HI at the advice of a kind lady on the relationship matter topic I have posted here to see if anyone can relate to my scenario - briefly me 48 wife is 42 married 21 years two great kids son now 23 married with 2 yr old grandaughter and 20 yr old daughter at home with me. Marriage sound no arguments, no restrictions, love each other - my wife has been very erratic with periods over last year - periods stop in Feb - mood changes slowly to anxious, nervous, weepy very emotional, culminates in her wanting to be on her own - she goes to GP blood test hormones all over and is put on Elleste HRT in May - my reaction to all of it through the weeks - compassionate, caring, understanding (I do believe that we both neglected our own emotional and recreational needs though over last year or two) - her desire to want to be on own doesnt want so with my help she moves to flat I help her get small car to get about and other things etc - we still have line of communication. I feel that maybe mid life crisis has kicked in also - she does at this moment seem "very happy" in her own environment - i cannot say if the Elleste HRT are doing their job but the upshot was she needed to get away on her own - I have heard it say she is "spring cleaning marriage" "emotionally absent" etc but I wondered if any of the good ladies on here have gone through this - she has only been on the flat a month so maybe it is a time thing as suggested on the other board - thanks very much