my son poops in his pant all the time he will not go to the toliet at all I have caught him standing by the chair or by a tree or anywhere includin g school pooping in his pants we have tried everfything possible the doctor says he is lazy and doesnt want to take the time to go but he knows when he needs to go he simply will noy go to the toliet to poop however he will go to pee he is going to be 8 and we have to put pullups on him I am at a loss please someone or someone find so meone to help me with him I love him and he is just making it so hard on hisself aand us Thank you for any help you can provide thanks :)

Hum, how has he re-acted when you left it on him for a while? Assumming that he's a normal kid as the doctor seem to think. When he's not at school, I would try leaving it on him. If he doesn't like being dirty, he will soon get the message. :bouncing:

he wears it all day and it smells and he does not care :wave:

Your son needs loving attention from his parents other than about his poop in pants. He may require the extra mile needed to feel he is truly loved and cared for.

Kids will get attention even if it is negative attention. This may or may not apply to your son, but, would be worthwhile to stop and think about how much positive attention he recieves every day. If a kid is good, it is easy to just go on with life and not say anything, when in reality they need to be praised for being good and not just punished when they are not.

When both parents work all day, pick up the child from daycare, grab a quick bite to eat, crash for a few minutes, bath, to bed, the child does not get much attention from his/her parents. Children love to be loved. I see this happening to one of my grandchildren (age 3). He will not go to the bathroom at home to poop, but, goes to the bathroom at daycare. He has also had a move and change in daycare this past year, in fact, had to change daycare ,was a too cold atmosphere for him, he was accustomed to a warm loving atmosphere.

This also happens when there are younger children at home requiring extra attention, the older child does not recieve his fair share and rebels.

what about a summer camp later this year? If he can't listen to you, let the camping environment and condition 'teach' him how to stop being lazy...

good luck!

cheers,
nina
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Oh boy. Please do not think your child is lazy. Do not think he doesn't care. But do believe he doesn't smell himself. Look up everything you can find on soiling and encopresis and see if any of this fits him.

It seems your child suffers from constipation and the soiling comes from poop leaking around the impaction. He does not feel he needs to go, nor does he smell the accident. In some cases he won't even feel the poop in his pants. I know this is really hard to believe. I have a 8 year old daughter with this problem and even though I think we deal with it all rather effectively after 4 years of trial and error, I still have days that I can't believe she decided to poop in her pants insteasd of using the bathroom...

I would take your son to a pedicatrician and demand an X-ray to see if there is any impaction or any sign of megacolon. If either is present ask to go see a pediatric gastro enterologist.

A promise for summercamp is he stops soiling, or the threat you will takeaway toys if he soils is only going to lead to heartbreak and lots of stress and frustration (I know, because I have been there and done that!).

Again, look up soiling, constipation, encopresis, megacolon etc and see if any of the symptoms fit him!

Look luck and please post again and let us know what you will do!
PS There is a messageboard that exclusively deals with encopresis, but I am not sure I am allowed to mention it here...

Karen

Thank you so muck KAREN YOU ARE VERY CARING AND CERY HELPFUL I WILL CHECK THE INFO YOU GAVE ME AND LET YOU ALL KNOW THE OUTCOME THAANK :bouncing: