My husband has acted inappropriately since we married over three years ago. For a few months about a year and 1/2 Ago I thought it had resolved itself with being under meds and he seemed calmer and more productive. We conceived our daughter then and I thought things were okay...Until about 15 months ago. Things went back to usual - a nighmare. My husband lost his job a week after she was born, on my birthday. He was out of work for what seemed to be forever and now seems stable again. He was recently rediagnosed from depression and ADHD to bipolar. How do I trust his condition and how do I go on with life assuming he is never stable for long? Can I have more children? Do I not rely on him and go work full time? Where do I draw my line? I love him but so much trust and confidence in him has been broken. I know its not really his fault but we have a child, a hefty mortgage and right now he wants me working part time (it would be ideal if he were pemanently under control) and is trying to start a side business he is being successful at. But that too - I worry will fail heaven forbid. We barely make our bills and usually don't. He has racked up over 30,000 dollars in debt for us (credit cards, etc.) and I am drowning in stress. I fear for my well being and my daughter's. I am under a lot of weight and I just want to be a good mother and wife. Is that too much to ask for?! Open to answers...:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Wow! I'm so sorry to hear that you & your daughter's life is in such a mess! My husband was just DX from depression to the 'mild' form of bp. (Not bp1 or bp2) My husband has rage & anger and is very tight with $$$, unless he is spending it on himself. I am a stay at home Mom. (Our little boy is almost 7) I plan to go back to work this fall when our son goes full-time to school. My husband is still in denial--he is taking anti-depression meds. but has yet to start the new med.(a mood stabilizer) from his PDOC. He thinks his 'problem' may be caused by a hormone imbalance. He has an Appt. on Aug. 7 with a specialist to see what's going on. He told me that he won't take the new med. until he has this other Appt. first! So, I am in the waiting game...again! :rolleyes: We've been thru so much of this for so many yrs. I am very tired of it! He has told me that he doesn't love me or our son anymore;that he wants a divorce. He has not filed, yet. We have NOT had sex for almost 2 yrs. No love,laughter or even friendship. We live like roommates. No fun! :blob_fire Well, I can't tell you what to do...that will be up to you. Just know that you are NOT alone and you will recieve tons of support& an ear from this board! You can come here anytime and vent! It really helps to share this with others who are going thru the very same thing! Welcome to the boards and keep posting! God Bless! Kym:angel: