Does anyone else feel completly hopeless I knew my life was going to change drastically but I cant do anything anymore my DD has to be held at all times she hates to be put down and my DH is an over the road truck driver so I get very little help from him I can barely have time to go to the bathroom shes 3 mos does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her to like her swing or bouncy seat or just lie queitly for a few minutes?

My daughter was born on April 4th, so our babies are about the same age. Recently I have noticed that she will entertain herself for 10-15 minutes. I put her in her bouncer, on the floor with an activity gym above her that sings and it usually keeps her busy. Overall I am fortunate that she is a good baby. I can identify with you about not having time.....that is partially why we are only having one kid.....seriously. It always seems like when I feel the need to clean the house or do some yardwork is when Alexa wants to be entertained by me. The best thing to do is to find some toys for her that will entertain her for a while. The activity gyms and bouncers with toys work the best at this age. Let me know how it goes! :)

I know how you feel! I just went on a venting rage about this about a month ago. This is also why we are only having one..(hubby getting fixed in a month). It is VERY hard to find time to ourself. I have found that DS, 3 months old, will only entertain himself for 15-20 minutes. To be honest, I found that I will not have any time to myself until after DS goes to bed. I stay up until about 1AM...I clean the house, do my nails, get a long, hot shower, what ever. It is the BEST time for me.

You may want to try and put her in front of the t.V and play a DVD. My DS is only 3 months, but he LOVES the Baby Einstein videos. He can stare at the T.V for quite a while. I have just resigned myself to the fact that right now DS is VERY needy and after about 3-4 months I will be missing that so it does not bother me too much :) (They grow TOO fast for me!)

I hear you!!! I totally felt the way you feel!

I agree with Skeetersquirt about tv/dvd's. It was at about 3 months where I thought DD might be ready for more entertainment than just me. I was so exhausted & started wondering if DD was just starting to get bored with the basic rattles and stupid songs I was singing.

I got one of those floormat mobile things, and that's also when I introduced DD to the tv. OMG. My life changed. Finally some other kind of stimulation so I could get a break.

It does get better as they get older. They get more coordinated with their toys and can entertain themselves a lot better. I recall 4 months old was an especially big turning point. Hang in there!

it is probably a three month thing for us moms ds is 15 weeks and last week i had a real hard time with ds and felt quite low myself at how much life has changed. regarding entertaining your little one, ds has lay under his play gym since he was about a month old he is now able to lie under it hitting the hanging toys and rattles and laughs to himself i have no idea what it is about it that makes him laugh but it is cute he can lie there happpily for up to 20 minutes or so. i also have a door bouncer he has been using for about a month he can bounce himself and use this happily for about 10 minutes. in the last 2 weeks he has found the t.v and watched 45 minutes of the england match with me quite happily for 45 minutes last thursday he loves kicking his legs while watching the footie come on sam for england lol. i also eventually found a rattle that ds actually likes and pays attention too it is by v-tech and is like a wand it plays twinkle twinkle little star and lights up. i also have a walker he sits in for about 5 minutes he likes the different textures on the toy tray. i think the more you keep putting them in contact with their toys the more they get to like them.
i know how you feel about the bathroom i have even lay ds down in the bathroom while taking a wee before now, but i have learnt he will be ok for a few minutes while i go to the toilet, don't worry as long as your little one is on the floor safely she willbe ok. make sure you take some time for yourself too i know this just about keeps me sane lol.

I still have moments like that. Now that I feel that dh can do more for ds, he does LESS! Ds is 13 months, and I still have days that make me want to scream, but it does get better than the stage you're at now. It's such a drastic change, having a baby. Nothing will ever just be about you anymore ( sigh) But at the end of the day, you look at that little angel, and couldn't imagine your life any different! :angel:

AMEN to all of you! heehee! my little girl is 5 months.... and boy oh boy - you just feel like you need to be there for them all the time - and you get bored with the silly things you do tooo - so they must get bored right?? LOL!! I just added a couple more small toys to her little group and exchange them in and out - so its something new - and I have an infant seat, an exersaucer, and walker and swing that I change her in and out of too - that helps.... so she is not in the same thing all the time.

God I wish I could stay up till 1am to get some time for myself - yikes.. I am in bed by 10pm (I am not a night person) which killed me during the first few months - if ya know what I mean.... all the night time wakings!!! don't know how I did it --- and I am only having one child too - "people" keep telling me that she will be weird if I don't have another one - whatever.... hee hee!!

Friday...LOL...just what IS the deal with people thinking you'll have a screwed up kid if she has no siblings??? I get that a lot too. DD will be going to school/preschool. She'll have kids to play with. I hate it when I hear that.

I used to take showers with DS in the tub at that age. i would fill up his little blue reclining tub and prop him laying in there with towels. Then i would put it at one end of the tub and I would stand in the little space that was left and shower. By the time I was washed and dried he was ready to get out. And then I would put him down for a nap and then I could get dressed. This worked until he started trying to climb out of it. As to going to the bathroom, must times I did it with him in my arms.

My hubby and I talk about it all the time regarding kids with siblings or not. And I said - geez. when I was growing up and going on vacation etc. I always wanted to bring a friend -because god forbid I HAVE to play with my older brother or younger sister! LOL!! kids never WANT to play with their sibling they would rather bring a friend.. well usually.... you have the rare kids that get along here and there! hee hee

Were only having the one baby also doctors recommended I dont have anymore and I was disappointed at first with that but after seeing how hard it is with your own Im kind of glad dont get me wrong I lover her to death I just get really overwhelmed sometimes especially when your husband isnt there all the time to help.. Thanks for all the info ladies I will keep you posted..

Yes I too get overwhelmed and I don't know how the with more than two do it! BLESS THEM!

my hubby travels too - so I am alone too.... yuck its no fun!

Gayle,
Maybe because people associate brats or selfish children as being an only child. I also plan on just one....my little girl....and I plan to teach her to have old fashioned manners and not sharing isn't acceptable. I think people generalize.

I do want more kids, but right now, I can't fathom anybody taking time away from ds............that's my only reason to have just one.

i plan on just having ds after a previous m/c and health problems from this pregnancy mean i am high risk for still birth and would have to be delivered by section it is just not worth the risk of heartache for me to consider, i see the professor regarding my liver on 3rd july so hopefully i might get some answers at the moment i seem a mystery to modern medicine lol. ds will follow after dh and my dad who are both only children i will teach ds to have good manners like orange says.

I only want one too! I'm wondering though, if in a couple of years I will change my mind. My mom tells me that could happen. I have a physical reason, too, for not wanting to get pregnant, and I'm so worried about it that we are using abstinence as birth control! I was on the patch when I got pregnant with DD.
My neice is an only child and they do a lot socially and take other kids on vacation, but she still is a little spoiled. But I'd rather have that challenge than the challenge of me being sick and not being able to take care of two.
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