Just lost my slim beautiful kind wife to breast cancer on the 3rd of july. We tried everything - not one thing worked. Andrea was 38 and leaves a loving husband and three young sons 5,7,8

i feel like a zombie, i am doing everything i should be - but it just hurts so much.
The 15 months of caring for her were justy agony, a week last friday i was told she had less than 6 weeks left, she would not let me tell her, she was dead by the Monday - i was so sudden

I feel like no matter what anyone says or does can make it better. I just miss her so much.

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deeply sorry to hear of your loss.

Wow im so sorry for your loss. I know nothig I can say can or will make you feel better. Someone very close to me does not long ago. I still feel the pain. Shes not suffering anymore just think of things that way. Things will get a little eaiser for you each day even when you feel like giving up. My heart goes out to you and your kids. Im sure its hard on them. Be strong for them and yourself. I hope you have some close family around you now in your time of need. They can help. God bless you and your children.

So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your children!

I know exactly how you feel. I feel like a Zombie too. I lost my boyfriend and soulmate on July 7th to a massive stroke due to brain cancer treatment. He was only 46. I'm totally paralyzed and so far it just got worse every day.

Jutta

I'm very sorry to hear of the death of your wife. It's terrible that she died at such a young age and leaving such a young family, not of course that's there's ever a good time to die. I hope you are getting help and support from family and friends, both practically and emotionally, though it's true that no one can take the pain away. Of course you will miss her terribly and I'm sure your sons do too, but for their sakes at least you have no option but to soldier on. I hope things get easier for you all eventually.

Thanks all for the kind support - i now appear to be having good and bad days - its hardest for me at night before the boys go to bed - they watch television.

My little boys say things like would'nt it be good if we had two lives and i wish we could go back in time as we watch cartoons together - i tell them no one knows how to do these things yet. I keep telling them that mummy body is dead but that her spirt is now in our hearts and minds, this comforts them and i also get them to say good night to mum photo in their bedroom this also helps - but its just starting to dawn on them that she is not coming back. The poor little souls are hurting real bad - but as suggested i will solder on and try to hide my excrutiating greif from them as this just hurts them even more.

i am determined to stay stong - hard as it may be at times, i just keep thinking what would Andrea say to me - she would say " you can if you say you can" so i am saying it.

My family and freinds are being really supportive and it really does help with everything except i still feel lost and lonely. I really miss that that closeness and intamacy - we were such good freinds
I have come to a conclusion that it not going to go away in a hurry its will just take as long as it takes.

I started a complaint today as my wife diagnosis took near sixteen weeks to happen when offically it should take three weeks on the fast route and 8 on the slow - i am furious, i had to bury my anger while my wife was alive as she wanted us to focus on beating the dam breast cancer - well i want an appology and i am going to make some noise because we could have possibly had a different outcome.

Saschasgirl and i am sure a few more of you know how evil cancer can be, it slow both physically and mentally on all concerned - especially our loved ones - please stay strong all

Mikean,
Time goes and your heart will heal. The transition is hard but with your determination and your kids you will be better each day. I am very glad to know that you are doing all you can to keep strong. My prayers go for you and your kids. I would like you to try and read " Many lives, Many Masters" a book written by Brian Weiss. I am certain it will help you. Good luck and keep us posted.:wave:

It must be infuriating to know that there was such a long delay in diagnosis. Early diagnosis is vital, it's scandalous that these long delays keep happening. I think you're right to make a complaint; you deserve an apology at least and it might result in faster diagnoses for others in the future.

I'm glad you are staying strong for your little boys. It's just so cruel they have lost their mother so early in life, but I'm sure they will never forget her. And I feel for your loneliness, which I know is hard to bear, but as the previous poster said, you will feel better when more time has passed though I'm sure that is hard to believe right now. Take care.