Our 6 yo son's Circumcision doesn't look right, Its as if his "thingy" hides all the time. I've asked the Dr. about it several times over the years and he assured me it was done properly....The reason I am asking this NOW is we just had boy and girl twins. Our 7 week old son's "thingy" looks like my husbands NO extra skin.

Then yesterday at a family reunion I was talking to my cousin as she was changing her 2 year old son and his "thingy" was SO much bigger than our 6 year olds. Hubby and I had talked (several years ago) about how we thought it had stopped growing.

I feel like such an idiot talking about this, But I don't know how to talk to the Dr. about it, and wondered if anyone else's child had this problem

I am going to ask the Dr. again when I take him in June for his check up, I am going to take my neice with us and have her to take him out while I talk to the Dr. I don't want him to think there is something wrong with him. :-(

I am so glad you asked this, as I have the same concerns for my stepson. He is 10.5 years old, I've been his stepmom since he was 3 and I swear to you it has not grown in this time. If anything it looks smaller now because the rest of his body has grown, but his "thingy" hasn't. I know it may sound wierd that I know what my stepson's "thingy" looks like at this age, but he has encopresis which is severe constipation and we have to look in the toilet before he flushes to make sure he is passing stool and that it's not too firm. His also looks like it's hiding all of the time, it never pokes out. His is very tiny. My 4 year old was born with a bigger "thingy" than my stepson has now, and my 4 yr old's has continues to grow as he has, this is the same with my 6 month old, his is bigger than the 10.5 year old's. And their's look like they're poking out all of the time, they never hide. (Their foreskin never comes over the tip) I have tried to talk to my husband about this several times, but he takes it as a blow to his pride for one of his sons to be "small". (silly, huh?) I am looking forward to reading any and all replies to this post. I hope it's nothing serious. Like in your case, the drs have never said anything negative about it. My best friend's son is 14 months old and he has the same problem, but his looks like the foreskin has reattached around the rim. You can't poke it out even if you try. When I used to bathe my stepson when he was 3 and 4 I would push his foreskin back to clean it and it always moved freely, so I don't think that's the problem. ???? It's very puzzling and troublesome. Thanks again for posting this, hopefully we'll get some answers. :) Take care!!

Brandy

This can be due to an impropper cirumcision or a number of other reasons. A friend of mine has a son who has this. You really cannot see his penis at all. But with him if you push on the fat pad that is around it the penis will come out a bit more. Check out some info about "hidden penis" it is a medical condition. Most liely the penis is there, but something is preventing it from coming out of the body in a flacid state.

Hope this helps a bit. The boy I knew ended up have his surgery redone at about 3 years of age, but I do not know what the end result was as it too is a very sensitive subject for the parents to talk about.

Wheeeeeew....I didn't know if I would get any responses to this, I felt like a pervert for talking about it in public forum.

I know this sounds awful but I'm relieved to know that we are not alone in our concern. I was thinking maybe this was so abnormal that no one would know what I was talking about.

Ausomemom I can completely relate I'm thinking our son will be the same way at 10 yrs old. Our son has always been a very sensitive child when it comes to his feelings (he gets that from me) I'm afraid when he gets older he will feel like there is something wrong with him. The first time he saw us change our 7 week old daughter he said "Look mommy she's like me, her pee pee hasn't come down either" I explained to him God made us all different.

My husband has said from the time our son was an infant that he would have trouble with it, I explained to hubby that Dr. said it was ok and that I didn't know what else to do about it. Our pedi. is so lacks about every thing I'm thinking about changing Dr.s

Keira that is the way our son is you can push the skin back and it will come out some. Thanks for the info on hidden penis, I will be looking this up on the internet

Hidden penis can very, very rarely be a congenital condition. Far more often, it happens because the surgeon removed shaft skin in addition to his foreskin.
The incision line constricts upon healing, burying the penis by pushing it downward into the pubic fat.
The surgical correction of a buried penis depends on the abnormality. A marked improvement can seen in most people by removing excessive pubic fat and sewing down the overlying skin of the pubis and scrotum to the erectile bodies. Occasionally, skin grafts are necessary if too much skin was removed by a previously excessive circumcision.
Please, don't ever feel like a pervert for asking a question to help out a loved one.

Add me to the list. My 11 year old's thingy is smaller than my 19 month old's. I too assumed there was something wrong and asked the doctor just a few months ago to please check it. He pushed the fat pad down (he's chubby) and popped it out so I could see, and said it was fine. So it's there, but it doesn't look like it's grown at all since he was a baby! I was too embarrassed (and didn't want to embarrass my son) so I didn't say that or take it any further. Maybe these things don't really "grow" til they reach puberty? I certainly hope this is the case!

In talking about the skin growing back on the head, that's okay. My 19 month old's skin grew back despite my trying to ensure it wouldn't, and the dr said it wasn't abnormal. Foreskin is the protector of the head and will do it's best to re-attach -- sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Anyway, the skin will eventually pull over in time.

Your sons should have this fixed surgically, if need be. It can really effect self-esteem, sometimes more than you could imagine. I watched an episode of Dr. 90210 where the surgeon repaired one. The man's whole life changed.

I am taking our son to the Dr. for him to check it in June, I feel that something needs to be done. IF the Dr. disagree's (which he probably will, Knowing him) I am going to take our son to another pediatrician to get a second opinion. I agree Tommy I think leaving it the way it is could do some Major damage to his self esteem as a child and later as a man.

