not seen you posting in a while,hope all is ok with your son,missing you on these boards,give me an update,love,sad mum

Hi. I am fine.Haven't seen son in 2 weeks. He lost his job from what I hear. Heard today he's back on the xanax. Friend he worked with told me. Said he's worried about him. I said, don't be. he made the choice to go back with ex girlfriend who is nothing but trouble. Now he's back where he started 3 months ago. I've done all I know to do. All he has to do is wlk through the front door and he has a roof over his head, parents that love him, food to eat and clean clothes. But he doesn't want that. that's all I have to give. If it's not enough, I can't help it. Today has been a tough day for me. Found out this morning by beloved lab, Bo, has heartworms...and I have to get him treated and it's very hard on animals....so I am concentrating on him. Son, is on the backburner for once. I know that sounds terrible, but Bo wants my help and loves me no matter what. Son needs to grow up and take responsibility. Maybe he likes to live the way he's living. things may never hcange for him.....it's all up to him now....guess I'm getting hardened.......bout time, huh? thanks for writing and thinking about me..........how are you and yours. Update me!!!! Need some good news!!!:)

PS...Just got a call from his worker friend. Wanted to know if I had seen my son. I said no. He said his girlfriend just called him and was crying, said he left in her car 5 hours ago and she hasn't seen him. I said oh well. She wanted him and now she has him. He doesn't even have a drivers license....what's she doing letting him drive her car anyway?????? Real smart as usual......

so sorry your post was not good,really mean this flintrock i feel for you ,been there got the t shirt,now good buddy you have to look after you so when your son comes back,and he will,you are strong enough to deal with this,you are so like me inasmuch as you wont enable him but will always be there to support him when hes ready to be clean,and i believe that is the right way for us,katy remember detoxed at least 6 times.all at home,tried rehab twice and is now nearly 3 months clean,because i think this is her time,addiction is a terrible curse,the experts reckon it takes a few times before they actually do it,but each time they try they get closer to succeding,in the meantime try a good quality B complex vitamin,its great for stress and anxiety,added bonus is it does you hair and nails a power of good,i was having megga panic attacks and it helped no end,always here to reply to you if you need me,and saying heartfelt prayers,hope pooch is ok,love and hugs,karyn

You are so sweet!! He came by yesterday...I told him what was on my mind and that I knew he was using the pills again. He denied it...but I told him I knew. I told him he could just take his stuff and go, and live with her as he didn't need his family. All he does is come in every few weeks, change clothes...No word of Hi mom, how are you? Do you need the yard mowed.....you know???? nothing. I told my hisband when he came home that I was done. I told son I was done. He said, oh you're just writing me off? I said, no you've written us off. We don't care anymore. You are who you are and I cant change that. He left......so who knows....he knows where I stand. He wouldn't take his clothes with him. He knows deep down he'll be back. But he's do it alone this time.....I really am quite done...............I have a 16 yr old to take care of and he gets my attention....he's a great kid and he sees what his brother is doing...he agrees with me...cause he's sees it....

i feel so sad flintrock,but good parenting goes deep and yes he will be back and the good thing is you made it clear how you feel, i too have ayounger son and was so caught up with her addcition i was frantic with worry and now i stop and think what must have gone through this little 12yr olds mind and i feel sad for him,i sometimes think there are things i will never forgive katy for,and while our relationship is good it is not as good as it could have been,he said to me he wished it was his birthday and he would ask for the whole day to be for him,well he is my main priority now too,keep in touch,love sad mum

You are so right. My 16 yr old is my pride and joy. he's caring and loving and always thinks of other people. My eldest has always been selfish, self centered and never thinks about anyone else. He didn't even call his dad on father's day. He didn't even give me a card on mother's day. My 16 yr old went to the $ store and bought a card from my 16 yr to give to me so I would feel good. Now that's a heart............and he's not on the back burner any longer. Stay strong with me and we'll get through this. Sometimes I ewish I didn't love him soooo much. It would make this all a lot easier.........hugs to you!!!