i just saw this on an english forum and it got lots of responses i just wondered what your views are:confused: . it was saying a young girl on their board referred to her dd as sexy:eek:
i personally think this term is way inappropriate and i would keep ds away from anyone who called him sexy. i do not believe children should be sexualised at all:nono: , calling a baby sexy little girl/boy i feel is wrong. people were trying to say it is ok to call there baby sexy what do you all think?????

Weepy...have you ever had a bad experience growin up? Just a thought? Or maybe you saw something inapropriate? I myself say it all the time innocently though...No biggie sometimes children mimick something too cute and it pops out. Maybe sexy isnt a good word to use but most of the time its innocent. Just have to look out for the pervs is all. ;) Why dont you start a dialog over on that board and ask them why they feel its ok to say this..... Or is it just innocent folk that use the word as an endearment and nothing else. We use the words pretty, stinky, poopoo girl/boy, scooter, duckie, does that make those children any less of a person? Maybe if you use it in the deragatory sense but if it is mixed with love whats the problem. Everyone has a hangup when it comes to their kids and thats not a bad thing unless it crosses a line that causes the child to have issues in life that prevent them from becoming a whole person in their own right.;) Jess my humble opinion!:)

I have to agree with cheynne on this.

A man may look at a woman and say she's beautiful or gorgeous. He may say she's sexy.

That same man may look at his daughter and say she's beautiful, gorgeous or sexy. This doesn't mean he has the same thoughts with regards to the use of the words.

And besides some people may use these words in a different context. For example what one person sees as gorgeous the other person may see it as pretty.

if we are saying it's inappropriate to say a child is sexy, our child by the way, then what else is inappropriate??? To say they are pretty? gorgeous? cute? handsome? attractive? where would we draw the line?

For example...............my daughter is stunning!!! She is gorgeous, unbelievable pretty and has a cute sexy bum in her little summer shorts!!!! Just because i have said this doesn't mean i am a perv in any way shape or form. It shows that i realise how attractive she is and how her little features contribute to this.

thanks for your replies i was not being hostile :cool: just i saw the thread and was shocked if my parents called me sexy i would think it wierd:eek: . no i never had any bad experiences i grew up in a loving home but was never called sexy, if my dad called me sexy i would think it stange. just because i think it weird that people call their children sexy does not mean i have had a bad experience, i could ask do those who call their baby sexy have they had bad experiences, i just presume this is not the case just that they want to use an adult term for a child. sexy is a sexual connotation in my book, perhaps strangely people use this word differently to me:confused: . i see adults everyday in my job who were abused as children if that matters. but i still think sexy is an inappropriate word to call a child itis a sexual reference. i don't really care what people call their children as long as no one calls my baby sexy - i think it is way wierd to call a child that just like i don't think children should be dressed in short skirts like adults, i think children lose their innocence way too early because adults treat them like adults as oppossed to children. words like pooppy are not sexual so i think that is the big difference. i want my ds to have a good self esteem and have a positive body image i just don't feel he needs to be sexualised as a child to get that. just my opinion thanks for sharing yours:cool:oh and i asked this here because i wondered if people in the u.s called their children sexy because people are too liberal in the uk sometimes and i wondered if this sexy businesss was just done here but no people obviously do it there too, maybe i am old fashioned, i don't know

Weepy one. I too think that is weird. How can a baby be sexy? The word sexy as I know it is referring to someone in a lustful way. I would be freaked out if my parents told me I was sexy. I mean maybe if you were joking about it in a sarcastic way or something. But the other day I was at old navy and saw some infant swim suits. I am talking 3-6 months old. They were the triangle top bikinis. I thought that is kind of weird for a little baby to be wearing that is if her parents are trying to make her look sexy. I don't know. I am only 23 so I don't think I am that old fashioned. So I totally agree with you that is just sort of tacky.

Weepyone...I agree with you. I personally wouldn't call my DD "sexy"...even in the most endearing, cutesy kind of way.

In fact, I've heard my FIL say, "Hey baby" to my DD...but the tone more like a sexual catcall. I know my FIL wouldn't intend or mean anything by it...he calls his cats that way too...but it ABSOLULETY, DEFINITELY creeps me out despite that. My H also thinks it's creepy.

American Heritage dictionary defines Sexy as:
1. Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.
2. Slang Highly appealing or interesting; attractive: “The recruiting brochures are getting sexier” (Jack R. Wentworth).

So, definition #2 is a slang term...but I have so say I don' think I've ever used that. Maybe it's a regional thing.

Just had to chime in with my thoughts :) , but I think sexy is way inappropiate as a term of endearment to a child. I agree with weepy that it is a sexual term and has a sexual meaning - hence the first three letters being S-E-X. I would fall over in shock if my father (or mother, for that matter) called me sexy or if my dh called my dd sexy! Yikes!

thanks ladies i was not sure if i was just abnormal as noone seemed to agree with me.;)

Weepy...I too think calling a child sexy is inappropriate. I am 34 and do not consider myself old-fashioned in the least.

