OtakuTess
07-03-2006, 06:02 PM
hello everyone
It has been over a year since I experienced the traumatic event. While I was in college I saw school councellors but none of them helped, and now I am graduated and I do not know where to go or who to talk to, as I cannot aford a therapist.
I don't know what to do. I feel as though there is no cure, and the events that trumatized me are so atypical that I don't feel like anyone here would even be able to not blame me for what happened. I wasn't sure if I should come here, because I don't think anyone will understand or be able to help me in this specific instance, since what happened to me was my fault.
The worst part of what happened is that I have no more passion anymore and feel unable to love the way that I used to. It makes my life pointless. I had a wonderful boyfriend who I loved and in one night all of that was gone, and he doesn't understand why and neither do I really.
Is there any hope of my getting that back? Will I ever be normal again? What do I do?
help please....
It has been over a year since I experienced the traumatic event. While I was in college I saw school councellors but none of them helped, and now I am graduated and I do not know where to go or who to talk to, as I cannot aford a therapist.
I don't know what to do. I feel as though there is no cure, and the events that trumatized me are so atypical that I don't feel like anyone here would even be able to not blame me for what happened. I wasn't sure if I should come here, because I don't think anyone will understand or be able to help me in this specific instance, since what happened to me was my fault.
The worst part of what happened is that I have no more passion anymore and feel unable to love the way that I used to. It makes my life pointless. I had a wonderful boyfriend who I loved and in one night all of that was gone, and he doesn't understand why and neither do I really.
Is there any hope of my getting that back? Will I ever be normal again? What do I do?
help please....
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StephanieAnne
07-03-2006, 10:46 PM
Hi
Sound like you need to talk to someone who can help you make sense of your trauma. Look for a PTSD therapist, and call and explain your problem, maybe they will take you on as a patient, and let you pay what you can, you will never know until you make the call and find out.
A PTSD therapist is trained to get all the anger out, and trained to help you understand the trauma and to get past it, and get on with your life.
It will change your life for the better :)
I know because it changed my life for the better :cool:
Sound like you need to talk to someone who can help you make sense of your trauma. Look for a PTSD therapist, and call and explain your problem, maybe they will take you on as a patient, and let you pay what you can, you will never know until you make the call and find out.
A PTSD therapist is trained to get all the anger out, and trained to help you understand the trauma and to get past it, and get on with your life.
It will change your life for the better :)
I know because it changed my life for the better :cool:
OtakuTess
07-04-2006, 09:49 PM
Thank you for your response! I feel much better knowing that people can be helped, anyway. I still am not sure where I can start... I am afraid it would be difficult for me at this time to be able to talk to me. Life doesn't like to take a break at all so I can sort things out you know? :dizzy:
I have some questions though. How do I find a PTSD therapist? I am planning to be moving from the town I am in soon, and am worried about having to do a lot of switching... But mostly I am worried about not being able to pay for help, and I am wary of "free" help, as the people I have spoken to in the past in that way have actually mostly made me feel worse. One insisted my problems were because I wouldn't break up with my bf, and the other one told me I might be skitzophrenic. :eek: err... Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that I don't think that I will be unable to afford something *forever* I am just worried it might take me a year or two before I have any type of useful medical covarage or income etc. I am not sure what to do, if I should wait until I can aford something or look for someone else -- if the latter, where do I look?
thank you again.
I have some questions though. How do I find a PTSD therapist? I am planning to be moving from the town I am in soon, and am worried about having to do a lot of switching... But mostly I am worried about not being able to pay for help, and I am wary of "free" help, as the people I have spoken to in the past in that way have actually mostly made me feel worse. One insisted my problems were because I wouldn't break up with my bf, and the other one told me I might be skitzophrenic. :eek: err... Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that I don't think that I will be unable to afford something *forever* I am just worried it might take me a year or two before I have any type of useful medical covarage or income etc. I am not sure what to do, if I should wait until I can aford something or look for someone else -- if the latter, where do I look?
thank you again.
galinaqt
07-06-2006, 11:29 AM
Why don't you talk to your new primary care phisician. Go only to person recommended by reliable source, worse thing you can do (talking from experience) trying to find somebody from insurance list.
OtakuTess
07-06-2006, 09:37 PM
I don't have a primary care physician. o_O; I don't have any doctor because I can't afford one and I don't have insurance. :confused:
Dan's Mom
07-07-2006, 02:57 PM
Hi,
Many places will take you on a sliding fee scale basis. Also, counselors are like shoes: sometimes you have to try them out to see if you have the right one for YOU. Maybe there is a support group in your area for PTSD survivors. it may take you a few years to sort his out. You may have to revist the counselor occasinonally for a "tune up". I hope this helps.
Many places will take you on a sliding fee scale basis. Also, counselors are like shoes: sometimes you have to try them out to see if you have the right one for YOU. Maybe there is a support group in your area for PTSD survivors. it may take you a few years to sort his out. You may have to revist the counselor occasinonally for a "tune up". I hope this helps.
charlodius
07-17-2006, 02:28 PM
I agree with the last response- many places will take you on a sliding scale. A type of therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy has been shown to be pretty effective for PTSD. It worked for me anyway, and my symptoms were textbook PTSD. A good book on the topic was written by one of the pioneers of cognitive behavioral therapy- The Feeling Good Handbook. I know, it sounds corny (and the cover is even cornier) but it can be invaluable. Good luck.
galinaqt
07-20-2006, 01:18 PM
Do you have good friend or relative you can share?
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
galinaqt
07-20-2006, 01:18 PM
Do you have good friend or relative you can share?
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
galinaqt
07-20-2006, 01:25 PM
You can go to bad dentist than change him but wouldn't you rather try to find right person from the beginning. Bad therapist can do a lot of harm and she/he may not want you to change them. My last councelor repeat "we had good relationships you can talk to me" may be 20 times continuasly which make me feel sick for a while and I don't believe that it has something to do with my personnal interests.
In that case support group, good book, good friend are certainly better.
In that case support group, good book, good friend are certainly better.
OtakuTess
07-23-2006, 04:27 PM
Do you have good friend or relative you can share?
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
I've actually begun to talk to people about it more, though it is still hard. But it seems to be helping a little, I guess. Do any of you have good experiences or improvement by just trying to talk about it more to certain people, even if they don't understand?
I am also planning on some creative outlets once I have more time. Do people find that to be helpful as well? (If its not too difficult or personal, I would love to maybe start a thread on this topic). Do you think these two options will help me until I can find a councellor/psychiatrist/whatever that works for me (probably won't be for another 9 months at LEAST before I can start finding someone).
I wouldn't suggest you to look for councelor who are free or cheap. More then likely they aren't good and will be useless and hurtful.
I've actually begun to talk to people about it more, though it is still hard. But it seems to be helping a little, I guess. Do any of you have good experiences or improvement by just trying to talk about it more to certain people, even if they don't understand?
I am also planning on some creative outlets once I have more time. Do people find that to be helpful as well? (If its not too difficult or personal, I would love to maybe start a thread on this topic). Do you think these two options will help me until I can find a councellor/psychiatrist/whatever that works for me (probably won't be for another 9 months at LEAST before I can start finding someone).