Philly228
04-30-2006, 10:21 AM
Last time I think I was posting on here was around the end of last year. I was all freaked out because I'd just had rough sex with an old friend (first time I'd had sex in 3yrs) and the bottom edge opening of my vag. got split a little in two places. (ps - to remind you, I've been HSV2 since 2001, but had zero sexual partners except this friend - and I told him before we did anything)
Okay.. so this split - though only one little one this time - happened again in February (the next time we got together)..and to an even smaller extent last month once. - even though we got together 3x. OH.. and each time we've been together, I always checked down there real well to make sure nothing was going on - and I didn't feel anything going on either.
Besides the point that I'm wondering if we're moving beyond 'friends' now - that's a different post sometime - ...I'm wondering if this skin split is JUST because I'm getting older and maybe my skin isn't as tough as it used to be.. or if this split (in the same spot) is how I get an ob.
My first ob was a small blister in the "tween" space.. and any other time it was (once) a small red tingly bump that didn't progress on one side of my outer labia, and 2x it was a half-dollar (ouch) spot on my butt cheek - - like right where the bottom of your hip bone sits on a chair. Those were painful. I really haven't had many outbreaks and I'm not on suppressive therapy - though I do have a script for Valtrex when I need it.
I have told him time and time again that the only truly safe sex with me is NOT to have sex. He has apparently rationalized the risk...especially recently - you know? We are as careful as possible.. we use condoms, and I "throw" him in the shower immediately afterward. We snuggle after the shower.. I love that part too. <wink>
All that said...yesterday after NO CONTACT with him or even really myself (no penetration)- though I did ..uh... pleasure myself in the shower (embarrassed).. I noticed that same dam* little split. This really worried me. I did that early in the afternoon and didn't see the spot until later last night. What the he**? I am almost 37 and I know my hormones are changing...plus I'm on a/bs for a UTI (lovely, eh?) and I just started taking the pill for backup bc. Until last night, I was almost 100% positive that little split was from our activities...but that doesn't explain the thing last night.
The split has always heals really quickly and never really gets red like a blistery ob does. The last time I got a "real" outbreak where I had no question what it was was in January - the kind on my butt cheek.
We've all read about skin cuts, etc ..but there isn't a lot of discussion about that to read about. Do you ladies have an opinion about this?
Thanks!
P.S. Added info is that I'm a cyclist (road bike) and yesterday, I rode about 2hrs. I wear the proper shorts (padded, you know?), but no undies that you'd think would chafe.
Okay.. so this split - though only one little one this time - happened again in February (the next time we got together)..and to an even smaller extent last month once. - even though we got together 3x. OH.. and each time we've been together, I always checked down there real well to make sure nothing was going on - and I didn't feel anything going on either.
Besides the point that I'm wondering if we're moving beyond 'friends' now - that's a different post sometime - ...I'm wondering if this skin split is JUST because I'm getting older and maybe my skin isn't as tough as it used to be.. or if this split (in the same spot) is how I get an ob.
My first ob was a small blister in the "tween" space.. and any other time it was (once) a small red tingly bump that didn't progress on one side of my outer labia, and 2x it was a half-dollar (ouch) spot on my butt cheek - - like right where the bottom of your hip bone sits on a chair. Those were painful. I really haven't had many outbreaks and I'm not on suppressive therapy - though I do have a script for Valtrex when I need it.
I have told him time and time again that the only truly safe sex with me is NOT to have sex. He has apparently rationalized the risk...especially recently - you know? We are as careful as possible.. we use condoms, and I "throw" him in the shower immediately afterward. We snuggle after the shower.. I love that part too. <wink>
All that said...yesterday after NO CONTACT with him or even really myself (no penetration)- though I did ..uh... pleasure myself in the shower (embarrassed).. I noticed that same dam* little split. This really worried me. I did that early in the afternoon and didn't see the spot until later last night. What the he**? I am almost 37 and I know my hormones are changing...plus I'm on a/bs for a UTI (lovely, eh?) and I just started taking the pill for backup bc. Until last night, I was almost 100% positive that little split was from our activities...but that doesn't explain the thing last night.
The split has always heals really quickly and never really gets red like a blistery ob does. The last time I got a "real" outbreak where I had no question what it was was in January - the kind on my butt cheek.
We've all read about skin cuts, etc ..but there isn't a lot of discussion about that to read about. Do you ladies have an opinion about this?
Thanks!
P.S. Added info is that I'm a cyclist (road bike) and yesterday, I rode about 2hrs. I wear the proper shorts (padded, you know?), but no undies that you'd think would chafe.