Hello I was wondering first I will say my dh father is in his middle 60's is is around 400pounds. he had diabetes.
he is in really bad shape cant walk get up to go to the bathroom ect. basically he has to have his wife take care of him like a baby.


what I am wondering is what are the signs of the end I mean he has VERY high sugar like in the 600 range he is starting to talk out of his head and jerk arouind in his sleep. he needs full time care and his legs are black they have been for a while now and his feet are so bad that they think he may be getting gang green in one of them.

we are worried that he may pass on soon and I was wondering are these signs of it? since he is getting worse. he really needs to go to a nursing home but we havent decided yet what to do.

just wondering if we should prepare ourselves for the worse now.

thanks

He needs to be in the hospital with good medical care.

Yes, this could be close to the end for him, however, he may lose his legs and continue to live for a long time.

Talking out of his head is most likely due to too high blood sugar.

Best to get medical care for him now.

Why has he been allowed to go this long without proper medical care?

Well he goes to the doctors regulary but as far as a full time nurse or care for him he wont allow it his wife is older also and feels bad for him we know he has just given up. but now she is getting to the opoint where she cant take care of him. it is killing her too.

thanks for your response

There is no reason for blood sugar to be so out of control. Modern medicine can do great things, but the patient needs to take some responsibility for his own diet and care. I truly hope that he and his wife get help. Something is wrong either in his diet or his medication. Perhaps you should talk with his doctors. He may have to have amputations. However, with good care and proper diet, he may live for years. Losing limbs is not the end of the world, but not following your doctors advice on diet, exercise and medications is slow suicide for a diabetic.
Jody

he is so bad the meds arent working that great anymore and he will NOT eat right or exercise. I know he needs to but we cant really force him. thats why im wondering if the end is near. he has given up and doesnt care anymore.

Honey, if he will not eat right, take care of himself in any way, I would definitely say the poor man will not last long, especially at his weight. The terrible burden he is putting on his wife cannot be easy to watch! At this point I think you would do well to give your Mother all the support and help you can to preserve her health. Sharon

If he is confined to bed and cannot do anything for himself, then somebody else is preparing his food and bringing it to him. If I were his wife, I would tell him that I would not help him kill himself with a bad diet. I would only bring him appropriate foods in appropriate amounts. It is impossible for diabetes medications to work if a person has an inappropriate diet. I feel sorry for this man, but he must make an effort to care for himself. Anybody that helps him overeat or eat inappropriates things is not doing him any favors. It is sad and unfortunate that he is slowly killing himself, but it is cruel that he is not trying to help himself for the sake of his family. I am sorry if this sounds mean. I hope that you convince him to try. He is the only one that can save himself in the end.
Jody

No JODY you dont sound mean I agree with you and SHARONLEE totally on this. it isnt easy to watch. luvkly we live 4 hours away but its not easy to see my dhs mother go through this either.
I agree she should only bring him the right foods and amounts but he makes her feel bad for him. its a sad situation.

thanks for all the advice its helped alot. We have come to the decision we are going to have a long talk with his mother and hope for the best but expect the worst.