We want children to grow up with a good sense of self, and calling them sexy as a child...what are they going to think as they grow up and realize in what context the word 'sexy' refers to.

Sharon...pretty, georgous, cute, handsome and attractive have never had an underlining sexual context in any of my conversations...but sexy is completely different. If you and your husband are ready to make love and he said "Get over here cutie" as opposed to saying "Get over her sexy"...would you still be flattered and in the mood?

Guess it's just me, but I'd be hesitant of anyone being around my daughter if they ever called her sexy...it just isn't appropriate.

Just my 2 pennies worth.
Rochelle

I think calling a baby sexy is inappropriate. If anyone referred to by dd as sexy I would think they were some kind of pedifile. I don't see how a baby could be sexy. cute, adorable, beautiful, handsome etc... sexy? I don't think so. That's just my 2 cents.

I wouldn't call a baby sexy, personally. If you think about the meaning of the word, it kind of makes you sick, especially when you read about certain things in the news.

\and has a cute sexy bum in her little summer shorts!!!!

Uhg, that makes my skin crawl. My daughter is not sexy, not at 4 months old! When she is old enough to display sexuality and be mature enough to understand the ramifications of such an emotion, THEN she'll be allowed to be sexy.

I think this is the problem with our society, we view sexuality as just another frivilous emotion, or in this case, "just another word", instead of reserving it as a sacred emotion between two loving partners. Allowing sexuality, sensuality and sexiness to become the norm in little girls detracts from its sacredness later on, making them more vulnerable to inappropriate sexual encounters at a younger age. After all, they grew up being "sexy", so what is there to wait for?

My MIL bought my daughter a two piece swim suit. Sorry, but my daughter will not be wearing a two piece swim suit.

I'm with Weepy on this one. Referring to young babies and children as sexy is inappropriate. Sexy is something I want her to share with a loving partner, not any old person who can say the word.

if somebody said my baby was sexy, i would probably say something like "get away from my baby you perv". i would feel very uncomfortable... i don't think there is anything "sexy" or at all sexual about my (or any) baby.

however, i can see myself possibly dancing around the house like a fool with the baby, maybe singing him a song in a goofy voice and calling him sexy. i would never use the term to describe my baby, but i am pretty silly and have been known to call my baby just about anything. i woulden't mean anything by it though, and i woulden't say things like this that may confuse a small child once he got old enough to understand my words.

does this make sense?

I agree with weepy. I would have issues with someone calling my kids sexy.

Very interesting thread Weepy!
I think if a parent is calling their child sexy in an endearing way then we are reading WAY too much into it.
If other people call your baby sexy then there may be a problem.
I don't think it is right to do this, don't get me wrong. I just believe that in some cases it is completely innocent and harmless.
For example: I dressed my 3 month old in a new little outfit the other day and I picked him up and looked at him and gave him a big kiss on his pudgy cheek and said "awww, look at my sexy little man!" I said to my dh immediately that it sounded wrong and that the word Handsome would have been more appropriate. It totally felt wrong right after I said it but because it came out of my mouth doesn't make me a perv or bad Mommy does it!? Nope.
Over all however, I do agree with all the posts that are against it. I don't feel that it is appropriate at all. If it does slip like in my case though I think there is nothing wrong with it.

Hi

My turn :)

I agree with you weepy in that i dont like the term 'sexy' for a baby as i too associate the word with sex and i wouldnt feel comfy with someone called my son 'sexy' but then hows this.......when i was breastfeeding I was chatting to a woman who was also breastfeeding and i said "breastfeeding makes me feel really relaxed" she replied with thats because it releases the same hormone as when you have an orgasm. Now that bits all ok to say as thats apparently true but then she said " i enjoy breastfeeding as it makes me feel sexy" !!

hmmm i just didint know how to take that but i kind of felt weird about it. I can see that it could have been said in a totally innocent way but i think because the comment followed the orgasm hormones comment and she closed her eyes while breastfeeding - i dont know it just seemed very weird and inappropriate to me. :confused:

I think it's wrong on every level. I would be very upset if anyone used the word 'sexy' around my DS. With so many child molestors and perverts out there we need to use out words with caution.
The word 'sexy' should not be used in the same sentence as 'baby'.
Thats just my opinion.

i got to say, ive called my own son "sexy" but not in that kind of way, if he dresses up for say a holiday or something i will say "well arent you sexy" no biggie, i wouldnt say it to another baby though:wave:

I agree that context and who is saying it is what matters. Whatever a parent calls their child is really their business. Which probably most of the babies being called that are too little to understand. Just like I talk more freely around my 9 month old than I do my 4 or 7 year old children. I'm sure once they become old enough to understand they will watch their terms of endearment. I call my daughter fat mama and big bootie girl now but will I call her that when she can understand? Definitely not. Both my girls have also been caught in 2 piece bathing suits before, but that's not because I'm trying to make them sexy....I just think they're cute:p !

i totally agree with MAXX09! my sentiments exactly!