I'm so upset right now my grandmother is dying she has cancer and they are giving her days to weeks to live..I think she has gaven up there is know fight in her anymore and she told someone in the family it's her time to go home..I got a call today and they said she is so weak that she can't talk now..she can't do anything for herself anymore she can't even move at all they have to turn her over so she don't get bed sores..I'm just so upset I can't even think stright..I'm going in the morning to see her and it's so hard for me to see how she is now when I've always seen her up and going and always doing something I would have to tell her many times to sit down becaues she was always on the go in the house doing something all the time

I don't know if I can say anything that will make you feel better. I just wanted to let you know that I have already included you in my prayers today, as probably several others have done also.

A few years ago I lost a sister to cancer. She, too, went through pretty much the same sufferings as your grandmother, and it was so hard to watch her health deteriorate in her last days. She, too, had questions. She said she was ready, and couldn't understand what God was waiting on, but never in a complaining way, just questioning. BUT, I do know this, I was glad to be around her to see her strength in the way she dealt with her pain, her courage, her faith in God, her wonderful attitude about everything, never complaining about anything. When my time comes to leave this earth, I pray to God that I will be able to do it with as much dignity and love still in my heart as she did. Her example was wonderful. I have such good feelings about being able to be with her in her difficult times. Your grandmother may be that same kind of person. Enjoy her now, and even later, as you focus on all the good memories you have of her.

Have courage and peace.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. I lost my grandpa in April of this year. He had had a whole bunch of tests done one day, including a biopsy, and two day laters my grandma called me and told us he was in the hospital in cardiac arrest. By the time my mom and I got there he was gone. We found out a few days later that he had had lung cancer and it had already started to spread. There would have been nothing they could have done, as it had spread too much and his heart was too weak. As terrible as it sounds, the heart attack was a blesssing. I wouldn't have been able to watch him suffer. So as hard as it was that night he passed away and still is, it was the best thing for him and for us. I miss him alot still.

You and your family are in my thoughts as watching a loved one die is probably the hardest thing in life to do.

thanks so much for your thoughts and prays..I just got back from her house which is an hour away and it just broke my heart seeing her like that..she didn't open her eyes the whole time just made noises like she was in pain..I feel like she should go to the er and get more help then what is giving to her at home but before she got real bad she told everyone she wanted to die at home but I just feel differnet about it I know that is her wish but I think they could just do more...and I also notice she is not breathing like she should be..I know I have to leave it in gods hands but I don't won't to see her go even though I will be with her one day it's just hard and my mother was so bad she was getting sick and that really upset me as well..thanks again for the prays it means alot