Within the last three months I lost my job, a 20-year friendship and had a final breakup (of a 5-year off and on relationship). Although I know that all these changes are ultimately the best things that could have happened to me, I am still dealing with a sense of loss. I will start going to a psychologist, but I could not get an appointment until July 31. I have crying spells. I mope. I feel life has been sucked out of me. I find that I am leaning on my daughter (who is 14) a little too much, and this is not fair to her, nor is she equipped to deal with this and help me out. I have family across the country, but I do not want to worry them. What can I do in the meantime? I feel like I am sinking deeper and deeper.

Within the last three months I lost my job, a 20-year friendship and had a final breakup (of a 5-year off and on relationship). Although I know that all these changes are ultimately the best things that could have happened to me, I am still dealing with a sense of loss. I will start going to a psychologist, but I could not get an appointment until July 31. I have crying spells. I mope. I feel life has been sucked out of me. I find that I am leaning on my daughter (who is 14) a little too much, and this is not fair to her, nor is she equipped to deal with this and help me out. I have family across the country, but I do not want to worry them. What can I do in the meantime? I feel like I am sinking deeper and deeper.

well, july 31st isnt' that far off. just 5 more days. TRY to do what you can till you see the doctor. FORCE yourself if you have to. i've had to try and force myself for months now. sounds like you could use some meds from my exp now with depression. its not fun at all. i know its hard and tough. exercise helps they say. you can go for walks. even if its down the street and back. why dont' you tell your family? they might be able to help. sorry if i'm not very helpful but i'm trying to help others like they have helped me. they have mostly helped me by just listening through emails. another thing i've been told is to write how you feel. no one needs to read it . just start writing. that is something that doesn't work for me though. i dont' like to write. anyway, hope things go better once you see the doc. :wave: