I hate my Job. I work in a very wealthy company, my salary is very good. I hate be sitting in a cubicle all day long. My boss's cubicle is very close to mine, meaning that I have to watch out for my phone conversations and web visits.

I hate my job for 2 years now. I live in Miami where is very difficult to find a job where Spanish is not a requirement for any new position, I don’t speak Spanish.

I have a great experience and good resume. My problem is that I am stuck in a dead end job.

I can't quit, because I have two kids and my income is 'ESSENTIAL AND NECESSARY" to pay the bills. I don’t know what to do anymore, I am so lost!!!! I can’t quit, I am looking for something new...is taking forever to a change...It's been already 2 years of hope...

My husband is getting tired of me complaining everyday!!!

I am so sick of my life. Somedays I wish I were sick so I would not have to work! How sick is that!!!

I feel so miserable, depressed, hopeless, desperate, anxious, and anything more you can think of.

Anyone can help me? What should I do??

Hi--is moving an option at all? Some companies will pay for your relocation expenses. If you hate it that much, maybe there is some way your family can cut down the bills at home. YOU are the important thing here--jobs come and go, but your family can't replace you. There's definitely a way to change your situation for the better--just gotta keep looking for it. Good luck!

Hi Michelle; I can't be of much help to you, because I'm in the same situation, except without the husband and the kids. Could you perhaps take some comfort in the fact that you have a family, at least? (That's something I can only dream of having.)

Do you have insurance at work? Because, if you're depressed and can't take it anymore, you could go on disability. Your salary would be a bit smaller, but it would probably be better than going on like this, no?

Otherwise, keep looking for a new job. Something is bound to happen. Just don't stay there long enough for them to suck all the energy out of you so you end up too down and exhausted to even look for another job anymore.

I know you said you need your job, and I'm sorry to possibly offer a suggestion that you cannot use, but I understand how you feel and I'm speaking from my own experience. I recently lost my job. But I'm not upset. I had this job for over two years and I HATED it. I mean, I could barely drag myself out of bed in the morning sometimes. I have other issues in my life, but this job brought me down so much that it was causing me an extreme amount of mental anguish to the point where I would cry every day and call in sick and honestly, I stopped caring about it. And gradually, I stopped caring about everything in my life. Because when you work 40 hours a week someplace you hate, that's a lot of time and it can overshadow a lot of other things in your life that might otherwise be good. I suffer with depression as it is and I tried to kill myself because I thought I'd rather be dead than go to work anymore. Well, I'll stop rambling about myself. I know I was kind of an extreme case. My point, finally, is that it's NOT WORTH IT. I understand you can't just up and quit. I live on my own and have rent and bills and whatever as well. But if you are so miserable, you should TRY and find a way to take a leave, or, as someone said, go on disability. Whatever. You will feel so much better. Maybe you will find a new position if you have some time off to clear your mind. It will make a world of difference.

You guys know exactly what I am going thru and I appreciate your attention.
I am thinking about changing my life and today I will go to the Community College and get information about the Physician Assistant curriculum. I don’t know how I will afford it, but at least I will go there.

I can’t quit yet because I don’t want to put my family to financial difficulties just because "I" am unhappy! My husband cares a lot about his credit ratings, he always did. If I stop working, I would ruin it!

I look for jobs everyday and until now I was choosing the jobs that I would like more, so I would not end up in the same situation as I am now.

I need to reinforce my self daily! It's a task! A hard one…

I tried to get fired and my boss said that I was a great employee!!!
I tried very hard so I could get unemployment, didn't work yet...


Originally posted by slurpygood1:
I know you said you need your job, and I'm sorry to possibly offer a suggestion that you cannot use, but I understand how you feel and I'm speaking from my own experience. I recently lost my job. But I'm not upset. I had this job for over two years and I HATED it. I mean, I could barely drag myself out of bed in the morning sometimes. I have other issues in my life, but this job brought me down so much that it was causing me an extreme amount of mental anguish to the point where I would cry every day and call in sick and honestly, I stopped caring about it. And gradually, I stopped caring about everything in my life. Because when you work 40 hours a week someplace you hate, that's a lot of time and it can overshadow a lot of other things in your life that might otherwise be good. I suffer with depression as it is and I tried to kill myself because I thought I'd rather be dead than go to work anymore. Well, I'll stop rambling about myself. I know I was kind of an extreme case. My point, finally, is that it's NOT WORTH IT. I understand you can't just up and quit. I live on my own and have rent and bills and whatever as well. But if you are so miserable, you should TRY and find a way to take a leave, or, as someone said, go on disability. Whatever. You will feel so much better. Maybe you will find a new position if you have some time off to clear your mind. It will make a world of difference.

