Ok so about a month ago my b/f of 5 yrs got and ob and went to the doc and was told it was hsv2 .we were split about 2 yrs ago and i was with someone else .So of course at first i thought it must be me .He seems dead set that he got it at a night out with is friend when they drank some european liquor and he passed out ,saying something couldve happened to him while he was sleeping. swears he didnt cheat which honestly he has always been honest to me , always been where i thought he was etc... but only means that it is easier for me to believe his lies right ?
Ok now to the point my igg test is negative but i just cant belive this so i still think i have it and they gave me false results.right before we got back together i remember having some bumps down stairs but they went away the next day .so i dont know but i keep thinkin of that moment , he on the other hand never had anything until now , exactly 2 weeks after his night out .he only had a culture test i guess but i dont really know because i never get a straight answer when i ask him but he seems to think he never got a test and the doc just said u have hsv2 and gave him medicine , impossible right ? no doc can say u have a virus without a test , plus he says he went to 2 docs so how could he not remember if they took blood or wiped his penis ??i dont get it so many things r shady about this .i am so confused i hate to think he cheated but if i am negative then he mustve .we have a child together .i never imagined any of this ,at the beginning i planned to stay with him and i know it sounds harsh but now that i am negative i dont know if i can stay with him because i constantly think he was unfaithful.he wont talk about it our relationship has been rocky for over a yr .we cant even communicate about basic daily things much less something like this .i am just going to get retested but i dont know that i can go my whole life always wondering if i have it because this month is hell .i want to believe him and live on with our fam together but i just dont know , this sux any advice on better ways to talk to him because i think i always come across accusing him

Gosh i am all over the place sry guys no delete button :(

Hello,

I would think that the results would be accurate if you were tested at least 11 weeks past possible herpes exposure. Believe it or not, I got tested at 10 1/2 weeks, and I was negative but I do have genital herpes. For some reason my body just wasn't showing the antibodies yet, but I am probably a rare case because I have immune system abnormalities due to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It is not my place to comment on the situation with your boyfriend, but I do agree that it sounds totally fishy that your boyfriend does not remember if or how he got tested and whether or not he took medication. To me, personally, that would be a reg flag, regardless of the fact that he never lied to you in the past. Honestly, I feel really bad about the relationship problems you and your boyfriend are having all because of herpes. Although I had pretty bad physical symptoms of herpes, herpes was more emotionally painful for me as well, as well as many others. All I can say to help you is that herpes is VERY common, and that with proper diet, lifestyle, supplements, and medication, if you choose (or in your case, if your boyfriend chooses), herpes can totally be manageable. It sucks that your boyfriend won't communicate with you about all of this, but I think herpes is really a tough thing to deal with, mostly because of all the negative stigma attached to it. Maybe he did contract it, or maybe there are a thousand thoughts swirling through his head, and he is totally confused as to where it came from. Honestly, what made me feel better about herpes is that I educated myself, and then secondly, my outbeaks lessened in severity. :-) Let's hope it stays that way.
Take Care,
Katalina

thank you for ur input ... i guess it is a right test result then because i have been with him for yrs and didnt sleep with him between the time he went out for that night and now so i wouldve had to have had it before . he also doesnt seem to want to educate himself , it seems to be me cramming and freaking out the most .he asks me if he thinks of something but i really feel from the way he is acting that this is affecting me more .i research throughout the day i am on message boards reading sometimes writing .i just dont know what to think or how to deal with what i am thinking . can u imagine ?? plus i am 23 yrs old just turned it , went my whole life not getting any std and now i am in a monogamous relationship and i am suppose to not care about getting hsv even tho i have no idea how it got in our relationship in the first place and he doesnt seem to know either ..?? geeez

thank you for ur input ... i guess it is a right test result then because i have been with him for yrs and didnt sleep with him between the time he went out for that night and now so i wouldve had to have had it before . he also doesnt seem to want to educate himself , it seems to be me cramming and freaking out the most .he asks me if he thinks of something but i really feel from the way he is acting that this is affecting me more .i research throughout the day i am on message boards reading sometimes writing .i just dont know what to think or how to deal with what i am thinking . can u imagine ?? plus i am 23 yrs old just turned it , went my whole life not getting any std and now i am in a monogamous relationship and i am suppose to not care about getting hsv even tho i have no idea how it got in our relationship in the first place and he doesnt seem to know either ..?? geeez