. and Fridays is when she goes to daycare. Does this sound like seperation anxiety? Will it ever get better? Has anyone else gone through this before? I am so upset. When I pick her up she is fine until bed time. Back to making noises and giggling and playing no problem.

I feel your pain. My son is a few days shy of turning 2 y/o and he's been in daycare since he was 9 weeks old. Its rough, especially knowing that your baby is upset without you. :(
But it will get better. This is only her 3rd week. It'll take time, but I'm sure she'll get adjusted just fine. I've also noticed, from seeing other children at my son's daycare, that the children who start daycare when they're older (as in, not newborns), they have a tougher time adjusting. My son and several other children in his room have been there since 6-9 weeks old and they all do fine. But I remember a couple of kids who started when they were around 6-7 months old and they had a hard time with the separation from their parents.

Its sad and hard to deal with, trust me- I know! But I'm sure it will get better as she gets adjusted and starts trusting the daycare teachers. And no, I doubt the daycare will kick her out just because of that! Not every child is a quiet angel. :P

I have worked in childcare for about 4 years total and trust me-all babies have a period of adjustment. I really don't think it's fair for the teachers to tell you she's miserable all day. What can you do about that? That's just making you feel lousy. I do agree with the mom who said to maybe take her in a little bit more to let her get used to the workers. Babies really don't have a sense of time so maybe an hour here and there while you run to the store. I f you're anything like me you're probably thinking if I'm home baby's home. But trust me a couple of hours pales in comparison to the parents I've run across in my years who dropped their kids off at 6am and picked them up at 6 pm wether they were working or not. Now that I have a hard time understanding. Hope all works out well for you and your baby!!

My dd is just a couple weeks older and we struggle with the same thing. I am a social worker so I should know better but I still get freaked out that by working I am causing her to develop attachment issues, etc. It is not the case though. Its just normal attachment and separation responses. One thing that has seemed to help a bit is to either leave her before she wakes up and have dh take her, or try to drop her while she is asleep (much easier said than done but it seems when she doesnt see me for the day, she forgets to want me :) I also agree with the other poster that taking her a bit more frequently will probably help. my dd is w/babysitter everyday and now after a few weeks, she is like her second mom. I also agree with the post that daycare should not even bring up her behavior, your baby is definately not the only one who does this and there is nothing to gain by making you worried about it. She will get better, she just loves her mommy!

Best of luck!