Hello everyone I am new to this site. To give ya'll a little background info - I discovered I had high risk HPV about 4 years ago. After a few bumpy rides and disbelief for about 6 months. I went back to the doc. had a normal pap - thought I was cured (because the doc said i was) - then got into a relationship and got another abnormal pap. I faced reality and had cyro a bit later. (i actually got my results back about 2 weeks ago and they are NORMAL!!!) .. but anyway. after 2 and a half years of being with my boyfriend I ended things- I have met a new guy and i have been completely honest with him about the HPV and he has been incredibly acceping of me -- more than i thought he would be. We have been using toys and messing around - but we both really really want to have sex. So my questions are:

1. Since I have high risk HPV - how is it transmitted to the male? Is it through contact or fluids? or what?

2. Can condoms protect him?

3. If condoms can't protect/ or lower the transmission rate are there any other options?

4. Should we even bother?


Now I have done tons of research and everything either contradicts something else i just read or is uberconservative. I just want some real answers. I also talked to my gyno and she was at ease with the idea of me having sex. (She told me that it is like the risk of pregnancy - there is a risk of transmitting it....) I was a bit stunned after everything i read online. I just feel strongly that people who have an STD need to end the transmission. But i am also human. I have also realized that there is a difference in the warts and high risk HPV and high risk doesnt seem like a contact exchange thing...
IM sorry I am rambling but i just want some real answers from real people. Anything would help. Thanks

Your boyfriend already has HPV, unless he's a virgin. Basically all sexually active adults have it. Even those who have only had a couple of partners. Most men never have any symptoms and don't know they have it.

But yes you can transmit it to a man. Skin or fluid contact can pass the virus along. Condoms do not protect against HPV well because pelvic skin still makes contact. I got HPV and had never, ever had unprotected sex even once.

Condoms may lower the risk somewhat, so yes, you might as well use them. Especially since other STDs could be a factor and it offers additional protection against pregnancy.

Just a question...do you know if you picked up another high-risk strain from your new partner? Or, do you think it was the original strain coming back to haunt you again?

I just had my first normal pap after a LEEP. I feel good and cautiously relieved. But, I know I could easily have an abnormal pap again (from the same strain).

Good luck to you! I'm happy to hear that you had another NORMAL result. Doesn't that feel great?

Just a question...do you know if you picked up another high-risk strain from your new partner? Or, do you think it was the original strain coming back to haunt you again?

I just had my first normal pap after a LEEP. I feel good and cautiously relieved. But, I know I could easily have an abnormal pap again (from the same strain).

Good luck to you! I'm happy to hear that you had another NORMAL result. Doesn't that feel great?


Well I am not really sure...The first time it went away it was all natural- i had no procedure done.(and that was before i started dating my x).. so I am assuming that it was the same strand that came back to haunt me - BUT
After I broke the news to my ex-boyfriend he told me that his x had the same situation as me... Now that is a whole other story about my x... but it is possible that it went away and he gave it back to me. ANything is really possible in this situation - and I kept worrying myself about who and when and what... but I realized that I am not capable of narrowing it down or pointing fingers.

Glad to hear about your normal results. -- YES - IT FEELS GREAT to have a normal pap. I was so anxious. It seemed like the results took forever - lol.
the reality is that it is always possible that the problem will come back.. but cervical cancer usually grows at a slow pace so as long as we keep up on paps then we can help ourselves prevent a serious problem. So i dont really feel sure and confident but I know for now my body is good and i just need to stay on top of my check ups and latest news & information available. (as should all of us!)
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Best of luck to you -