Hi,
I am a 20 year old guy with CP. I just wonder if anyone else feels this, I only feel comfortable dating women with CP as they do not judge my problems and I can really understand them and they can really understand me. AB women just tend to look at my walk and think I am not date material and assume I must be stupid because of how I walk.

Does anyone else just feel better dating people like them rather than AB people?

:confused:

I'm open to dating either/or. One plus about AB guys is that they generally have the strength to support me (I like to lean on people when I walk... parents won't spring for a wheelchair and my insurance company denied me!);) With CP guys, it's great because we have some common ground and can understand eachother, but it seems like with most of my CP friends all we ever talk about is CP. I hate that!

Well, I would probably date someone with CP...except I don't know anyone else with it. I've never gone to any groups or camps or anything, and I know one other disabled person (girl) from college...sooo that leaves me with AB guys, which hasn't gone so well for some of the same reasons you mentioned :).

Hey Jelly, that stinks about your wheelchair...I know when I applied for my electric one my PT wrote a letter explaining about easily tiring, etc., and gave her phone number...the insurance company called and grilled her but I think it helped me get approved. If you didn't do that the first time maybe you could and then reapply? Even a letter from your primary care doctor or someone would probably help.

AB women look down at my walking and stuff like I need a disabled toilet. But CP women just think of me as a person and not a DISABLED guy and nothing else.

Jelly, that is really poor that you can not get a chair funded.
Keep at them and they might change their mind

I dont' use a w/c, but I had to post in agreement with getting your PT, doctor, or both, to write to your insurance company regarding your need for a chair. Perhaps you doctor can even write a perscription for the chair? ;) I would definently ask them about at least some documentation to support your case.

As for dating...

I'm too busy with school to date now. But I would be willing to date either and AB girl or a girl with a disability. Her physical limitations, or lack thereof, are not as important to me as the connection. :) Maybe this idea will change when I start to get into relationships, we shall see. But I don't forsee that happening.

My only serious relationship was in high school and it was very confusing to say the very least. It's been seven years and I still haven't had even a causal romantic relationship since. (It's not like they're lining up anyway.)

So, I say this sitting here not really having too much experience in this part of life: I think that for me, it doesn't matter if the person I love is AB or otherwise.

You can't help who you fall in love with.

thanks for the support everyone! My doc wrote the Rx and a letter for the insurance company, but I got rejected because I'm not confined to a bed or a chair in my home without one. Oh well... I plan on fighting it!

I feel comfortable knowing that the person that I am with will accept me no matter what, whether that girl is AB or has a disability. I was in a relationship with a girl that was disabled but she didn't accept me at first because I was more noticeable than her and she wasn't used to the attention.

So with that, I guess it works both ways. You have to very strong and secure with yourself whether you have something wrong with you or not.

I got rejected because I'm not confined to a bed or a chair in my home without one.

:rolleyes: That's so annoying. There's a difference between getting around your home, and walking a long distance and not being able to rest...those people don't know anything about it. Maybe try to give a more detailed description of how CP causes a lot of energy to be used up when walking? :confused: Good luck