Hello -

My little angel has been driving me nuts (she is 13 weeks) and has been (for the past two weeks) going to bed on her own schedule at 7-730pm and then waking up at midnight and 4am and then 7am ..... ugh. HELP!!

I don't mind that she settles in for an early bed time - but I would rather she skip that midnight feed! SOOOOO my question is... is it OK in your opinions to wake her at say 945 - 10pm at night to feed her and try to reset her clock a little?

That way she would eat at 7pm, 10pm 3am, 7am... ish??? I don't wake her in the mornings etc. - I have always let her wake, eat on her own schedule - but this is killing me.

Thanks for all of your opinions!! :yawn:

I've started waking DS up between 9 and 10 for a feeding instead of him waking up at midnight also. I just started doing it the past few nites and so far it has worked GREAT. This morning, he didn't wake till 4am when usually it's awake at 12 then awake at 230 or 3... I plan on doing this as long as it works!

With my first we set his schedule for him to be convenient for us. We still do this and I never got more sleep in my life than when my little guy was 4 weeks on! I highly recommend getting her on a schedule that suits you sooner than later or you will have some hard habits to break later on. The more set they are on a pattern/schedule the harder to get them to change.
I personally think it's perfectly okay to do what you have to to get the result you are more comfortable with! Just remember gradual is better than a sudden change when it comes to babies.
Good luck! :)

soontobemommy - how old is your little one? mine is 13 weeks....

I agree about waking up baby to eat. That was recommended to me by both the Ped and Lactation Consultant. I got lucky and never had to do it...but I certainly would have if my DD's internal clock needed a little tweaking.

If you want to change bedtimes, feedings, etc. you can easily adjust the time by 10-15 minute increments each day until you get to the desired bedtime or whatever time you're trying to change. That worked for me when I changed DD's bedtime at 4 monts old, and DD didn't even know what was going on.

Friday- he is 7 weeks

I am different, I did not have set feeding schedules for either of my kids, and they both settled into there own schedules, that suited me fine, they both deleted nighttime feedings one at a time, my ds is 9 months old now, does not eat at night, has a bottle before bed, goes to bed, by 830 ish, and sleeps through til 730-8 ish, sometimes earlier, sometimes he wakes during the night, I go in, give him his sucky toy and right back to sleep he goes.

I think it is fine what you want to do, I just didn't have to. good luck

well i didn't get to try it last night - once again for the second night in a row - she went down hard / out cold at 730pm - and then awake at 8pm on her own only to be over tired and fussy and so I fed her a little more around 9pm because she was out of hand and she drank a little - and went to sleep at 10pm - which was the goal anyway - but she was UP from 530-10pm pretty much... and up all day long - only would sleep about 45 min. each time - she went to sleep - OH god I am so exahausted.

I hope she is better today - but doesn't seem to be - I put her down at 845am - and she was up at 915am - laid in her crib till 945am then started crying.... help....

It sounds like she is going through a growth spurt. Hopefully things will settle a bit in a few days.

Hey Rebbie - she just went thru a growth spurt about 10 days ago - and straightened out for a few days - then hubby went away again on business... do you think a 13 week old can tell when hubby is gone???? because she is terrible when he is gone... makes it hard on me - .... terrible meaning the schedule I posted above..... she used to sleep so well during the day - and such - be up for 1.5 hours down for 2 etc. - when he is gone its madness....

maybe if you fiil up baby in the day by increasing the amount of fedd she will sleep through ds is now on 6 ounces but does not finish the whole bottle yet but has a feed every 3 to 4 hours and he now sleps from 8pm till 4am then after tis feed sleeps till 7 or 8 am however he is almost 9 weeks and is just over 12 pounds in weight. i read once ababy reaches 11 pounds their body does not actually need to ne fed in the night so heres hoping ds drops his 4 am feed soon himself. i am considering reducing slowly the amount i give him at this feed as i read this sometimes helps them learn to not need the middle of the night feed.

I just read that toooo! and bless your little one for sleeping so well at 9weeks!!! mine is 14 weeks tomorrow and is up every 4 hours at night and she is NOT breastfed... OK I will try to load her up every day during the day -

Last night I increased her last feed (in the ounces) and went down 1 ounce at midnight feed and the 4am feed - she is now sleeping 5 hours.... after the 4 am feed.

so today I will increase her ounces during the day - and then decrease the midnight and 4am feeds. - thanks!! I will TRY just about anything - because I KNOW she can sleep longer - she used to sleep longer ---- !!!!!!! and this can't be a growth spurt AGAIN - she literally just had one.

My DD is 10 weeks old.

Depending on the day (for her bath on Tuesdays and Fridays) she will have her bath, a story and will bf and have a 4 oz. bottle at 8:30 pm, fall asleep on DH until he puts her in her crib at 9:30 pm and she will sleep until roughly 6:30 am or so.
When she wakes I will bf and give her another 4 oz. bottle if she wants it (which she always does) and she will fall asleep for another 2 hours. Then she will bf and have a 4 oz. every 3-4 hours after that...

We are now trying to get past the falling asleep on DH's chest and go straight to the crib after her night-time feeding. Hope it works, but of course DH doesn't mind...

Is it too soon to go to her having a bath every night?

Rochelle

I dont think its too soon to bathe her every night - they say if her skin becomes dry to just use the soap/shampoo less often (not every bath)...

You have an amazing daughter!!!!