Your life sounds like mine! Have you filed for divorce yet? Do you plan to? How long have you been dealing with your wife's bp???

Kymberlee, The really strange thing is she filed for divorce a couple of months ago. She had an affair. I found out called her on it. Then asked if she wanted a divorce and she said yes. 12 hours later she filed. Totally screwy. To top it off we have four wonderful kids, ages 11 years old to 22 months. I feel so bad for them. They just don't get it. She pretty much flipped her lid. I hope your situation is better. God Bless....Oz :)

Wow! I'm sorry to hear that. I feel badly for your kids, too. I'm always asking myself--what's the best thing for my child??? I go back and forth! I get so confused! My husband has told me many times he wants a divorce...but has yet to file. He goes back and forth, too. All depends on the day. Sometimes I wish we'd just get it over with and then other times I think--maybe he'll finally get on the right meds. and get stable and we can have it back! :confused: I don't know. That's why I go to counseling and pray,pray,pray!!! :D

Kymberlee, If it wasn't for the support from my family and friends I think I'd crack. Sometimes I just want to scream. I feel reduced to a mobile ATM machine for my wife. That's really all she cares about, the money. Take care...Oz :)

I'm so sorry to hear that...Do you ever feel like she's taking you down with her illness? Sometimes I feel like that and that's when I know I need to talk to a friend, get on this board and vent, pray, go to church...the list goes on & on! I really try to take good care of myself & my son. He's my focus right now! ;) Well, I hope things go better for you and your family. Hang in there, friend! Kym.:angel:

Kymberlee, I not only feel like she is taking me down with her but our kids as well, and for that matter some of our friends and family. BP disorder does not just effect the individual but all those around them. I don't want to sound resentful but yes I am really mad about it. My wife constantly acuses me of being selfish, if that's not calling the pot calling the kettle black I don't know what is. At this moment she may be one of the most selfish people I know. I try to keep telling myself that it's not really her but she could at least show me a little caring. I receive nothing but angry, selish, narciscissitic bs. That pretty much covers it. I just keep praying for her and my kids...plus a lot of wonderful people on this board, especially you.....Oz :)

Oz, you just described my husband when you were talking about your wife! The sad thing is my husband has no friends! All the old friends he had live back in NY or Cal. and we've lived here in Ohio for 8 yrs.! I've got lots of friends that I can call on anytime--he has noone! He isolates himself from everyone (even me) so he has noone. What a sad, depressed way to live. His family (who live in NY) don't give a rat's a** about him! I'm sorry that your kids are so hurt from all of this. I worry about our little boy all the time and wonder if it's worth it for me to hang in here with such a sick man. :confused:

Kymberlee, I keep doing this for the kids. I love them very much and I feel like having a mother around is very important. Part of me questions this stuff but I feel so confused. I hope all this therapy stuff helps. I have two apps today. Urgh...I just wish it would get a little better. I feel really bad for our spouses. What a crummy way to go through life. I am so thankful that we have great support. I just wish our spouses did too. Take care...Oz :)

Amen to support, Oz! I went to my counseling Appt. today and I feel much better! I hope your Appts. go well for you, also! :D Kym

Kymberlee, I just got back from mine too. They went pretty well. I feel a lot better. I have some serious work to do. I need to find self. I have not taken care of me. I need to set clear health bounderies, something I have had a real hard time doing. Lots of inner child stuff. Pretty heavy. Glad yours went well. I was told that I need to get "back on the bike" if you know what I mean...LOL..Take care...Oz :)

LOL, get back on that bike!!! My Appt. went very well--I've worked thru the 'taking care' of self & child. I FINALLY 'found' my voice and my counselor was very proud of me for that. For a long time, I would just sit & listen to my husband's rants and be silent. NO MORE!!! I just say what's on my mind now and I feel FREE! I don't and won't let him use me as his doormat anymore! I feel great about this! This has taken me a long time to come to terms with! Anyway, I'm glad your Appts. went well. Listen to your counselor and take his/her advice! You'd be surprised how much can change when you react a different way to this bp illness! Your friend, Kym :D