Hi all.. i just joined up to this great site as i thought after reading through a few dozen posts, that someone may be able to help me.

around march last year, i contracted Herpes off a previous parter; this was when i was 17 and now im 18. i went to see a doctor, got those awefully painful swabs taken to test to see if it was herpes and it was. i got the tablets that they prescribed for me, and took them till i was halfway done with them. i stopped taking them and i never had another outbreak. the only time i did have an outbreak, was when i took one of the prescribed tablets about 4-5 months down the track. im just wondering if the doctor might of got the tests wrong? i havent had any sores or any symptoms resulting in herpes for over a year, as i said above, not even an outbreak.

my life recently hit an alltime high when i met the girl of my dreams. shes 17, myself, im 18. we have been going slowly and recently had un protected sex twice in the past 2 weeks(which was really stupid for me, ive been stressing for days on end). things went a bit rocky when she told me that she had herpes as well, and at the same time, i admitted i had it. she explained to me that she contracted it about the same time i did off an ex and since, has only had acouple of outbreaks.

from my current understanding, only way to contrac the herpes is from the puss from the sores. if the puss comes in contact with another partners bodily fluids, it is transmitted. is this true? are there any other ways to contract it?

i have slept with 4-5 people since i found out, and they have no contracted it; mainly for the fact that i was going on the information above.

my question to you very considerate people is, what are the chances of an outbreak if both partners have herpes? if both have herpes, does it cancel out the fact of having an outbreak?

since she has told me, ive been really thinking about myself and when i found out i had herpes, but it seems a bit weird that ive never had an outbreak.. is there any cure out there as of late? or any in testing?

thanks and i hope you can help me out :)

-Josh

from my current understanding, only way to contrac the herpes is from the puss from the sores. if the puss comes in contact with another partners bodily fluids, it is transmitted. is this true? are there any other ways to contract it?

i have slept with 4-5 people since i found out, and they have no contracted it; mainly for the fact that i was going on the information above.

my question to you very considerate people is, what are the chances of an outbreak if both partners have herpes? if both have herpes, does it cancel out the fact of having an outbreak?


You can contract herpes from skin to skin contact, not just the sores, however active sores are more contagious. If you've slept with 4-5 people since contracting this virus, then it is possible that at least one of them caught it from you...and also very possible that they wouldnt tell you if they did. Ultimately you can't assume that you're not passing it on, many people show no symptoms. Lastly, if both partners have herpes, it's not going to make any difference in the amout or severity of the outbreaks. Your outbreaks are dependant on your body, and how your body handles the virus.

You can contract herpes from skin to skin contact, not just the sores, however active sores are more contagious. If you've slept with 4-5 people since contracting this virus, then it is possible that at least one of them caught it from you...and also very possible that they wouldnt tell you if they did. Ultimately you can't assume that you're not passing it on, many people show no symptoms. Lastly, if both partners have herpes, it's not going to make any difference in the amout or severity of the outbreaks. Your outbreaks are dependant on your body, and how your body handles the virus.

hey braizzle; thanks for your reply.

it has played over my head that at least one of my partners could of contracted the virus. isnt a good thing to think about over and over in your head and not talk about it hey?

ive got a motto(or saying really): if i have an outbreak, to not let anyone near the sores :nono: would that be a fairly good motto? lol

and i just figured out i have Type 2 Herpes, if that makes a difference.

what are the chances of it actually dissapearing for good? as i havent had a proper outbreak.?

thanks :)

OK, I'm trying to figure out what you mean that you never had an outbreak or a "proper outbreak" but you say you had a swab done. If you didn't have an OB then what did they swab? An OB can be one sore and nothing more...that IS an OB! Just be thankful that is all you've had and it may be all you will ever have. In all actuality, that is the more normal way of herpes than what some of us are having with the one OB after another. It's also very typical to have it bad at first and then the virus kinda burns itself out. The fact of the matter is that many people that have the herpes virus in their bodies have never had an OB and don't even know it. If you happen to pay attention to the Valtex commercials, you will hear them saying that 70% of the people that contract herpes say that the person they got it from was experiencing no symptoms of herpes. That is calls shedding and it's when you are contagious but there is no sore. There is no way of knowing if you are shedding or not!

If you and your partner both have hsv 2 than there's really no reason to worry about spreading it although it is very possible for you to spread it to your face or to her face through oral sex. This happened to my BF, he gave be genital herpes through a genital lesion but he then spread it to his face from oral sex. Just be careful to not have oral sex if there is any sign of a sore or if she feels an OB coming on or if you feel one coming on. Also, it's always a good idea to wash up with soap and water afterwards because there is a chance to spread it to other parts of your body...a small chance but it could happen. This doesn't mean that she/you gave it back to the other person(if you have it you have it) because you can even spread it to yourself by touching an open sore and then touching another part of you body...I believe that this is more likely to happen when the virus is newly introduced to your body. All I can tell you is that my BF has had genital herpes for probably 30 years and after we had oral sex and I was not yet aware that what I had was a herpes OB because I was just at the feeling like a bladder infection stage, he had oral sex with me and right afterwards(a couple days) his whole face around his mouth broke out in sores...he said that he had never had anything like that before happen even though he has had fever blisters his whole life. Since then he always washes his face afterwards with soap and water. Don't use like soft soap because it can burn your skin if your face is sensitive.

If you are going to continue to have sex with others, the right thing to do is always tell them first before you have sex but I don't think that most people actually do the right thing so at the very least always wear a condom. You should wear a condom anyway because there are worse things out there than herpes that you can catch. AIDS is still a threat just because we don't hear about it as much anymore, it's still alive and well! Just because noone has accused you of giving them herpes doesn't mean that you haven't given it to anyone. First of all if they have an OB and they are sexually active, they wouldn't know who they got it from. They may have an OB years later and think their BF(or someone else) gave it to them...that's another thing about herpes, you can actually have it for years without knowing it and then all of a sudden out of the blue you have an OB.

thanks keepsgoin :) you have helped me understand heaps.

when i say i havent had a proper outbreak, i mean that i had the first outbreak that showed signs that i contracted herpes, and since then, i havent had another one.

and after reading these forums, i am greatful that i havent actually had more outbreaks as they sound hard to deal with.

is it possible for herpes to burn out? im not sure i read that right.

and i do regularly use condoms; with this latest girl, who ive know for a fair long time, we dont feel the need. but i still put it on her for me to use one :)

thanks

-Josh

I have read on many occasion that herpes may burn itself out...I think that means it just stops being active. That doesn't mean that you don't still have the virus in your system...so far there isn't anything that will cure herpes and kill it...it's just too weak to cause an outbreak.