Is it possible to put in a small amount of money for yourself each time you get paid? Put in $50 or $100 per paycheck into your "future as you want to live it" savings account. This can give you some positive thoughts and feelings and give you hope for a better future.

You might want to rent the movie "Office Space".

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Definitely rent 'office space'---that movie was the only thing that kept my spirits up during my hellish stint at that job! It's a riot!!

Hello, just my 2 Cents! I can tell you you are not alone. I've been at my current job for 15 years, and even tho I have been constantly promoted to different positions, I honestly feel my last position has caused depression and anxiety on me. I Know I need to change Jobs in order to feel better, but I also have a Wife and two little Girls that need me. I can suggest perhaps looking into a different position withing the Company or Even Requesting a "Reasonable accomodation" of Some type based on the ADA. Oh well, all I can say is good luck to both of us, stay in touch, we will help each other get tru this! :'(

I hate making this a suggestion, but have you ever tried prozac &/or Paxil CR..? why do I hate making that a suggestion, well because these types of drugs are ssri's. They don't seem to always work for a lot of people and are sometimes more trouble than they are worth, however, IF they do work for you, your life will be a bit more bearable. And not that it was asked, but why am i taking the combination.. about 2 weeks ago, I wanted to put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger. Why? I haven't the slightest Idea, I know it is irrational to think about taking my own life, but at the moment it feels like the right thing to do... when this event happens I ask my doctor to change the meds. Does the doctor not care, and just pass me on with another pill and not try and find an underlying cause? no.. Why? There is no underlying cause.. It's a chemical imbalance. u don't believe that, neither did I till I found out the hard way, stop taking the AD and see just how messed up your life will become.. So for ANYONE who would like to stereotype a depressive person that it is believed that they have to be having an actual issue that is causing the depression.. I would suggest you do not.. I don't cry for no apparent reason anymore, and the world doesn't look like such a bad thing after all. If u STILL do not like the explanation, open your mind to the alternative.. medical science changes on a daily basis, what was true yesterday doesn't mean it will be worth much tomorrow. OK, that was abit off topic, are drugs the best way to deal with something? no. But between meds and death, which should I chose? If excersise or long walks, bike rides, whatever you fancy, whether alone or with someone. As for you, see if you can locate free assitance of a lawyer, and see if companies can legally discriminate against you because you do not speak another luanguage, last I checked the primary language for legal citizens of the US was american english.. I suggest the stubborn and the lazy learn it and use it.. U may call me a racist if u wish.. But for a person to be miserable in their own line of work and cannot seek an alternative language is c--p !!! Talk with a doctor and or find free legal assistance. Second, you have EVERY RIGHT To complain about your work and how bad it is, your husband needs to understand maybe he needs to see someone about that. If he won't listen find someone that will.. Don't keep it bottled up.. That marriage thing, you know, both partners equal isn't just a fantasy is it? Sorry, that was no help at all. (flames will be ignored) have a nice day http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

Hey guys, I rented the movie Office Space, I will watch tonight.
I started therapy last week. Its soon yet to analyze what I gained with the visit but I will ask her some kind of medication for the "pain" I am feeling. I went to the physician assistant advisement yesterday and seems that I am not close to go to school as I thought. First, the Community College where the course is available is in a very bad neighborhood in Downtown Miami and the place is dirty and "over used". Come on; spend thousand of dollars in a filthy college?

Miami is not for me...My husband loves his job and the kids love their friends in the neighborhood. My husband could start applying for jobs somewhere else, but I don’t want to be blamed in the future in case he doesn’t like his future job.

I am trying my best to get over it, seems do difficult almost impossible. Thank you all for the help I am getting here....Thanks.......

Michelle,

I sympathize with you. I work for a very large company and sit in a horrible gray cubicle all day - 5 days a week. I started this job about 2 years ago and have hated it ever since. I am a single mom and the sole provider for my family. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place (just as you probably do as well). I struggle with depression and restless leg syndrome - so not only am I unhappy at work, I'm uncomfortable as well. It's very hard to stay motivated and sometimes hard to just stay awake. I'd love to quit but haven't been able to find another job. I hope that things will get better on the employment front soon. In the meantime, I'm going to try and find something that makes me happy. A hobby, a part time job.....something. Maybe that would help you too. If you were able to find something to look forward to it might make the job that you hate a little more bearable. Good luck & I'll be thinking about you tomorrow when I sit in my dull gray box and wish I was somewhere else.

Ellen

Michelle,
I wish you the best of luck. I know how you feel. How did you like the movie? After I saw it, I went out and bought it. At the time, it was like the story of my life. I love that movie. I hope everything works out great for you!

