ok people, i dont meen to sound mean and im not trying to but i just have to put this out there..
This is an eating disorder recovery board. Not a 'this is what i do with my eating disorder' board. We come here to dicuss/suggest/support/advise each other. Not just talk about what our eds do to us. Im not talking to anyone specifically but i just see ***** being posted everywhere and its not recovery. Please no one take this specifically. I just rather read suggestions on how to overcome my eating diorder than reading "this is what ed and me did today...period." thats not helpful. please take this into consideration when posting.

Pinstriped--

Thanks! I don't post here anymore, and I can't really read most of the posts here b/c I get too triggered.

BUT I do read the thread you post in...I find it very positive. Even when you guys have rough times, recovery is your obvious goal and I find that inspiring!

I understand what you are saying but you have to remember most of us don't go to therapy and have nobody to talk to so there are days you just want to come here and vent. Its hard enough keeping it a secret from the rest of the world sometimes you just need someone to listen and tell you its ok and you are not the only one in this world that feels this way or acts a certain way.
I know for me this board has been very helpful. There are always going to be people who don't agree with me but no matter where you go people are the same.
I am sure some posts do trigger but at the same time the individuals who are writing those posts are in pain too. Something that may trigger one person may just be that "a ha" moment for another. I have read posts sometimes and thought 'wow, I do that and I never realised other people took it that way' Everybody deals with things differently so we have to be understanding of everyone.
I don't mean to offened people by the things I post and I do apologise if I do but as I mentioned before sometimes I get so tired of keeping things a secret and pretending day in and day out. I need to vent and this is the only place I can do it. I know you said that you are not targeting anybody or directing your post at a certain inividual. Yes, this is a recovery board and to me that means talking about issues that bother you on a day to day basis.

You know Pinstripe-
Part of recovery is being able to accept your situation, deal with your problems and cope with all of the emotional aspects if eds. Recovery comes in many levels and forms, and it includes talking about what you and your eds did today. It includes talking about what kind of day you had whether it's good or bad. By being able to get these feelings out, many people are in some way helping their recovery along.

Another very important part of recovery is support, and people come here and share seeking that support. You come here, express how you feel, and you get support through others sharing their experiences and knowing they truly understand how you feel and what you go through on a day to day basis.

This all helps lead to the acceptance part of recovery. Whne you don't feel so isolated, and so alone, and are able to find out there are many others who deal with this every day it's easier to accept yourself. You don't feel like such a "failure" or "freak of nature".

So, although I respect your opinion and your post, I don't agree with it at all. This board is the only chance some people get to just vent and express how they feel without being judged, and to diminish it in any way by making comments like "just talking about what you and your eds did today" has nothing to do with recovery doesn't serve to help anyone along in their recovery. In my opinion.

Actually, I do see what you guys are saying. Maybe we could just try to limit talk about specific behaviors? Meaning details, and ESPECIALLY numbers. Weights are so, so triggering for me and a lot of other people.


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This isn't directed towards anybody, I promise. I've been guilty of focusing too much on behaviors/numbers myself in the past. Maybe if we focus more on feelings in general, the factors that drive our behaviors. But you're right, not all of us are as close to recovery as some (me for example...no where near it at this point!). I think you guys are right though, a lot of us feel isolated in "real life" and here is the only place to vent.

Just my opinion!

Sunshine,

I agree feelings should be the focus. My therapist says that if we don't express our feelings verbally, we end up expressing them in other ways and hurt ourselves physically. That is so true.

you guys im sorry, i should have specified. im not talking about venting. thats fine. i just sometimes feel like when im reading a post, it comes out more like "im a better anorexic/bulimic/whatever because i do this." Thats triggering. To those of you who want to recover, your welcomed here! and im glad your here! i dont know, maybe its just my ed interpeting things differently than evryone elese. thats probably it because eds do weird things. i dunno anymore. But when i read something as simple as "i barely ate anything today" i read "im better than you because i didnt eat much." uggghh i dunno, anyone elese expierence this?

Reminder:

Do not post specific ED behaviors, ED details, weight or numbers.

Those details are not necessary for getting and giving support.

If a post is triggering, then report it, do assume any kind of authority over others or tell them what to post.