my little girl is 6 she was recently dignosed with epelepsy and was in a main streem school as they couldnt cope with her she has been moved to a special school they are now saying she needs to see a sycaitrist the teacher said to us we can not phisicly say your child has adhd but she needs to be on medication,
from the age of 18 months i used to say to my family there is somethink wrong with her but no one would listen to me i have felt alone all these years its heart breaking for my little girl she wont get invited on trips or to partys but yet her 8 year old sister and 3 year old brother do i feel that when we go to visit people they thing oh no here she is and the kids hide there toys.
when we go shopping its horendis she screams kicks and throws herself on the floor people look at her as if she is a spoilt brat but i no other wise,i shouldnt have to explaine to straingers what is up with my daughter we have started having problems at bed time she screems trashers the room she screams that hard that she goes bright red like a blood vesil is going to burst she doesnt listen to a word if you ask her to get somethink she brings the total oppersit
could any one give me any advise please :confused:

It could possibly be some as to ADHD, or even something as to ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder).

What are her social skills like? To both peers and adults?
How about her concentration?
Any impulsiveness?
Does she have any unusual behavior other than tantrums?
Does she not like to be touched? Or close to someone?
Does she have any learning difficulties?
Does she have trouble with senses; noises too loud, cloths hurt, lights too bright?

It might be a good idea to see a childrens pyschiatrist. It could be a range of things, and if she needs medications or therapy you don't want to jump into anything blind.

I can't say if she has ADHD, a conduct disorder, or even an Autistic disorder. But I can say that, if you think something may be wrong, and she is having difficulties with school, friends and home life, it would be a good idea to see a professional to seek help.

SGH

You won't know if your daughter has ADHD or ADD until she has been diagnosed by a Psychiatrist. There are a series of questions you will be asked. I think it's kind of horrible the school would tell you that your child NEEDS to be on medication. Alot of people don't believe in medication, what if you were one of them?

One thing I've noticed with children who are "hyper" (and I am very guilty of this) is if you treat your children like "bad" children (and I'm not saying you do this) other people will see them the same way. I am a "yeller" (my 15 yo was diagnosed with adhd when she was 8 and I was constantly yelling), nobody liked having us around, yet a friend of mine had a child with a (severe physical/mental disability who was more disruptive and her mother was calm and loving and just brought tears to the whole rooms' eyes watching how she handled every situation lovingly. I'm not saying we aren't supposed to yell at our kids, I only know I am VERY GUILTY and she taught me to see my mistakes. If I could have acted more like my friend I know others would have been more supportive.

On a different note, what you could do while visiting friends is carry a small bag of toys in the trunk of your car. Let your daughter have one special toy for herself and share the others with her "friends". Maybe that will encourage the other kids to share their toys with her.

I hope your daughter gets better and you find the right treatment plan for her. It sounds like her Mommy loves her alot so I'm sure she'll do just fine~!

Littlecherubs, my heart goes out to you. I would definitely take her to a child psychiatrist and maybe even an educational psychologist to get to the heart of the matter. I would also check with your pediatrician to see if you can get her tested for food allergies. It could be something simple or it could be something more complex that requires therapy and medication, but reach out to as many sources as possible to get the root of the problem. Don't leave any stone unturned until you find an answer. If you hit a road block with your doctors keep pushing and change doctors if necessary because this is your daughters health and emotional well being at stake. You have to advocate for her because she is probably just as torn up about all of this as you are...the little cutie. I wish you all the best and follow up to let us know your progress.

hi there thank you for your reply she does have learning difficulties she is 2 years behind she doesnt find making friends very easy as she has a speach problem and no one can realy understand her she has a very poor sleep pattern she could get 2 hours a night if were lucky she is so hyparactive from morning to night she is now starting to hurt her brother and sister she has no concantration and doesnt understand how to play she just breaks things i now its not her folt but it does get you down thank you for your reply

hi ther thank you for your responce i do tend to shout at her but she just laughs it off she doesnt understand she is doing wrong she just laughs an runs away all she says is ill be good she is seeing a psychiatrist in school on friday then we are having a meeting on the monday after there week off ill keep you informed all the way thank you again

hi there i do notice change in her behavior when she has sertin foods like mc donald or maze chrisp i also noticed this morning i gave her a bit of sugar on her weetabix an she changed so kwick started throwing shoes at me and getting herself back undressed i try to reward her when the school says she has been good like today i bought her a kitten as the school have had no fighting with the other children and she has sat at dinner time she loved the kitten so maybee she will like being rewarded and be good she realy doesnt under stand though she thinks she is good all the time i feel realy sorry for her and it is very tiring but i wouldnt change her for the world thank you for the reply they are all a great help

hi there thank you for your reply she does have learning difficulties she is 2 years behind she doesnt find making friends very easy as she has a speach problem and no one can realy understand her she has a very poor sleep pattern she could get 2 hours a night if were lucky she is so hyparactive from morning to night she is now starting to hurt her brother and sister she has no concantration and doesnt understand how to play she just breaks things i now its not her folt but it does get you down thank you for your reply


Maybe it's Autism and or sensory intergration disorder. I mean no kid is Bad, they just can't always control their own little body or emotions. You have known all along something was wrong. Go with your gut!
Good Luck :)

hi ther thank you for your responce i do tend to shout at her but she just laughs it off she doesnt understand she is doing wrong she just laughs an runs away all she says is ill be good she is seeing a psychiatrist in school on friday then we are having a meeting on the monday after there week off ill keep you informed all the way thank you again

That is great littlecherubs, I hope they help you find some answers. It is so heartbreaking for a parent to see their child suffer, but you are taking the necessary steps to find out the problem and get it under control. Good luck with the psychiatrist. I look forward to hearing your progress.