aliciaheart04
08-04-2006, 12:44 AM
Hello everyone. I am new to this site. I am just looking for some help. I have tried finding information on the web but I am not the greatest at the computer thing. My husband and I have been ttc for two years as of this month. We have tried all of the predictor kits that you can buy in the store and we have done the butt up in the air by a pillow thing. stopped drinking caffeine and done everything else on the web I have found. The only thing I haven't done is gone to the doctor. That is why I am posting. I want to know if I go to my Obgyn what exactly they can do to help? What I should say? The questions I should ask and if going to my obgyn is what I should do? My husband really wants to have a child on our own but these two years have been kinda hard on me. And I think going to the doctor is the last step I can take. If anyone is in my shoes or has been in my shoes please reply to me and tell me what I should do. Thank you so much for your time.
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MindyandJoey
08-04-2006, 01:05 AM
Dear Alicia,
I know exactly where you are and how you feel. My husband and I have been TTC for 14 months with no luck. As soon as I hit 11 months I couldnt take it and I went to the Dr. The only thing I really told her was that we have not used any protection and were TTC.. she didnt act weird or anything like that, but what she did was order blodd tests on me to make sure my hormone levels were okay, then she made me chart my basal body temp (just taking your temps everyday for 3 mos to see a pattern in the rise and fall) and even still..... I didnt and dont ovulate or get a period. She wanted to make sure my husband wasnt shooting blanks so she did a semen analysis, and then at my pap smear she found abnormal cells with proved to be dysplasia by a colposcopy. Now, TTc is harder than ever, and I know my huband wants a baby just as bad as yours does. Its all worth it in the end, but I would suggest going to your doctor, its not as weird or uncomfortable as I thought it would be, and atleast she can put you in the path of acheiving that little one. God Bless you and good luck.
I know exactly where you are and how you feel. My husband and I have been TTC for 14 months with no luck. As soon as I hit 11 months I couldnt take it and I went to the Dr. The only thing I really told her was that we have not used any protection and were TTC.. she didnt act weird or anything like that, but what she did was order blodd tests on me to make sure my hormone levels were okay, then she made me chart my basal body temp (just taking your temps everyday for 3 mos to see a pattern in the rise and fall) and even still..... I didnt and dont ovulate or get a period. She wanted to make sure my husband wasnt shooting blanks so she did a semen analysis, and then at my pap smear she found abnormal cells with proved to be dysplasia by a colposcopy. Now, TTc is harder than ever, and I know my huband wants a baby just as bad as yours does. Its all worth it in the end, but I would suggest going to your doctor, its not as weird or uncomfortable as I thought it would be, and atleast she can put you in the path of acheiving that little one. God Bless you and good luck.
TryN2BMommy
08-04-2006, 08:42 AM
Hi Alicia :wave:
Definitely talk to your OBGYN. We have been trying for over 3 yrs now, and we just got up the nerve to talk to the dr about it. After a series of tests & procedures, we discovered that he has low counts, and I don't have any working tubes. Let me tell you, it was disappointing to learn that we had problems. But, if we had never went to the dr, we wouldn't be working towards fixing those problems, and we would never have the baby that we want so desperately!! Now at least we are being proactive about it, and we know that being parents is a real possibility for us.
When talking to your dr, all you have to say is that you have been trying for 2 yrs, nothing has happened, and you are getting worried. They will order tests, bloodwork, and take it from there. It is scary to think you might have problems, but it is absolutely worth it if you can fix those problems and make your dream become a reality :angel:
Also, you may not even have any problems...it is just better to find out one way or another for sure...
Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
Holly~
Definitely talk to your OBGYN. We have been trying for over 3 yrs now, and we just got up the nerve to talk to the dr about it. After a series of tests & procedures, we discovered that he has low counts, and I don't have any working tubes. Let me tell you, it was disappointing to learn that we had problems. But, if we had never went to the dr, we wouldn't be working towards fixing those problems, and we would never have the baby that we want so desperately!! Now at least we are being proactive about it, and we know that being parents is a real possibility for us.
When talking to your dr, all you have to say is that you have been trying for 2 yrs, nothing has happened, and you are getting worried. They will order tests, bloodwork, and take it from there. It is scary to think you might have problems, but it is absolutely worth it if you can fix those problems and make your dream become a reality :angel:
Also, you may not even have any problems...it is just better to find out one way or another for sure...
Best of luck to you whatever you decide.
