I posted here a cpl weeks ago about my Dad... he was given 2-8 weeks to live and 5 weeks of that have already passed, and he is getting weaker by the day. Last night, he was in so much pain he was crying.. and he had plenty of morphine in him. A nurse was sent out in the middle of the night and she administered the emergency morphine kit to him. He has lost alot of weight, and he can barely breathe. As if that isnt enough.. two days ago, my mom was rushed to the hospital with chest pains. She thought she was having a heart attack, tho they said she had acid reflux disease. Well, she came home and we thought all was well, until this morning. We got a call from the hospital.. they wanted her to come down there right away. And they told her they found lung cancer in one of her tests. They are supposed to call her back with an appointment for a PET scan. For over a year now she has complained about swelling in her neck (and its physically noticable), and she feels like she cant breath when it swells up bad. She never would go get it checked out because she doesnt have insurance. So, now im sittin here thinking how could this be possible??? Its not bad enough I am losing my dad to this evil disease.. but now my mom has it too??? How unfair is that??

Honey, my heart breaks for you. I know how it is to have both parents gravely ill at the same time. I hope you will have plenty of help in caring for them. I will be praying for your family daily. Hang in there and do the best you can and let the Lord be with you each day. I believe it is in His hands now. It would be such a help to get Hospice involved. They are a great help and comfort. Keep us posted as often as possible. There are many loving and understanding people who come here. Love and prayers from Ky., Pat

It's totally unfair. Completely. I am so sorry that this is happening, and the only "good" part in that you are obviously your dad's advocate and will ensure he has the best care. As your mom's illness progresses, you'll be there for her too.

Please NOW find out what care is available that can help you help your parents. You must get rest, you must have assistance. Your doctor's office can be a good source of information. Please, you don't have to do this all on your own.

And, we will be here for you...

Wow you have just described what I am afraid may be happening to my family too. My mom has lung cancer but unlike your Dad she is a 22 month survivor so far.Last Wed we got a call from the urgent care doctor who saw my dad for chest pain over the weekend and decided it was muscle pain. He called Wed. to tell us he was going to schedule a CT as there is a bulge in my dad's lung. I posted more about it under my mom's CT results so will skip details here. Could be cancer could be lots of other things. He does not get the CT until May 12th so now it is wait and see.Anyway I know how you must be feeling so my heart goes out to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there and take care of yourself.We are all here if you need to just vent. Hugs JanMarie