Anyone else out there in a relationship with NO SEX for a long time??? How do you cope with this??? Any advice...I already have 'toys' LOL!!! Other than having an affair (which I won't do) I guess I'm a virgin again! Gotta keep laughin'! (or I'll start cryin'!) :p

Kymberlee, I am LOL. My wife and I have had very little sex for many years. I'm guessing 4-6 times a year if that. It is getting old and I would like to change that. As far as coping...I hate it. I feel like it's a power thing with my wife. The balance of power, for lack of a better description, is so tilted to her that a healthy relationship is almost impossible. Sometimes I just feel like a normal healthy sexual relationship would be really nice. I don't think that's asking too much....Oz :)

Oh, my gosh! Thanks for posting! This whole thing is crazy! I used to be a very loving, sexual wife with my husband--now I feel like I have to 'shut off' that part of me...which sucks! I guess I won't die without sex...:p I just miss the cuddling and caring part of it! I'm the most 'single' married person in the world!!! :blob_fire I know what you mean...having a normal sexual life with someone would be awesome!

Kymberlee, No we won't die with out it but it's a crummy way to live. The single women are starting to show some interest. It's so weird. I haven't done this stuff in over 15 years. I really miss it. LOL.... Well I guess it's just like riding a bike...Oz :)

Kymberlee, It's probably a good thing we don't live in the same town...LOL..Oz :)

You've got me LOL now, Oz!!!! :p Tell me about it! I haven't done this kinda thing in a long time, either! I've been hit on at the local park (I was just sitting there reading a book, minding my own business!!! LOL) I've been hit on at the local grocery store!!! It makes me feel good because I feel like I'm dog doo-doo after being rejected so many times from my bp husband!!! Then, it makes me feel trapped because I'm still married and I can't do anything!!! All I know is that I'd have a whole bunch of action if I was single again!!! LOL LOL LOL!!!!!! :cool: Yes, you're right! It's a very good thing we don't live in the same town! LOL We both understand all to well what it feels like to be with a bp person! I'll be honest with you--there are times I get temped--but I won't do anything while I'm married. I took my wedding vows to heart and I refuse to be unfaithful!

Kymberlee, My wife didn't take our wedding vows very seriously, at least not recently but I sure do. I really was tempted once, but I didn't. I don't regret it because it isn't right. After the divorce is final then I'll get back on the bike. LOL.....Oz :)

:dizzy: Oz, I'm sorry that your wife hurt you so deeply! I think if I found out that my husband ever did that to me--sickness or no sickness--I don't think I could ever forgive him! I would go and file for divorce right then & there. A person can take only so much... Do you have hopes that you & your wife will get back together? Or is it over as far as you can see? That's got to be such a hard call...because bp people are 2 different people! With my husband, it's like dealing with Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde. I called him today at work and he was sweet and told me he was sorry for last week. (Swearing at me in the heat of the moment.) He said, "I KNOW that's just wrong, and I said it anyway. There's no excuse for it." So...it's just sooooo hard! One moment, I'm ready to leave him, the next I almost feel sorry for him...:dizzy:

Kymberlee, The weird thing is she's the one who has rammed the divorce down my throat. She filed less than 12 hrs after she told me she wanted to. That was 3 months ago. I tried to wait it out but she has not changed her mind one bit. She told a friend of mine that she's totally done. She's already moved on and grieved. Not much to work on there. I really have no option. She will not negotiate or go to any more counseling. I don't know if her meds are working or if she is even taking them. She did go back to AA but I don't think she's really bought into the program. I don't know who she is....I hope you have better luck. Oz :)

Nope, there is nothing you can do now...I'm sorry. All I can say is that this may be just the start of a whole new happy future for you and your children. Who knows??? Maybe the true love of your life is just around the corner waiting for your loving arms, sweet smile & great hot bod!!! (I hope I made you smile with that!!) I look at my life like this now--if my marriage works out and my husband gets stable--I'll be thrilled. IF we get a divorce...my life will go on...and I'll be okay. (so will my little boy) A lot of my trust in whatever happens will be okay is my faith in God. Without God in my life & in my heart, I would be truly lost! He keeps me strong and going on! ;) Keep posting and remember that you are never alone! :cool: I shall be here for you, my friend!!! Kym :angel:

Kymberlee, Thank you so much for those kind words. It means so much. Whatever the future holds for me I know that it's Gods plan. I just have to follow the path he has laid out for me. You are a good person and deserve the best. Thank you...Oz :)

I was married for 13 years and at some point I felt like sex with my husband was a chore. To be candid, I would get pissed off and felt the sex was not even worth the shower I had to take afterward. :dizzy:

Needless to say we ended in divorce. I simply had no sexual feelings for him. I loved him, I still do love him. Thats what was strange.

Girlz, was it just with your husband or was it sex in general?