hi,
My husband was on medication when I got pregnant. I was wondering if there were any effects to the baby from medication that he was taking. Also wondering how any women out there stay in a healthy relationship with their bipolar husband. Mine decided that we should separate, and now he is gone.
Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

I am almost positive that the medication will not affect the baby in any way. I've never heard of drugs a father has taken doing anything to a baby, unless it was LSD. I don't think you have a thing to worry about there.

It is hard living with a BP spouse. I'm sorry you are going through this right now, especially with you pregnant. Is he taking his meds? When my husband is not medicated, he almost always threatens divorce or separation.

I am sorry for your situation of being abandoned during this time as you are expecting a baby.

I know that us moms worry about everything....I worried about having had a few drinks in me the night I conceived so I do know where you are coming from!!:D

Okay....as far as the meds your hubby is on I am one that believes that everything one is on that affects the cells within a body will affect the egg and sperm as well.....however there are certain meds that are less of a problem than others. The best source of alleviating your fears would be your ob/gyn and perhaps your husband's pdoc. I really think that your worries would be minimal for there are only a few meds men are on that are cautioned most of which are chemotherapy in which they harvest the sperm specifically in that situation for future pregnancies.

For the most part it would be more important what the mom is on in terms of meds since she is the incubator and anything in the blood that nourishes the baby will affect the growing fetus. So I think that you really don't have much to worry about.

As far as hubby taking off.....has he been taking his meds??? I know with somebody who is Bipolar any significant changes can trigger the disorder so perhaps the pregnancy and some of his personal concerns of being a good enough father may have triggered this reaction in him. I have two teenaged daughters who are being evaluated for Bipolar and they have certainly done their share of running away!!!:D And since coming here I read about alot of adults doing the same. So I would guess that either he is not taking his meds OR that something has triggered him to act in such a way.

Anyway.....you take care of yourself and try not to worry too much about the meds your hubby has been on....I am sure that when you discuss it with your doctor that they will reassure you that there isn't much to worry about.

Good luck and congratulations ~ Goody:angel:

NO,
He wasn't taking meds. Still is not. But he has informed me that he is not coming back because he is tired of taking care of me. He made is sound like he only married me to take care of my daughter from a previous relationship. He said he will try to get partial custody, and he is tired of trying to make it work. Our one year anniversary is end of September.

Jesse, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband leaving. I know that knowing he has an illness does NOT take the pain away...but remember that EVERYTHING he sayes and does right now is the illness talking. This is in NO WAY have anything to do with you! This is all about your husband being ill and not on his meds. My bp husband has said & done some VERY hurtful things to me and our little boy. Some of the things he has said & done...he doesn't even remember now!!! :eek: So, that reminds me just how sick he is! Right now you need to take care of yourself and that little bundle of joy you are growing inside of you! What a blessing in the mist of a huge stormy time in your life! Remember that you are not alone! You truly have the support of all of us at this board! I want an update whenever you feel like you want to share with us! When is your baby due? :D Hang in there! From one Mom to another Mom!!! :angel: Kym.

The baby is due December 30. As far as I know, he still wants a divorce, but he hasn't even talked to me since he hung up on me on Monday night. I have nightmares and every morning, I wake up at eight, since he left. ususally when I wake up is when I will cry. I have trouble eating. I just hope and pray that he will decide that I am important enough for him to come back.

Jesse, so you have a way to go till you have your baby. I'm sorry that you haven't heard from your husband. As far as eating & sleeping; maybe the next time you see your Doctor, you should tell him/her all the stress that is going on with you at home. Maybe the Doctor will have some helpful tips for you at this time of trouble. It's so hard to be pregant with all the hormones flying around and now this huge stress of your bp husband! :dizzy: Do you have any close friends or relatives close by that you can talk to and hang out with? I think that would help you out right now. Keep us updated! God Bless you & your baby!!! :angel: Kym

There hasn't been anything else going on, except that my husband called CPS on me. Now, I get to deal with that stress. I think that he figures if he can get them to take my daughter away, then he can get custody of the baby. I am terrified of him having anything to do with any children. He can't even handle babies crying. I am concerned, and I don't see anything good coming out of any of this.

Wow, Jesse! Well, I can tell you that CPS will do an investagation and if there is nothing there to report(which I'm sure there isn't.) then it will be dropped. I used to be a Social Worker for yrs. (quit when I had my baby) and they won't take a baby from his/her Mother unless there is real reason. I know it's a hassle, but hang in there. They'll figure out that your husband is the one who has the 'problem'; not you. I can understand that you're under a huge amount of stress right now! Just be honest & yourself with the Social Workers and there will be nothing to fear. Tell them all about your husband's illness, too. It will help them to get an idea what's really going on with the two of you. :angel: God Bless! Kym:)

Listen to Kym. I'm sure she knows what she's talking about. I would let the CPS visit be the least worry you have. I would definately tell the social worker about his bipolar. If it's documented by a psychiatrist that he has it, I'm sure that will work in your favor in keeping him away from your child, especially if he's not medicated. Keep us updated.

Thanks everyone! It is really getting irritating. He is staying with his friends, a woman who abandoned her children, and he is friends with a few other women who have lost their own children. This just seems all backwards to me. I don't want this to turn into a huge drama, but he and his friends just won't quit. He has only one male friend, and the women friends he have love drama, and so does he. So almost everyday I am hearing more lies that they are spreading. We live in a small town, and although I have moved, it is still going around. I am wondering also if he is back using drugs again. I am not sure how to prove any of this though, and although the mental health people have been alerted to his condition, nothing has been done. He needs to be hospitalized. I am so frustrated. Now my daughter's father and his family is getting involved, which I really don't need. I feel bad for the social worker. He is new, a nice man, and seems very irritated by all this, because I have told him what my husband has, and my friend has even told him that this is retaliation. For what, I am not sure, but my husband imagines things, and he lies to people about many things. I know this because I have heard it, and he has told my friend stuff that she has told me, and it is very exaggerated, or just a plain lie. How can I get people to take me seriously?