cocoeyes
06-10-2006, 09:23 AM
My mother and I got in a heated debate about whether or not I should get tested for HIV again.
Back in 2003 I got tested for HIV and it was negative but my bf of three years never got tested with me (yeah I know stupid). Now, it's been three years and he recently got tested and it was negative. We have unprotected sex and if his test confirms it was negative, then wouldn't mines still be negative being that he's the only one I've been sleeping with??
My mother is arguing me down that just because I got tested once, I should get tested periodically... Which I understand and it's true because it takes up to 6-months for it to show up in the system. But if my bf just got tested, and we have unprotected sex quit often, what sense does it make for me to get tested also? I saw his results.
She's not trying to understand and I'm not trying to give her all my business with our relationship of not using protection (I’m grown, and it’s non of her business), but I'm trying to get her to understand where I'm coming from.
True, you shouldn't believe a person even when you’re in a relationship whether or not they are sleeping with someone else, but you can be MARRIED and still catch it with a cheating partner. I know my relationship more then my mother would.
So, is she right or am I wrong in my situation of getting tested again? Eventually I will get tested again, but why can’t she understand that if he JUST got tested, why would I need to get one again. She doesn’t know we have unprotected sex so maybe that’s why she’s pushing it.
Back in 2003 I got tested for HIV and it was negative but my bf of three years never got tested with me (yeah I know stupid). Now, it's been three years and he recently got tested and it was negative. We have unprotected sex and if his test confirms it was negative, then wouldn't mines still be negative being that he's the only one I've been sleeping with??
My mother is arguing me down that just because I got tested once, I should get tested periodically... Which I understand and it's true because it takes up to 6-months for it to show up in the system. But if my bf just got tested, and we have unprotected sex quit often, what sense does it make for me to get tested also? I saw his results.
She's not trying to understand and I'm not trying to give her all my business with our relationship of not using protection (I’m grown, and it’s non of her business), but I'm trying to get her to understand where I'm coming from.
True, you shouldn't believe a person even when you’re in a relationship whether or not they are sleeping with someone else, but you can be MARRIED and still catch it with a cheating partner. I know my relationship more then my mother would.
So, is she right or am I wrong in my situation of getting tested again? Eventually I will get tested again, but why can’t she understand that if he JUST got tested, why would I need to get one again. She doesn’t know we have unprotected sex so maybe that’s why she’s pushing it.