For the past couple of months I've been drinking a six pack of beer every night, seven days a week. I've noticed I haven't gone more than a day or two without drinking in months. Come Friday night and I really let it rip, it's the one night I drink more than a six beers. I feel I've become an alcoholic :confused:

Ask yourself this "can I get along without drinking".You have to find out wether the alchohol has taken over.Are you drinking because you want to or because you need to......Dave

He's right do you drink to get drunk if so you are. It's that simple AAA if you can walk away form the beer and say only drink on friday maybe but still why do you have to drink to have fun? Or do you? Good luck only you know the truth that lies within you.

To me, I'm drinking because I want do but maybe subconsciously I need to. Is the amount of alcohol I'm drinking excessive? It's weird because during the day I'm fine but come the night I feel I need it to relax me and put me at ease. Friday's are the only days I drink and get drunk, the rest of the time I don't get drunk I just relax.

Firehawk, I understand what you are saying. Mine has been going on longer though. I've been drinking wine to relax in the evenings. I've been doing it for two years. It started out with just one glass now I am on a bottle. I don't feel I have a physical craving for wine. It's all mental. It's a relaxation and treat at the end of the day. I never get drunk. I do know that eventually one bottle will become two. Today, I bought the wine and fruit juice mix. It's less alcohol than regular wine and still like a treat at the end of the day. I'm also going to try and cut out drinking everyday. (Just starting with one day this week, but will eventually make it to only on days when I don't work the next day w hich would usually be the weekends). I do know many people who drink daily and they function fine. I don't think your drinking is excessive even though it might be more than the average person drinks during a normal week. The problem is when it starts to increase. From my experience, I think you should cut back.

To me, I'm drinking because I want do but maybe subconsciously I need to. Is the amount of alcohol I'm drinking excessive? It's weird because during the day I'm fine but come the night I feel I need it to relax me and put me at ease. Friday's are the only days I drink and get drunk, the rest of the time I don't get drunk I just relax.

Hoping someone can answer my question. My husband drinks about 6-8oz of Bourbon nightly. Starts at 5:00 on the dot and when finished, eats dinner and falls asleep right away. This has been doing on for over 36 years. EVERY NIGHT......He is fine during the day. In the past he has drunk more than this and we've had terrible arguments over it. He has been verbally abusive and has physically threatend me a few times. He controls me with his temper and I am terrified of him but also very dependent on him financially as we are retired......Our son won't call past 6:00pm and if he does won't talk with his dad.....My parents were alcoholics, my sister is a recovered alcoholic and my brother died from alcoholism at age 57. My husband's parents were alcoholics as well. I don't drink and never have. I HATE being around it......
Question - Am I right is assuming my husband IS an alcoholic, even though he is fine during the day and seems healthy as a horse.....His demeanor changes when he drinks. I left him last summer after he threaten me and threw things at me. I down to our winter home in Fla. First thing he said was "I am not going to quit drinking. It relaxes me and I am NOT an alcoholic". My leaving didn't seem to make any difference. The alcohol has changed our relationship over the years and we live like strangers.....I have no respect for him. Maybe I am over reacting since his drinking isn't an all day thing and hasn't caused any legal or monetary problems....Just don't understand how someone can drink like this everyday for so long and basically be A-OK.....

Any thoughts?
"Fed up"

if it's costs you more that money, then you have a problem. If you have a problem and start to think about things, allow this honesty and awareness to grow and you'll start to see more things; this is the best you can do for now. It's not much help for another to brand you an Alcoholic, although if at any point you have a desire to stop drinking, you'd be welcome to visit an AA meeting and listern to what's been said (without talking yourself,) that's the only requirment to go to an AA meeting, ie you don't have to been an actual Alcoholic, although it's only Alcoholics who would attend in the long run, of course.....

Stitcher 317; In my case, I don’t' get violent, matter of fact it puts me in a more "happy" mood and if anything I'm nicer than I normally am. I question the amount of alcohol I'm drinking because I'm worried that it'll have more of a negative physical effect rather than me changing to a threatening or violent mood. In my opinion anyone who's mood changes for the worst (specially a threatening one) due to alcohol DOES has a problem and I don't think you're over reacting. As far as getting help for him, I'm sure they're a lot of knowledgeable people in this forum that can provide excellent advise.

The problem is when it starts to increase. From my experience, I think you should cut back.

You're right, lately it seems a six pack isn't enough anymore and it'll probably lead to an increasing amount. I'm going to do my best to leave it for the weekend. Although, I've notice that every time I try and cut down I always have some sort of bad influence. I'm constantly being invited to events where there is alcohol present. The last time I tried to stop cold turkey I noticed a lot of my friends became very distant! When I invite them to exercise they decline, but as soon as I mention a beer they're at my front door!! Much harder to find a workout buddy than a drinking buddy, sucks :(

Just my opinion: I had a severe problem with heavy beer drinking a few yrs ago, due to a live in "friend" alchohlic. I had to move to get in a better environment. I find no problem with needing to drink during the day, activities etc. but when things get "stressed" or just want to relax, yes I go for a few beers. But not everyone can just "control" it. For me, I have a mind set and even though there is plenty of beer available I refuse to ever go over 6. To make sure I line them up to count. I also know I can not drink other types of alcohol, bad reactions. So, if one has no control it is a problem. Also alcohol effects you at differnet times, like if your in a bad mood, makes it worse, sad, worse, happy maybe alittle happiere and so on. It is a drug. Plus, no driving!!!!

personally i drink about 4 nights a week, on the weekends i seem to get really drunk coz its the weekend, but i dont think its harming anyone but myself.

so i dont see it at such a huge problem...maybe if drinking causes violent personality changes, i would say quit, but if not i would say, if you are really concerned, for your own health, try reducing the number of days per week that you drink...

if you feel you really need to relax at night buy some sleeping tablets, take 2 at around 7 pm, then by 8 you are so relaxed you pass out, without being drunk.

My parents both drink every night. It has never once caused any type of problem and they are not alcoholics. They don't drink during the day and they don't get drunk. Drinking every night does not mean that you have a problem.

6-8oz of bourbon is actually about 4-6 drinks. (1 drink is about 1.4 oz) I know many people who do this and have not had problems. Here is a brief list of things that happen to people who have a problem when they drinK...in general, just be wary if they "don't drink well"

-major personality or mood changes
-not remembering things in the morning
-the need to get drunk every time they drink (never just a few casual drinks)