It sounds like things are going better for you! That's great! :) I'm glad for you! I went to counseling today and it went well. I've finally 'found' my voice when it comes to dealing with my husband...so that's a really good thing! Anyway, I had a pretty good weekend. We all went to the beach together. Then my husband was NICE to me on the phone today and told me he was sorry for cussing at me last week. That's a big step for him to admit HE was wrong. And, as my counselor pointed out to me today, my husband is FINALLY saying he HAS a 'problem' and he FINALLY owns HIS problem. That's only taken him a whole year!!! :dizzy: But, as my counselor told me, at least he has finally seen it! So, here I am, on the roller coaster again!!!:rolleyes: We'll see. I do alot of that--wait & see!!!!!!!!!!:p LV, Kym

Congratulations, I am sooooooo pleased for you. You go girl!!! :bouncing: Things are still going well this end. So as you say, we can only wait and see. Long live fair ground rides eh?

TTFN :wave:

PS Has he started to think about taking his meds yet?

Hi, Very Green! I'm glad to hear that things are still going well with you! ;) My husband told me last week that he has an Appt. with a Urologist (spelling?) on Aug. 7 to check out his hormone levels BEFORE he's willing to take the meds. I guess I've waited this long...what's a couple of weeks compared to a couple of YEARS???!!! So, again, I'm in limbo...waiting! I talked to my brother today on the phone. He doesn't think my husband will do what he is told to do! My brother is very angry at my husband for all the rotten things he's said & done to me & our son. Anyway, I just keep on keepin' on!!! Thanks for asking about my life...same as it ever was!!! LOL Kym.

Sorry to hear about the delay, but as you say, what is a few more weeks?! Things are going OK this side of the Atlantic, just a slight dip, but not bad. Hope your having a better day today.

PS. Has the good mood from your weekend at the beach continued? Sounded lovely. Wish I had a beach to go to, not quite great for that in England, although we did hit 102 degrees here yesterday, and the day before. V. HOT! :blob_fire

TTFN :wave:

What does TTFN mean? I'm not up to speed on all the little sayings for the computer! No beaches around you? Any pools? I love to swim! Maybe we'll go to the beach again this weekend! I've got a good tan goin' on now. Anyway, I never know what mood my husband will be in when he walks thru the door. :rolleyes: I just try to enjoy MY life as much as possible--after all--this is not a dress rehurseal! (can't spell, either! LOL) :wave:

TTFN is from the thunderbirds. It means Ta Ta For Now (or in a american: See ya later). Glad its still ok for you. A few stresses here, but nothing major. Busy weekend planned, so should keep me occupied!

TTFN:wave:

PS: who cares about speliing?! Communication is the key! :D

Thanks for explaining that to me! Whenever I read your posts, I always imagine your pretty accent when you talk! :wave:

Thank you. Can't say i have ever imagined my accent as pretty! But then you get used to your own!!

Weekend wasn't great, but not total disaster either. How was yours? Hope your doing ok.

TTFN :wave:

Hi, Very Green! My weekend was okay...nothing thrilling! I'm in the process for looking a job! My little boy is going into 1st grade this fall, so I'm looking for a job! I haven't worked for 8 yrs!!! (We moved here-Ohio-from NY., then got pregant, had a hard pregancy, had baby and has been a stay at home Mom!) :cool: I'm really excited about going back into the work force! It will give me something to focus on and do something different! My hubby goes to see his PDOC this Thur. We'll see what comes from that! What's new with you? :angel: Kym.

Not much really, things are staying on an almost even keel right now. We are not as close as normal, but nor are we having any hostility. He said he had a good session with the therapist, but hasn't told me about it yet. Will wait to let him tell me when he wants to. Don't want to push him.
Forgot to answer part of your other thread before, so here it is: Yes we do have beaches near us, but trust me, you wouldn't want to sunbathe on them!! Got local swimming baths, but not so keen on catching those little verruccas! Prefer sunbathing! Ah well, will have to hope for a holiday.

Good luck with the job hunting!!!

TTFN :wave:

Thanks, Very Green! :cool: Kym

You are very welcome! I on the other hand, would love to have some days off work. I would welcome a break very much right now. Just want to wisk him away and have our time together. Quite difficult with us both working though. Haven't even planned a holiday yet. Dont even know if we can get the time off. Sigh!
Ah well, life goes on. Hope things are ok for you right now. Just remember to keep thinking of yourself through all this. :D

Prayers and wishes coming your way :angel:

TTFN :wave:

Hey you two. How are things going? I've been gone for a little while and I'm just trying to see how everyone is doing. I miss you two. You both can make me laugh and cry....just a tiny bit though... I hope you both are ok....Oz :)

Hey, there, OZ! I'm doing okay! My husband has an Appt. with his PDOC tomorrow. I'm looking for a job. (As you know if you've been reading these posts.) I had a good time with my friend today. A good talk, a good laugh. It was fun! Next week, we're going to go to the pool and go swimming again. Might as well get some fun in before I'm a working girl again! LOL ;)

Hey Oz and Kym,

Hope your both ok. Not been able to log in for a few days. Computer trouble. Things still ok here.

