Hi, I have a 13 month old son and have recently been considering trying to have another one. I know I want more then one child so I guess I just want to get it over with. What do you think is a good age difference for kids? my older brother is 3 1/2 years older then me and I always thought that was too much time. Do you think I will be taking away from my son by having another so early? Whats you experience with this and would you have another one?

i always thought 4 or 5 years. there is 4 years between me and my little sis and i think that is about right, plus i don't think i could cope with 2 tiny ones and we definately could not afford 2 in childcare. everyones situation and ideal is different besides my pregnancy was like torture i need a long gap so i can try to forget how bad it was lol - but true:p

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It's completely up to you and your significant other to decide on this. I guess all you can do is get opinions and then make your own decision.
I have an older brother who is 3 years and 2 months older than me. We fought like cats and dogs throughout our childhood and we still are not close. We have fights still to this day and I am 33 in August and he just turned 36. I also have two half siblings. My sister is 14, going on 15 in October and my little bro is 11 going on 12. I get along fabulously with them but that could be because we never lived together! They are the product of my Father's new marriage.
I have a son, Caden, who turned 2 on June 30th and my second son is turning 3 months on Thursday. That makes them 22 months apart. I soooo hope they get along for the most part and grow up to be good buddies. I know they will have their moments and sibling rivalry is bound to rear it's ugly head but maybe when they are older they will "hang out". There is no saying which way is better.
In my opinion though, having two little one's right now is amazing! I absolutely love it. They are my two little Prince's and I wouldn't change anything for the world! Two in diapers.... big deal! I am loving it. (Can you tell I'm loving it! lol).

well my son will be 10 months old and i am 6 weeks pregnant, not by choice but happy because they will be close, me and my sister are 4-5 yrs apart and growing up we hated each other:dizzy:

My older sister and I are exactly 22 months apart. We fought like cats and dogs growing up and pretty much hated each other, BUT now that we're adults (I'm 28, she's 30) we're best friends! My ds just turned 6 and my dd will be 3 months in a couple of days and although I would've like the ages a little closer I'm happy and my ds LOVES being a big bro and holding his little sis and singing and reading to her. It's so cute! You've got to do what feels right for you.

I have 3 kids ages 13, 8, and 3 and a half months. I was young when I had my first so that is why there is that 5 year gap. I always thought it would be ok because they would fight less. But that isn't true. They fight as much as if they were a year or 2 apart. I really think it depends on the child. They are all different. I wish I had my 3 month old sooner because I really feel my 8 year old would have been great with a sibling closer in age. I am already thinking about ttc in about 6 months. I think it might be nice to have 2 close together.

Thanks for all you replies. My son is a little over a year and I think I wil start TTC in a few months. that way they will be around 2 years apart. I think I have just been baby crazy lately because my son is walking and I recently weaned him and it hit me, hes a TODDLER!:dizzy: I feel like just yesterday I was in labor! but I cant wait to try and have a little sister for him to play with, I have to try real hard because the men in my husbands side of the family havent conceived a girl in like 5 generations!

Well my sister and I are just a little under 2 years apart. I think it's great to have children who are aleast close in age. It's always great to have someone close to you going through some simuliar situations with. I was glad we were close, I had someone to talk to when I didn't have any friends. Family is always there and usually easy to count on for help. When the kids have a huge age gap things can be hard. I have friends that barely have any relationship with their siblings because they are 6-10 years apart in age and just don't have common interests or aren't in the same place in theirs lives.