Hi, everyone

Well I talked to my Doctor about HIV because I have a anxiety problem and the 2nd time I had sex I freaked out after learning about HIV. But he told me alot of interesting stuff. He told me that it is hard to transmit HIV and it depends on the Viral load as well. He said if a person did get infected it could take that person usually 6months or longer to be able to pass HIV on to someone else, but is also depends on his Immune system as well. He also said that regualr Vagina Secretion does not Carry enough HIV to transmit and that is why it is hard for a man to get it. But if she is cut inside or just got done having her Period then she is highly infectious. He also stated that there is also another vagina secretion maybe when a Girl is Real wet that also carries a lot of the HIV. So when they do that 1/500, 1/1500is what they Use for certain sustances. I have read a lot of your post and I do understand what he is talking about now. Because some of you have been dating people or married to people for along time and you havent been infected because they dont have enough viral load to pass it on, So there immune system must be real strong. But he also said that it could take years and years to get signs on HIV. But if your immune system is weak they you will get them early and that means you can pass it on as well. At first I doubted him because I thought it couldnt be true, because I thought I had signs but it yelled at me and told me to stop reading HIV signs online they mean nothing. But I know what he says must be the truth. Do anyone agree? I only have unprotected sex 2 times, one time shouldnt even be counted has unprotected because it was only 30secs and that was it. He is a real doctor who I consulted and he came me the time and day to talk to me. I figured out what I Was doing was going through major anxiety and guilt. But he is right everytime you get a sickness you can look online and no matter what HIV pops up on almost everyone. Not because it actually causes it but because your immune system gets weak where you can catch it all the time. But is it true that anxiety and depression can drop your immune system? I know it makes you real paranoid.

Oh deary me.
I think for one thing you need to read the sticky posts a the top of this forum.
Then you need to ask yourself why you are beating yourself up over HIV.
You seem (and I don't mean this rudely) to be sexually inexperienced.
That is not a judgement in any way, however, I think because of this you think you have put yourself at risk.
Of course, any unprotected sex with a partner of unknown status could be construed as a risk.
However, if you are looking on this forum then you are likely to be a health anxious person (like me :p ).
This alone makes you succeptable to linking any possible symptom to the worst possible outcome.
It is highly unlikely that you will have contracted HIV from your encounters.
If you really can't put it behind you then get tested, but please don't beat yourself up just because you are feeling guilty over having sex.
Sex is normal and good and you have nothing to feel anxious about.
The only thing to remember is to have safe sex.
If you have had unprotected sex then learn from it and don't do it again, but don't stop enjoying yourself because of this.
And whatever you do, DON'T read the Internet for HIV signs because as you have already realised they don't mean a thing.

Oh deary me.
I think for one thing you need to read the sticky posts a the top of this forum.
Then you need to ask yourself why you are beating yourself up over HIV.
You seem (and I don't mean this rudely) to be sexually inexperienced.
That is not a judgement in any way, however, I think because of this you think you have put yourself at risk.
Of course, any unprotected sex with a partner of unknown status could be construed as a risk.
However, if you are looking on this forum then you are likely to be a health anxious person (like me :p ).
This alone makes you succeptable to linking any possible symptom to the worst possible outcome.
It is highly unlikely that you will have contracted HIV from your encounters.
If you really can't put it behind you then get tested, but please don't beat yourself up just because you are feeling guilty over having sex.
Sex is normal and good and you have nothing to feel anxious about.
The only thing to remember is to have safe sex.
If you have had unprotected sex then learn from it and don't do it again, but don't stop enjoying yourself because of this.
And whatever you do, DON'T read the Internet for HIV signs because as you have already realised they don't mean a thing.

