Do you have more a chance to get HIV if you have unprotected anal sex or unprotected vaginal sex? Or is it the same?

this may be stupid, but I was curious.

I have read unproteceted anal sex is a higher risk but can't remember why or what the difference in risk is.

Part of the issue has to include whether you are the recipient or not. For example, insertive anal sex without a condom in which you are the receiver and there is ejaculation is of significantly greater risk. If you are not the recipient, then the changes are reduced. Similarly, if you are the recipient of vaginal sex. However, it appears to be more difficult for an HIV+ woman to pass the disease on to her partner.

However, why play with fire. Protective sex is always the preferred method of encounter unless you are in a monogomous relationship and both of you have been tested negative. chris

Risk of anal sex is quite a bit higher than vaginal sex caused by the likely possibility of blood contact from damage to the delicate tissues of the smaller entry point.

I think risk is higher with anal sex for both the active and the passive partner...again because of the inceased likelhood of blood to blood contact.

ok, this may be a little....detailed...and I'm sorry if it is. You could stop reading here.

I was tested back in april and it came back negative. I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for two years. I've been with a total of 12 people and he's only been with 3 (two unprotected).

We had (unprotected) anal sex the other day for the first time. I didn't bleed or anything.

he's never been tested. but I'm trying to go get him get tested, he doesn't think there is anything wrong since I tested negative anyways. Is there anything really to worry about? We had unprotected sex so many times before.

I don't know if I should go wait and get tested again. He thinks I'm just freaking out because I worry about getting sick all the time.

Well, I think from a medical perspective your negative test MAY be sufficient. However, from the perspective of relationship-building, I think he's missed the mark. For him not to be tested knowing that this is important to you would suggest to me that he is hiding something in his past or a bit unsensitive to your issues, especially if you are going to actively participate in risky sex. My point is, as you know, you guys are not just sexually active with each other, but with every partner you each have had prior to your encounters. I think he owes it to you to be tested if, for no other reason, than that you've asked him to do so. chris

nikki,

I think he should be tested ONCE in his life. And if you are both negative, then you can have sex any way the two of you want, PROVIDED you both remain monogamous.

"MORE GREASE on the chandelier, please!":angel:

from what i understand you can get it both ways but anal sex is more risky cause at times blood can be involved

Ok, I'm not sure if this is going to matter either....but I've gotten pregnant by him and I had a miscarriage :( And after I had an HIV test done and it was negative. Even if it was negative while I was with him 2 years before I had it done, am I really still at risk? Even if there was no blood or anything?

I still plan on getting tested again and so is he.

Maybe I'm just being paranoid and not really trusting him. I know I'm a hypocondric, but still. I'm very health-concisious.

And now that I think about it, we did try anal sex once before, but I don't remember if he came in me that one time. He said he did but it only lasted a short time cause I made him hurry up. Haha, I give too much details.

ok now that i read this whole thing
YOU CANT JUDGE ANYONES STATUS BY YOUR OWN
meaning just cause your neg. and have had unprotected sex with him DOES NOT mean he is neg. as well
it doesnt mean he is positive but it is best for each individual person to get tested

ok now that i read this whole thing
YOU CANT JUDGE ANYONES STATUS BY YOUR OWN
meaning just cause your neg. and have had unprotected sex with him DOES NOT mean he is neg. as well
it doesnt mean he is positive but it is best for each individual person to get tested

I'm aware. But am I at any more risk then I was before?

This is becoming way too confusing: you tested negative twice, right? You miscarried once, right? You tried anal sex as well (did he ejaculate or not?), right?

Listen to what VIanna is saying: you cannot judge you status by someone else's. There are cases when an HIV + person can have unprotected sex with and HIV negative person and the HIV negative person remain negative.

I really want to help. Could you just list you questions(s) one more time? chris

Haha, nevermind. It is a little confusing. I've been tested once (negative) in april, and my and my bf been together for 2 years now.

I plan on getting tested again so its alright now.