I had oral sex.(received) And i was wondering what are the odds of getting HIV. The female most likely was negative. I've had a slight cough for about 2 days, i have 1 small lump(Painless) under the jaw which is not noticeable only if i press down on it There are small bumps on the back of my tounge...also a very small amout of white substance on my tounge( I guess is plack).

Ps- Could this all be a allergic reaction because I recently mixed 5 different alcohols together with some friends.(acting dumb) Or just strep throat or the common cold

Can some one please help me. I am extremly worried.

Recptive oral sex is considered a no-risk encounter to contract HIV. However, there are other STIs that can be attributed to such a relationship including syphillis, gonnorhea, clamydia, etc. But for HIV...again, a no-risk encounter. chris

What about the symptoms? How long should this lump under my jaw stay present?

since I can neither palpate the 'lump' or visuallize it, I suggest that this medical concern should be taken to you doctor. Again, receptive oral sex is a no-risk activity.

When some people say a person can become infected with HIv through oral sex. Are they talking about the performer or the receiver..or both.. ALSO what is and STI, is it deadly?

Some people say that you can become infected with HIV but the CDC has suggested that the probabilities are limited. If you are receiving oral sex (even from someone who is HIV+) the chances of contracting the disease are limited) It's the difference is between a hypothetical vs an actual infection. HIV is a very fragile virus and, usually, the saliva is not a good environment for the HIV virus.

STIs (sexually transmitted infections) is the same as STD (sexually transmitted diseases) and include syphillism, gonnorhea, clamydia, HPV, and Hepatitis C. Deadly? If you have an infection and don't do anything to fix it then "yes" they can be problematic. chris

Im in the 11th grade. im still a little confused and scared. How can two people have unprotected sex(oral or vaginal) And one person walk away with HIV? Everything I read talks about how people become infected from another infected person.

You are worrying unessaceraly. [I can't spell.]
A sore throat, on it's own is nothing to worry about.
You have been at virtually zero risk. Don't worry about it.
A lump under your jaw will almost always be present. If you push and prod it, it will start to hurt. The more you prod, the more it will hurt.
Leave it alone for a couple of days and get on with your life.

You will have lump under both sides - one will be larger than the other probably as well. Same as one testicle is larger than the other.
Please don't fret. You are young and this is all quite possibly new to you.

Just be careful when you have full sex and use a condom.

Dear Youngman: I, first, want to refer you to the "sticky" notes at the top of these posts which may help explain how HIV is transmitted. The problem with HIV is that you are always playing the odds...and they are dangerous odds.

As you have heard, HIV is a fragile virus but it has to be transmitted through contact with a person who is HIV+. You cannot, I repeat "cannot", get HIV through what we refer to as "casual contact" ie: kissing, shaking hands, eating from the same bowl of cereral, etc. Other than sex it can also be transmissed through blood ie: IV drug users who share the same needle, or (in the past & before they were able to screen blood for transfusion) a blood transfusion, etc.

So, lets just discuss the sexual aspects of HIV: HIV can be transmitted from one person to another through sexual contact as long as one of those persons has HIV. (In other words, you cannot get HIV if neither one of the two participants have HIV, OK?). BEcause of the nature of the HIV virus, that it is fairly fragile, it is possible to receive oral sex from a person who is HIV+ and it not be transmitted to you. IF your partner is male and you are performing oral sex on him and he ejaculates into you mouth, it is possible, though not probable, for the virus to be transmitted to you. (It is the difference between what I have referred to as actual vs hyptothetical transmission.) If the person to whom you are giving oral sex is a female, and if she may have recently completed her period and if she is HIV+, then it is possible, though not probable, that transmission could occur. However, remember, that the fragile virus and probably will not survive the gastric acids that are present in the mouth.

OK, next point: if your partner is female and you have vaginal intercourse with her and you are HIV+, because she is the receiving partner, it is possible to transmit the virus to her. For whatever reason, statistically, it appears as though trasnmission of the virus from an HIV+ female to an HIV- male is diminshed because of the nature of our sexual plumbing.

Finally, it appears that the greatest chance to become infected with HIV, during sex, is if you are the receiving partner during anal intercourse. Because of the anatomical nature of our bodies, the area in which insertive anal intercourse occurs can be torn or abrased rather easily. This gives a natural port for the transmission of the virus into you partner. Remember, of course, that you would have to be HIV+ for this to occur. If your partner is HIV+ and you are HIV-, there is still a chance that, without a condom, it is possible to transmit the virus.

Therefore, it is always advisable that you wear a condom during sex. Remember that you are not only having sex with the person you are with at that moment, you are also having sex with every partner that person had before you arrived on the scene. Also, while I want to instill the idea of trust in most people, reality tells me that not everyone will be honest when the chance of having sex is concerned. Therefore, unless you are absolutely sure of your partner's HIV status and you are in a monogamous relationship, always wear a condom. The condom will, not only protect you from HIV, it will also protect you from the other sexually transmitted diseases like syphillis, gonnorhea, clamydia, etc.


Finally, Youngman, I am telling you this as a person who know and who has 'walked the walk'. I have been HIV+ for twelve years (actually I start my 13th year in two weeks). Fortunately, I am healthy and have never been ill as a result of my HIV status. I take my meds; I live my life. I work full-time & have an incredible WIFE WHO IS NOT HIV+ (we were married for 7 yrs before I found out my status and are looking at our twentieth anniversary just around the corner). I am blessed by my family and my health. But, remember this, I am in the minority. Millions of people have died because of this illness in the past twenty-five years and millions more will die until we find a cure. PLease! Please! Please! do not become a statistic. Blessings, chris :wave:

CHris you have made me sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooo
un-nervous(NOT A WORD).. I am gong to really start listening in health class.(I PROMISE) ..AND i might pratice abstinence because HIV this is extremly scary thing. I pray to god that and your wife stay together till death and u live to be a happy OLD man.

Im goning to get a phisical for football and i will ask for an HIV test to be complety safe. I guessing i have a cold. Or because I have been swimming alot and swallowing alot of pool water.(not on purpose)

Dear Youngman: stay healthy and good luck with football. Don't break your neck OK?

Remember, the encounter you mentioned is pretty clearly no-risk. However, I always think that getting tested is better than living in the crazy world of fear and anxiety.

Oh, and thank you, dearly, for your good wishes. We intend to do just what you suggested. chris

Chris or anyone what can i do to reduce the lump under my jaw? My body temp is 97-98 which is normal but i still have no appatiet. i feel a little better than before.