Thank You to the one that informed us of the medical condition Hidden Penis...I have looked it up on the internet and printed off some stuff for me and hubby to read. I am really axious to talk to the Dr. NOW that I know there is a medical term for it and a Surgery that can help.

Thank You Tommy for making me feel better, I Do Love and want whats best for him :-). I'll give yall an Update in June if this tread is still around in 2 weeks

Thanks Again Sooooo Much....
:-)

Good luck with him, and let us know how it goes. He's lucky to have you for a mom.

I think we all have to relax and remember that all penises are different sizes and that they DON'T START GROWING UNTIL PUBERTY!!

Before you go looking for surgical solutions, give it a chance to grow. The scrotum will grow first (which will make the penis look even smaller) but then the penis itself will grow for a couple of years until your son has finished puberty (which I believe is 21 for boys). That mean the penis has almost 10 years to grow into its adult size.

I really understand your concerns because my older son has a smaller penis than my younger son and my husband worries incessantly about it. Be patient and please, don't consider surgery unless there is an actual medical cause.

This isn't a small penis. It is a hidden, buried penis. They are two different things.
A small penis is caused by genetics. With a hidden or buried penis there is a possibility of something genetic, but the vast majority of the time, the surgeon who did the circumcision took off too much skin, causing the penis to go internal. This is a condition which can correct itself, but typically does not, without surgery.

I just have to say, if you think at all there is something wrong have it fixed now. I am 42 years old and have lived with this problem my whole life. You will never understand the ridicule and the embarassment that a boy with a "small' penis can go through. I have been miserable my whole life because of a "Buried" or Hidden" Penis. I am married with two children and have the most wonderful and supportive wife. I am scheduled to have the corrective surgery done next month by Dr. Alter in Beverly Hills. I cannot wait!

Good for you. Congratulations! Surgeons need to be aware of this when they circumcise, and be stopped from taking too much off. Parents need to be aware of this as a possible consequence, when they are weighing the pros and cons, and be willing to step in and get it corrected, when they choose to circumcise, and buried penis happens. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you for your post Rodinsimi, I take our son to the Dr. this Wed. the 9th I am really anxious to see what he say's. I know there is a problem and If he doesn't agree I WILL get a second opinion. (you just have to know this dr.)
He seems to disagree with every concern I have.

Thanks again....

I am so glad you asked this, as I have the same concerns for my stepson. He is 10.5 years old, I've been his stepmom since he was 3 and I swear to you it has not grown in this time. If anything it looks smaller now because the rest of his body has grown, but his "thingy" hasn't. I know it may sound wierd that I know what my stepson's "thingy" looks like at this age, but he has encopresis which is severe constipation and we have to look in the toilet before he flushes to make sure he is passing stool and that it's not too firm. His also looks like it's hiding all of the time, it never pokes out. His is very tiny. My 4 year old was born with a bigger "thingy" than my stepson has now, and my 4 yr old's has continues to grow as he has, this is the same with my 6 month old, his is bigger than the 10.5 year old's. And their's look like they're poking out all of the time, they never hide. (Their foreskin never comes over the tip) I have tried to talk to my husband about this several times, but he takes it as a blow to his pride for one of his sons to be "small". (silly, huh?) I am looking forward to reading any and all replies to this post. I hope it's nothing serious. Like in your case, the drs have never said anything negative about it. My best friend's son is 14 months old and he has the same problem, but his looks like the foreskin has reattached around the rim. You can't poke it out even if you try. When I used to bathe my stepson when he was 3 and 4 I would push his foreskin back to clean it and it always moved freely, so I don't think that's the problem. ???? It's very puzzling and troublesome. Thanks again for posting this, hopefully we'll get some answers. :) Take care!!

Brandy

Penis's are very variable. Sometimes they are very small but 'grow' to a normal size when aroused. Sometimes it is big and doesn't grow that much. The best thing is to ask a doctor and rule out any medical problem. It definitely does not sound like concealed or trapped penis because it would be trapped in the pubic fat bad and would be very noticeable.

A large pubic fat pad is contraindicative for a circumcision so the only way a circumcision would cause a trapped or concealed penis would be if the doctor disregarded the condition at birth. Trapped or concealed penis also happens just as frequently in boys who are not circumcised.

Sounds like you have done the right thing by getting the doctor's opinion. By all means, if you don't agree with what he says get a second opinion.

Our Dr. said that he is over weight and that is part of the reason why. He said when he pushed on the fatty tissue around the Penis it pops out and is normal size for his age. He also said that when he hit puberty (sp) that it would take off growing.

I haven't decided if I am going to accept that answer or get a second opinion. The Dr. may be absolutley right but I'd hate to find out when our son is 14 yrs old that he was wrong.


Anyone have a child that hit puberty and it take off growing??

You need a second opinion, from someone completely unconnected to the first doctor.

I think your right!!, Going to make him an appointment soon.

I wish you two the best of luck with this.

I have 2 sons and another one on the way. My 5 year old has the hidden penis. If I push on the pubic pad it will come out some and it is definitely smaller than my 2 year olds who doesn't have the hidden penis issue!!
Now my question is about the circumcision- our Ped. used the "circ-ring" instead of cutting (boys were born in different States-had diff. Ped's, but used the ring). If a bad cutting circumcision can cause this issue can a "circ-ring" be done bad as well? I was told the ring was safer than cutting but I have 2 boys with different outcomes and with a 3rd boy due soon I am not sure what to do. We opted for circumcision due to the cleanliness issues and health risks that can come along if the penis is not kept clean. However, it is extremely difficult to keep the hidden penis clean!! My son gets rashes there frequently!
Any ideas?