Hi,

We have a very, very close dear friend that we have known for many years. Went through the Leukemia, they gave him everything you can think of, experimental drugs.

Well last week they did a bone marrow and everything looked clean, well today we just found out that it came back and has hit him hard.

The doctors said that he has up to 2 months to live, he is going to go into hospice for end of life care.

This man is like a father to me. The most wonderful person you would even know.

Why does God do the things he does, I know that God has his reasons but this is hard on his family and me as well.

I am really upset, sorry to be so sad and dreary but I can't think of anything else at this moment in time.

Thanks for reading my post.....

God doesn't DO things like give your friend leukemia or my Dad terminal cancer.
He started the world and gave it a perfect beginning. He also gave the human race free will, and set in place natural laws which include both life and death....
He loves us. With or without these earthly bodies he gave us.

I know you're hurt, and rightfully so. All of us are subject to the laws that govern the universe, the earth, life and death. None of us can escape that. If God knows when a tiny sparrow has fallen, he doesn't pick it up and breath life back into it so that it may fly forever. Instead He allows His law of nature to do its work. It doesn't mean He doesn't care. He really does care how you're feeling right now.

When I lost my youngest niece to cancer, I talked to Him. I cried to Him. I blamed Him. I asked Him why. Then, He gave me peace. I still have that peace though I don't understand it. I wish the same for you.

I know how you feel because I lost my Dad, my sister and my Mom within 2 years. But I look at it this way. God needed another ANGEL and he got 3 good ones and they were my family members that I loved dearly.

But what you wrote about GOD got 3 angels is true....so GOD isn't doing anything intenional to anyone. Loss and sickness is a horrible thing for anyone to go through, but if you read your reply...to the other post, you might have found your answer.

May my prayers be with you.

Hi all,

Just to catch you all up to where we are at here.

Our dear friend was just put on Morphene yesterday, so usually when that happens, it is just a short way to heaven.

I was very mad and upset in my first post, and I am sorry if I sounded mean, it didn't mean to be at all.

His daughter in law which has become very close to us lately had come to see us yesterday and told us this bad news.

My father in law is in a depressed mood because he and this gentleman were friends for a long time then the rest of our the family had become friends with the rest of his family, such a big family between the both families.

Our family had talked about it all day today and we have pretty much came to peace about it but we are still sad to see such a dear, loved one go on.

Thanks for all of your posts, I really needed them.

You have every reason to be upset and no, your post didn't sound mean at all. You sounded hurt, as would anyone. I lost two good friends (a married couple) within 3 months of each other as well as my younest niece a few years later. My sister still deals with the pain of losing her youngest daughter every Christmas. So if you feel the need to vent, cry, or just talk about it, please do. We understand. Take care.

Hi all,

My mother had talked to our friends wife last night and she said that they gave him something different from morphine, it was stronger, and it is something new. Well he had a reaction to it so they had to give him benadryl.

After everything settled and he back they put him on the morphine.

She told my mother that all he does is sleep and when he is awake he talks somewhat and he makes no sense.

He has lost 40 lbs in just a few months and he is so frail looking. I haven't seen him in 2 months since he started getting sick. I really don't want to see him, I want to remember him as being the person that I knew him as, not someone who is lying in bed dying. So I told myself that I can't bring myself to go see him.

The only thing that I can think of when I think of him dying is, 16 years ago when my grandmother passed away, she had alot of American Indian in her so she was very red, and when I seen her laying there in the casket and her face was white as a ghost, I screamed to everyone in the room, this is not my grandmother, bring her back.

I feel that is what will happen when I see him, I am not good under stress and I do have an occasional anxiety attack. I really think that is when my next one will start.

I am trying to be strong right now, but I have so much going through my mind, I am crying so hard, I can't even see what I am typing and I am probably not making any sense, but I have to get this all out before I drive myself crazy thinking about it.

Thanks for reading my post.

Hi All,

I am trying to compose myself right now and it is really hard.

Our dear friend had passed away early this morning. May he be at peace now.

All I did last night was have weird dreams, that I can't even explain right now, they are too complicated.

My grandmother that had passed years ago, that I posted in my other post, I had dreams about her last night. And all I could think of lately was her. I have been smelling her lately. Now I know why, she has been trying to tell me something and I didn't want to listen I guess.

My head is pounding today from all of the stress and being so upset.

God, please take care of my friend, and please guide his family and friends.

Thanks all for taking the time to help me in this time of need.

I may go now and be by myself and think.

I hope you can feel the arms of all us here around you. Many of us also go to the Grief & Loss board to carry on sharing the things we have felt, and gone though, and understand when we are faced with a loss like yours...

Why God does what He does is unknowable to us...at least for now. It is not comforting to be in this human position -- to want to know God closely and have a give-and-take ongoing thing with Him -- and yet be held at bay from Him regarding His rationale when He interacts with humans. "Our ways are not His ways...", etc. It is maddening to me to want to embrace God (figuratively), and at the same time we are seperated by our very natures -- God is utter perfection, and we are not....er, Jennifer Anniston is pretty close though. It takes a lifetime of practicing faith to convince oneself that this life, though it is immesurably valuable, is very small in longevity and importance compared to eternal life. We are, in this life, literally preparing for the infinite dimension of God, which is the next. And we cannot afford to assume anything about our present state of worthiness -- which is why I encourage everyone to honestly examine their own views and prejudices about God, and take positive steps toward daily reconciliation with Him.

Many people have asked this question thru the years and probably from the dawn of time.

God didnt do it...God gives us his wisdom thru the bible..from how to live and even what to eat. I feel for you as I have been there too and was mad but now I understand more.

God gives us freewill..to do what we want,eat what we want etc...look at all the diseaes that are caused from smoking or eating junk food..we do that to ourselves..not God...

You should read the Bible and ask God for the answers you seek....

Why Does God Do The Things He Does???? What Does He Do???? It Is Not The Lord But The Way This Universe Works ..if More People Are Going To Be Born Others Have To Die... Besides This Person Lived A Life ..has A Family ......as You Tell Us ...there Is Babys Dying Everyday.....toddlers Dying Teenagers Those People Missed Out On All The Things Your Friend Did..so He Had A Chance Others Don't ..so Stop Blaming The Lord And Start Thanking Him Instead..why Do You Blame Him For The Good And Don't Recognize The Blessings????????? I Will Pray For You And To A Point I Understand