Holly~
haileysheets
08-04-2006, 01:12 PM
I am so sorry TTC is taking you so long. We all expect our bodies to work naturally and trying for a baby seems like it should be such a natural thing. I know how surprised I was when I found out that a couple only has a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle (and that's even if everything goes the way it should). I haven't hit my year mark yet, but I did ask my doctor what happens at that point. He told me that the first they he'd do is order my DH for a sperm analysis. Then, he would do bloodwork to check hormone levels and possibly have an ultrasound done. I would definitely make an appointment to see an OB/GYN. Family doctors can run tests too, but I've heard of more women have success going directly to OB/GYN's since it is their speciality.
The problem I am having right now is that I don't think I am ovulating -- although I am still having regular 29-31 day cycles. I was on BCP's for 7 years and have only been off them since March. I am seeing an OB/GYN on August 14. I am hoping I can have her test me for that. I am trying to keep my fingers crossed though -- right now I am 2 days late for my AF and have been experiencing a few pregnancy symptoms.
The problem I am having right now is that I don't think I am ovulating -- although I am still having regular 29-31 day cycles. I was on BCP's for 7 years and have only been off them since March. I am seeing an OB/GYN on August 14. I am hoping I can have her test me for that. I am trying to keep my fingers crossed though -- right now I am 2 days late for my AF and have been experiencing a few pregnancy symptoms.
jill30
08-04-2006, 03:57 PM
How old is everyone here that is trying to have a baby? I am 33 and have not even tried to start yet. Both of my sisters were 34 when they started after being married for 11 yrs.
aliciaheart04
08-04-2006, 04:56 PM
Hi Everyone Thank you so much for your fast responses and kind words. I have made an appointment for the 31st of this month at a midwife place.
http://www.midwiferycareinc.com/home/
That is the link you if want to look at it and tell me if you think that is a good place for me to go.
Haileysheets~ I also was very suprised to here that it is only a 20% chance. Something we were born to do and we only get a 20% chance of doing it. That doesn't seem very fair to me. I hope you keep being late for AF adn you finally get the budle of joy you are wanting. ***BabyDust***
Holly~ I can't imagine three years of this. I thought waiting two years to go to the doctor was too long. The problem is she isn't even going to talk to me about the whole baby thing the first appointment and I have to wait almost a month to go. I hope you are able to have the child that you want so much. ***BabyDust*** to you also.
Mindy~ Thank you so much for telling me that going to the doctor isn't going to be so bad. I was actually pretty afraid to go. Untill I read your post and then I just called. The lady I spoke to was really nice and they are all females who work there and I think it is going to go really well. I wish you all the luck in having a baby. ***Babydust***
Once Again I would just like to say thank you to all of you for your kind words. I will keep you updated. after I go to the doctor.
**BabyDust** TO ALL
http://www.midwiferycareinc.com/home/
That is the link you if want to look at it and tell me if you think that is a good place for me to go.
Haileysheets~ I also was very suprised to here that it is only a 20% chance. Something we were born to do and we only get a 20% chance of doing it. That doesn't seem very fair to me. I hope you keep being late for AF adn you finally get the budle of joy you are wanting. ***BabyDust***
Holly~ I can't imagine three years of this. I thought waiting two years to go to the doctor was too long. The problem is she isn't even going to talk to me about the whole baby thing the first appointment and I have to wait almost a month to go. I hope you are able to have the child that you want so much. ***BabyDust*** to you also.
Mindy~ Thank you so much for telling me that going to the doctor isn't going to be so bad. I was actually pretty afraid to go. Untill I read your post and then I just called. The lady I spoke to was really nice and they are all females who work there and I think it is going to go really well. I wish you all the luck in having a baby. ***Babydust***
Once Again I would just like to say thank you to all of you for your kind words. I will keep you updated. after I go to the doctor.
**BabyDust** TO ALL
uagirl7
08-04-2006, 09:01 PM
I would definitely go to the doctor. DH and I have been trying for 1 year and I just went to the doctor on Wednesday and she put me on Femara because I knew I wasn't ovulating until Day 24/25 and then starting my period on day 30. My luteal phase is too short. She also scheduled DH for a SA but put me on the medicine right away without doing blood work first. I am 27 and DH is 29.
aliciaheart04
08-08-2006, 04:11 AM
******bump******
whatishappening
08-09-2006, 10:27 PM
Hi Jill. I just turned 35 and trying to have our second baby. We conceved our daughter when i turned 32 ( literally in the first month!) We have been trying since January for another and nothing has happened yet, how fusterating !!
Best of luck to everyone !!:)
Best of luck to everyone !!:)