Thank you elnkar. I know exactly how you feel; we are in the same boat. The only things we can do are continuing applying for other jobs until we find something new. We can’t quit; we can’t wake every morning happy about life. Even knowing that I have a healthy family seems impossible to consider good things I have as much as I hate the “bad”. If I knew that my life would change dramatically the day I accepted this job, I would never said Yes, I could go back in time….

We should just search and wait. Sometimes I feel like a bird in a cage ready to fly. On the other hand, I feel like a bird with no wings.


Thank you slurpygood1 I watched the movie last night and I loved. This movie shows us well what we go thru everyday. I was laughing since the beginning, specially the morning traffic scene, was hilarious, in top of seating in a cubicle all day, I need to fight the traffic sometimes 1 hour and a half. Usually takes me not less than 1 hour.

Well, today is Friday; my mood is a little bit better. Mondays are the worst, I cry like a child Sundays night, I think one more week…one more week.

Well I hope my situation will change soon.

Thanks!

Just an update, I am still sitting here aplying for jobs. I changed my resume, added somethings I do that were not there.

Nothing yet!!!

I am getting crazy.

I know what it feels like to be in a monetary bind which does not allow you to switch jobs as freely as one would like (aka the story of my life)

take it one day at a time...

I feel like I am not myself. I feel like I am being somebody else to justify the society.

We live our lifes doing what we hate, so we can pay our bills just enough to survive. ( and eventually eat fatty food in our free time)

Is that freedom?

Michelle,

Sounds like you are starting to do what I do... OVERTHINK...

We think too much and then we end up doing stuipid stuff and getting people all upset...

I know it all seems so BORING and drives you nuts, but you have to make the best of it...

no matter how hard it is...

i am depressed as hell right now myself, but, I am putting up the best fight ever!

Hang in there...

There's another movie called "Clockwatchers" that deals with the office cubicle situation. It's a lot more realistic than "Office Space", but also a lot more depressing as a result. But I've personally found that watching depressing movies makes me feel better. I guess it makes me realize that it could always be worse. It's very funny, but it's also sad because of how the office environment destroys people.

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That is so true. Everyday, I feel like the office sucks away another little piece of my soul. I never used to be a "clockwatcher" (yes, good movie!); but now, I'm always looking at the time and calculating how long I have left to suffer. I just don't care about my job or the company or most of my coworkers, and I can't fake it anymore.

And you'd think I'd be happy during the week-end; but no, I'm so tired from the stressful week that I get dizzy and weak and can't do anything. I don't know how long I can keep on doing this. I was going to nightschool and I had to drop out, because I can barely get up in the morning even when I go to bed early.

Sorry to ramble on, Michelle; I just wanted you to know that you are NOT alone. I hope we'll both get out of this soon!

As you can see, you are not alone. I hate my job also. I have been with one of the auto companies for 27 years. I am counting the months now as I will go at 30 years. I will say one thing, if you hate your job it will affect all areas of your life. I have had a problem with depression all my life and this job has made it worse. I have to much time to think.

What really bothers me though is friends and family who think I got it made. They just don't understand. They will say things like "you make good money" or "you have great benefits". What do you have to complain about. I just got trapped years ago and I got to the point where I just couldn't leave.

If somebody asked me on my death bed what is it about life I regretted most I would say staying at a job I hated. If you are young enough and you hate your job, find another one. Money and benefits are not everything. 27 months and counting.

I dont want to be as the many people as I see here that work in the company for 30 years and still do the cubicle job NO WAY!

I can't accept this life. I won't!!!
I will change my destiny.

I have to change my life. Mondays can not be that horrible, no way!

Michelle, I hope you'll make it and I wish the same for myself and everyone here. I hate my job so much that I did not sleep at all last night; the night between Sunday and Monday is always the worst, but it has to stop now before I make myself sick. That's my biggest fear: that putting up with that company and those jerks will eventually kill me in the end.

Crimson, I know exaclty How you feel, It's very sad that we need to carry our lives like that. The market is very bad now for jobs. Everyday I go to careerbuilder site and I always see the same jobs posts all over again. The good jobs are not easy to get.

Hang in there. Think that you are not the only one. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bouncing.gif

I feel like > http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/hammer.gif

I have a great job with decent benefits and good money.

But I hate it to death.

I think depression has caused me to hate it as well as office politics http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif

WORK SUX!

We should create I hate my job board http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/nono.gif

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this place is cool... i wish i could help michelle but i got practically the same thing going except im in high school... you probably have it worse than me though. Im new and just trying to meet people now and figure out how everything goes on here...

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"You dont need to bother, i dont need to be, I'll keep slipping farther, but once i hold on, I wont let go till it bleeds..." -Stone Sour

The day I find another job first I will come here to let you guys know. Second I will start laughing http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif and jumping http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bouncing.gif . It will be a start of a new life.

I wish I can do that soon.