Remember, life is a rollar coaster :p

STOP THE WORLD, I WANT TO GET OFF!

TTFN :wave:

Very Green--Me too!!! I hate this rollercoaster!!! Things are the same here. We all went to the beach the other day again. My husband seemed to be in a pretty good mood(for him) and then! SWITCH! He's angry, lashing out at me again. I told my Doctor friend (she's a G.P.) that my husband's PDOC prescribed Lamicial (sp) for him. (which he has not started yet) She asked me,"You know what that's for, right? Bipolar." I told her,"Yeah. I looked it up on the computer." She said, "Oh, you have a hard road." She's such a good friend. Our lives...on the good ol' rollercoaster! :blob_fire

I am sorry to hear that. Pain in the a**** when that happens. I started trying to pre-empt everthing to try and keep life as stress free as possible. Let me tell you my friend, THAT DOESNT WORK! When one thing is solved, another stress pops up. Its like trying to play that gopher game (where you have to hit the plastic gophers on their head when they pop out of their hole. Trouble is, another one then pops up!) Impossible to keep up with. Since I stopped trying to pre-empt, life has become easier, because I am not as stressed :p
Hope you manage to get some other great days at the beach :D You and your son deserve it.

TTFN :wave:

Thanks, Very Green! I know what you mean about little stress popping out of nowhere! Man! The other day when my DH was so angry at me, I looked at him in the eye and just smiled big & wide grin! :D That pissed him off even more! LOL I know I shouldn't do that, but sometimes I just give in to what I feel like. :p Talk to you again, friend! Hope things are going well for you! Kym.

Going well at the moment. But I know what you mean about wanting to do just what you want, sod the consequences that you know will happen! LOL.:D

TTFN:wave:

Yes, I can be that way...I'm glad things are going well. (even if for the moment) :p Kym.

WOW! Things are still going well! can't believe it. Still keeping one ear cocked though!
Hope you are doing ok. Hows the job hunting going?

TTFN :wave:

Very Green, I'm glad things are STILL going well for you! That's great! My DH went to the Urlogist (Sp?) Appt. today. He's hoping that it's his 'lack of hormones' that's causing his 'problems'. (That, and of course, me--I DON'T clean the house often or good enough! I've heard this one for yrs.) Well, I say, go to the Doctor and finally SEE what the REAL problem is!!! You're mental health illness!!!! :dizzy: Oh, my Gosh! If I had a $dollar for everytime my DH went in & out of denial, I would be RICH! Anyway, that's what's going on. I'm still looking for the perfect job. (perfect hrs., anyway! They have to go along when my son is in school!) I'm going to the School tomorrow when my friend will watch my son so I can see what they have to offer. I know God will provide the right job, the right hrs. just when I need it. He always has known just what I need before I can even think about it! So I pray that way, now. (((((((Hugs)))))))) to you! Kym :D

A job in a school would be perfect to fit around your sons schooling. Hope you doing Ok, and looking after yourself.
Things going great this end. :confused: Shall just go with the flow!
Hopefully your DH will have an epiphany soon. And may just stay out of denial for at least longer than 10 minutes. Thinking of you, and sending prayers and ((((HUGS)))) your way.
You are a special person, and i know that God will take you down the right path.

Good luck with the job hunting, and God bless.:angel:

TTFN :wave:

((((((((((Hugs, Very Green!))))))))))))))))))))))) LV, Kym. ;)

OK. Not good. Why does he want to destruct all the time? He dipped yesterday. And i when i got home, told me he had been looking at porn and masturbating. He knows I feel hurt by that, and didn't have to tell me. When I asked why, he said because he felt like it. He said he couldn't be trusted to be decent. I wouldn't have known if he hadn't told me. I feel he told me for two reasons. a) to hurt me, b) to prove his own point that he can't be 'good'. He has always said he felt he couldn't trust himself. The way he told me, it felt exactly like he wanted to prove this. But then that just makes him worse. So after he beat himself up (mentally), he then decided to verbally attack me. I just don't know what to anymore.
He said he is disappointed in himself for not managing to stay stable, but this is longest time he has stayed this way. Before, the mood turn arounds were roughly every 2 -3 days, this time, he stayed stable for three weeks. Why can't he see this as progress?! :blob_fire

I feel sick.

Hope things are going better for you.:) :angel:

TTFN :wave:

I'm sorry to hear about this, Very Green. It's always something, huh??? My DH got his 'results' from his bloodtest--totally NORMAL!!! So, who knows what he will do next?? Hopefully he will go on the new med. his PDOC gave him over a month ago!!! I hope things improve for you & your DH! Keep me updated! Kym.

Sorry to hear it as well. I feel sometimes my wife will tell me something that hurts my feelings either to prove a point to herself ( like see I'm a bad person, I shouldn't be involved with you) or she does it to drag me down so I'm miserable and gives her the reason to stay away "you were in a bad mood so I gave you your space". Good Luck. Take Care

Thank you for your replies. Sorry not written for a while, been on holiday. We had a great time, and got close again, BUT............... I am struglling with this porn thing. I am jumpy if he goes near a computer. Is it unrealistic to expect him never to do it? HELP!

TTFN :wave: