My grandma passed away this past Saturday June 10th. I went to see her on Friday, and it was one of the most scary things I ever seen, although she wasnt in pain, she just did not look like grandma, She just lied there and did not move, looked like she was already gone once in a while her eyes would open but thats about it, I sat and held her hand and just talked with her for 3 hours even though there was no response from her. I left Friday night and told her I loved her and would be back to see her in the morning, (I lve an hour an a half away from her.
Saturday morning the the nursing home phoned and said today would be her last day, so I got ready got my mom and headed back up, she died at 11.10am, and we didnt get there till 12.30, I went and sat in the room with her till the funeral home came and got her, she looked so peacful, and more herself than she did the day before.
We had the funeral on Monday, she looked so at peace, so even though we were sad she was gone we were happy that she was finally at rest.
She was dressed in a beautiful peach night gown and a matching robe, we always thought if your suppose to look peacful and at rest then a night gown would be better than your sunday best. My 8 year old son colored a picture of a night owl and wrote on the bottom "Good night Grandma" and we put it in the casket with her, so even though he was not at the funeral he got to say good bye in his own way.
GOOD NIGHT GRANDMA WE WILL MISS YOU AND ALWAYS LOVE YOU!!!!

So sorry for your loss Lynn. You speak of how your gran looked 'more like herself' after she passed... console yourself with the thoughts that is because she was no longer suffering; her spirit was no longer troubled and she was at peace. It sounds like you are dealing with it quite well and the story of your son's picture is very moving. However inevitable and natural the cycle of death can be, it doesn't stop you greiving - to loose a loved one, at whatever time in their lives, can be devestating. Take your time to greive and take comfort in your friends and family. Thinking of you and all those who are hurting right now. xx