Hi,

Dont worry I dont find anything you say offensive anyway. yes I am sexaully inexperience and I do worry alot. Reason why I beat myself up was because, I was on the ship(military vessel) and I was watching the news and they did a report about people in Africa and about HIV, one guy showed up and said he was still having unprotected sex though he had HIV. It never came to my attention that people would still have unprotected sex even though they knew they could spread the disease. Once that hit my head, I also looked and it said it could take up to 6months to be certain at that time I didnt know that much about HIV so it didnt worry me. But then I Looked online and I read signs and I started to have serious anxiety attacks so the issue with further then I went into deep depression from some things that happen on the ship which didnt help any. Then my GF got a checkup she was HIV Negative, but she messed around and told me she was positive as a joke but I didnt find that funny and I was shocked that it was even possible. I talked to my doctor and he told me to stop reading online. So I did, I finally started to get rid of my anxiety but every now and then it does hit me and I worry. Even after the results I will still worry a little. I was told about HIV and stuff when I was in High school and I stopped having sex for years and years but finally I did and then my anxiety attacks kicked in. I do know the woman I had sex with sexual past and she still tells me she was clean when I met her. She told me her sexual past because we are friends, only one guy unprotected for 2mins and then she told him to stop, he is from Washington State. I have all the info on her. he was 2months before me, this woman only had 4 sexual partners before me only 1 unprotected. then a week later I met my GF. My GF has got tested 2 times. 11wks after us at my request and then 8months ago because we are planning on getting married. They both came back negative. I was more calm after the 8th month because we never pratice safe sex. We have sex 4 times every weekend for 8months. So I figure what our my chances of me being infected. You are right about everything and the same thing you said my Doctor said. Also I live in Japan and out of 175 million people, only about 9,000 to 12,000 people have HIV/AIDS. but I still worry though, Having anxiety sucks. Also if I was infected then my life would be over with anyway. I will get sent to a military facility and I suppose that is where I will stay. They wont let me out into the US population. So I hope you do understand my concern and why I know my consequences. I wont have any 30sec unprotected sex or anything like that without having her tested. Actually I was just thinking of stop having sex again like I did before. After reading a lot in this forum it does raise anxiety, but I can calm it down. I dont take medication for anxiety either. One thing I Do recall is when I read the HIV symptoms I do act them out. I know it is all mental. Actually I am getting tested tomorrow. It takes about 1month to get back. My odds are very slim. Thank you for replying to my post. I really appreciate it. Have a great day

Hi, I was under the impression that you were MORE likely to transmit the virus in the first few months of infection.

I think your doctor has given you some misinformation. It seems to be that doctors seem to spend their time convincing you that you DON'T have HIV, when in actual fact, how could they possibly know?

I don't mean you personally, I mean lots of people who go to their doctors with worries over HIV.

Hi, I was under the impression that you were MORE likely to transmit the virus in the first few months of infection.

I think your doctor has given you some misinformation. It seems to be that doctors seem to spend their time convincing you that you DON'T have HIV, when in actual fact, how could they possibly know?

I don't mean you personally, I mean lots of people who go to their doctors with worries over HIV. Hi,

I dont think my Doctor would give misinfo like that and it is not his job to tell me that I am not infected, it is his job to find infected people and kick them out, I work on a ship and if someone needed blood I can easily give them blood, but if I am infected then they can get it from me, we get checkups every year, His job is to find people who have certain diseases. When I talked to him him he simply told me the likelyhood is very slim because of what I told him and the country I am in. It wouldnt make sense that you can spread the Virus in the early months than the later months. because our cells can kill the Virus but the Virus breeds faster that our cells, so during a sexual intercourse not that much of the disease can really transform from the one person to another and he can be highly infectious. Because it has to build up first in a body so it can transmit. I read a lot of people forums here and what he said made a lot of sense. One person states that her BF had HIV and they been together for over 1yr and they had unprotected sex but she never got it. But the guy got it from a girl that died awhile back and she was HIV pos. So when you think about it she had more viral load in her body and she transferred it to him quickly, but his immune system was strong enough to hold the viral load down a completely which prevented him from spreading it like her. Since she died of it she had a bigger viral load and she died from it. But really it all depends on how viral oad she has because he explained to me there are rare cases where the diease is strong enough to transmit after a few months. There rare causes that I have heard where people died from aids quickly. dont worry I dont take anything personal. What happen with my doctor and I was because I told him I was infected and he looked at me funny, I read off the internet about signs of it. Really I had no signs. It was just me mind and my anxiety playing tricks on me. Your body reacts off the mind and we control the mind. I have muscle aches from old injuries that I have had for years, but I convince myself it was HIV. I was soaked by the rain and then I went into a cold hotel room and caught a flu, it went away of course. But it was on the same day I was with a girl. But my mind just added things up and I became paranoid. then anxiety messes up your body badly I dont really know how. But a lot of people have anxiety problems just like me as I can see in these forums. I am not a doctor but I took his info because he is a professional. I dont think he is wrong and it is not his opinion it is off of facts. Many website on internet is based on opinion that is why people shouldnt look online.

As I said I was not specifically talking about YOUR doctor, I was giving my opinion on doctors in general.

And after all, the title of your thread is called "Doctor info, do you agree?".

As I said I was not specifically talking about YOUR doctor, I was giving my opinion on doctors in general.

And after all, the title of your thread is called "Doctor info, do you agree?". Oh ok, I misunderstood sorry, Yes I guess doctors do assure some people that they are ok, because so many people worry about it. As usual the odds are they dont have it, because they are so concern for nothing and anxiety just takes over there mind. I cant believe how real anxiety and depression is. I never knew they are health conditions. I want study more abou the human body because it seems our body are very unique.