Ok so who didn't wait the full 6 weeks? As of yesterday I am 4 weeks pp and I don't really want to wait another 2 weeks. I can't wait to get the first time over with. I am so nervous about it. I thought I read somewhere that if you are no longer bleeding you are good to go. I did have 3 stitches but they are supposed to dissolve in the first 10 to 14 days. So is it really so important to wait the full 6 weeks?

Erin

I had I think 5 stitches, with my first, and I waited about four weeks. It really wasn't that painful, take it really really slow, and use lots of lube!!

I didn't have any stitches ar tears and I stopped bleeding at 3 weeks so right at 4 weeks we did it. It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought. We did wait a little while before doing it again not sure why, I think I wasn't emotionally ready, I was tired...

I waited until 4 pp and that was it. I wanted to have normal sex again, having sex when pg was horrible. It went okay except we didn't have any lube on hand and that is a must. After time the need for lube goes away but the first few times you will want it.

I didnt wait either

I didn't wait after the 1st baby. My dr just said no sex for 6 weeks but if you do just use a condom!!! We did it hurt waited longer. They aked if I did and I said yes guilty like and with a quick reply she said not to worry everyone does. With my 2nd I waited 3 MONTHS!! Poor hubby but I didn't want to be a liar when I said I would never have sex again while I was in labor ,LOL.

We "tested the water" at 3 weeks, but did not have sex until 4 weeks PP. I also had stiches, although not sure how many. It hurt a lot for the first 5-6 times, even with lubricant. I just endured the pain, and it eventually got better. It also helps if you are the one controlling the movements and not him. That way you can stop if it hurts.

I didn't wait at all :) I think it was two weeks? I had a few stitches, but I healed pretty quickly. Just be careful with birth control, because you are SUPER fertile after you have a baby.

i only waited 2 weeks, but i had a normal vaginal delivery, no stiches or anything

11 days but then i did have a c section, then i waited another 3 weeks as i started to bleed again after having stopped for a day :confused:

I had lots of stitches, because my episiotomy ripped into a 3rd degree laceration. I went back to the Dr 3 weeks pp and my stitches had all disssolved. We tested it out at 4 weeks, but no way. And again at 6 weeks, still not comfortable. Each time it got a little better. By about 4 months after, everything was pretty much normal and we didn't need a KY bottle.

I say do whatever feels comfortable, but be careful unless you want kids 9 months apart. Trust me you don't. I have a 9 month old and no way would I want a newborn right now!

With my first I needed a third degree episiotomy and it was very sore for a long time. At my 6 week appt I got the go ahead and we tried that evening. It lasted maybe a minute and I said we had to stop. Two nights later we tried again and it actually worked and I was more relaxed. (Hint: use condoms or you may have another surprise on the way!).
This time I didn't need an episiotomy and I didn't tear or rip at all so at 6 days postpartum I'm already awaiting the moment we can get back at it! lol.
Watching my dh work out and feeling as good as I do is making it really hard to wait just the 4 weeks!!!

Ok, kudos to Weepy for doing it at 11 days! Did I read that right? 1 days after a C-Section?! Wow, I can't believe you didn't rip your incision.

For my DH and me, it was different after each baby. We decided it would be best when we both felt ready and comfortable. After our 3rd baby, it was DH who wasn't ready until about 2 months after.

If you drink at all, I highly recommend a few glasses of wine ahead of time and someone who will watch the baby out of the house (or you and DH go out of the house).

Have fun! If you psyche yourself up that it's "going to hurt" it will. If you relax and do all you can to have a good time and connect w/your DH, it may still hurt, but not as much.