On May 20,2006, My oldest son died in a motorcycle wreck it was awful there were people every where watching and looking like it was a show and they would not let me see him or touch him i hurt so bad it happen about 2 miles from where we live.He was my world I can't do anything no more it doesn't seem right that he's gone. I really need help if anyone know's of something that could help please,please let me know,thank you.
Iwantmybabyback

Please check into Hospice. You can check your phone book for listings ,or go on the internet for your area. They have counselers who can help you through this. Also bereavement groups if you wish to be around people going through what you are going through.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. As someone who has lost 3 members of my own family I can only say that time is a great healer. Although you will always miss your son ,it will get easier to bear. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

You know everyone dies but not everyone lives. I am sure that your son would want you to get on with your life.

Also, in the scheme of things none of our lives is very long. I do believe in an Afterlife but at worst what comes later is peace. Whatever is in store for us later it is definitely true that our time on Earth whether 1 year or 100 is very very little in the eternal scheme of time.

Please be thankful for the time you did have with your son. We always look back on those who have departed with some sadness, this is inevitable. My father died a year ago, he was 88. When I was about 20 my cousin died who was only 12 years old or so. I have had friends die of diseases in their teens. We just never know how much time we have. Your son was not the first and he was not the last to go.

I just have to get back to what I said at the beginning of what I wrote, that...everyone dies but not everyone lives. Now your son would want you to go on and live a great life to your fullest, because we all have to move on someday. He just got there a little sooner than some of us, but much later than billlions before him.

iwantmybabyback, my deepest sympathy for your loss. my 21 year old daughter passed away almost 9 years ago in a tragic car accident. We were not able to view her body since it was so mangled. you will always want your baby back. i know i do. Time is the only thing that makes your days a little easier. i agree in that you ahve to go on. God gives you no choice. I believe my daughter wouldv'e wanted me to. I have put her death in a special place within me and I have learned to live with her loss. you will never get over it but you can learn to live with it in time. My prayers are with you.

thank you so much, I am at the point I am going to have to do something!

Thank you and you are so right about everything u said it helped alot. because I have so many things that we did together to be thankful for and that I will always have with me. I am sorry for the people u have lost but on the same hand I know ur right.

iwantmybabyback, my deepest sympathy for your loss. I can not say that I know what you are going through but I can certainly asure you that he is looking after you. You need to let time pass. I would like to sugegst a book for you to read when you feel better. It is called "We don't die" and it is written by George Anderson.

Oh babygirl...(I know you're not a baby, but wouldn't it be nice to feel that safe again..) I can promise you one thing, that your son is okay and is watching over you. It won't take your pain away, but the only comfort I find is knowing that I am the one suffering, not the one who is gone...there's another song, I believe it's by Diamond Rio, something to the effect of "God only cries for the living (For it's the living who are left to carry on)" It's so true.

It breaks my heart to know of a parent losing their child. I have lost almost everything, but as long as I never know this pain, everything else will pass.

I have the utmost (SP?) respect for people in your situation...granted, you didn't choose it, but you can choose what you take from this, how you wield the pain and what you turn it into. Some harbor it and it sours them, others find the miraculous strength to turn it around and bless others with the courage they learned through their tradgedy. Does that make sense.

I have never met a truly great heart that did not suffer greatly. Usually the greatness of the heart is directly related to the greatness of the pain and tradgedy suffered.

You are still so new to this and it's obvious your pain is killing you, probably quite litterally. Please seek outside help at a support group for parents of lost children. Losing a child, no matter what age is a unique experience that can only be fully understood by those who have experienced it first hand.

No matter how sympathetic I can or want to be, I'll never fully understand the gravity of the pain you feel on an every day basis....God help me if I ever do. I don't know what I'll do.

Please, again, know that your baby boy is safe in the arms of the Lord, and although it seems like an eternity, he will be waiting for you soon enough and in the mean time, he'll be watching over his mom and kissing each tear before it ever leaves your precious cheek.

((((((((((Iwantmybabyback))))))))))..... .......Angel

Angel77--------how kind you are. i'm sure your post will mean alot to all of us who have lost children. I from day one have always believed that my daughter rested in peace in the Lord's arms. It is a very difficult way of life asyou have to put your child's death in a place in your heart and life that you can somewhat live with since God hasn't given us a choice but to go on. God bless you for your understanding and I will continue to pray that parent's in this world never have to suffer this heartache though I know God has a plan.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my sister two years ago in a tragic car accident and I lost my mother in May. Both were unexpected and so shocking.

I have been going to a grief counselor and it has really helped. It is good to have family to lean on but even though we are all going through these losses together, we all grieve differently and in our own way. By seeing a grief counselor, I am able to sort out my own grief with someone that is not emotionally attached to the situation. She is helping me find my hurt and pain and see it's truth. I have been able to feel each emotion as it arises, pain, sorrow, regret, anger and believe it or not joy.

The painful loss of someone so cherished is devastating but I am learning that in living through this tremendous grief, I have been given the most life changing gifts. Like so many people have mentioned, life is not a promise, it is a gift and we don't know how long we get to keep it. Treat every day like a precious gift and appreciate all of the people in your life that bring you joy and happiness. This especially means your son, he is not gone, just transformed into something beyond our limited imaginations. He is something beautiful, everlasting and present in your heart forever.

How is everyone.....:wave: