Hey I have Asbergers which leads to lots of depression and anger so I end up cutting my wrists and trying to commit suicide. I don't think my mum can cope anymore so has anybody got any advise? Please share :)

Many people with Asperger's have depression (I'm not one of them). It's thought to be a secondary condition, caused by the possible social ostracism that Aspies face. You should really talk to your PCP about going on an anti-depressant to help you. If you're against medication, then you should look into therapy, particularly for the self-injurious behaviors. I don't cut myself, but I do understand the need for a "tension-release" mechanism due to the anger and pent-up frustration that is associated with the Asperger's. My method is to watch A Beautiful Mind (one of my obsessive fixations) or listen to the soundtrack, which allows me to cry on purpose and let out all of the bottled-up frustration and anxiety. I'm doing it right now, actually... Good luck, God bless, and if you have any questions, feel free to ask! :angel:
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Thank you :) Just wondering what is[I]Beautiful Mind[I]?

yes i have advice, you seem to know it is wrong and what your putting your mother thru, so STOP! it's simple.

Maz,

First I want you to go back & carefully read Gatsby's advice. Gatsby is a young person, a college student, & I think she probably understands quite well what you may be experiencing.

Now, this is going to sound harsh, but I have 2 older teens, one NT & one on the spectrum. Both have had issues with depression & anxiety. If either of my kids, while still a minor, began engaging in self-injurious behavior, I would give them a choice of voluntarily complying with professional treatment, or being committed against their will to a treatment program, for however long it takes. While it sounds harsh, I would do whatever it takes to HELP THEM.

The second harsh thing I'm going to say is, while there can be a neurochemical basis (treatable) for self-injuring, there can also be an aspect of attention-seeking. A well-rounded treatment program will address both the neurochemical as well as the social aspects of this disorder.

If you were my kid, I'd encourage you to explore your local treatment options via the internet, then get serious on working with your family to get better.

Depression & anxiety are as treatable in Aspergers as they are in the general population. You sound like a pretty smart kid, and I bet you have good career options. Use your brains to help yourself and get on board with your true potential.

Best wishes.

A Beautiful Mind is the Academy Award-winning movie starring Russell Crowe as the (real life) schizophrenic mathematician Dr. John Nash, who wins the Nobel Prize in 1994, despite his mental illness. The reason I love it so much is because it shows how mental illness brings both despair and success, setbacks and creativity/intelligence. More importantly, at the beginning of the movie while Nash is still at grad school at Princeton and has yet to display any psychotic symptoms, he shows an awful lot of Aspie traits. He's very geeky and socially awkward, and his reactions to certain things remind me so much of myself. When I'm feeling misunderstood or full of anxiety/frustration, I'll watch the certain scenes that remind me of myself and create my own kind of "tension-release" therapy. It means so much to me because of the personal connection. :angel:
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Hey u sound like ur having a hard time and its hard to get others to understand-but there r people. i think u need extra help with this, its nothing shameful, u just need a helping hand. have u tried therapy which can build on social skills, u can learn how to better react to social cues and decrease anxiety, it may also help u meet others like u who understand better.

also, id like to comment in response to marrissamm's comment-how very rude. this place is to give decent useful advice, however your post was unbeleivably narrowminded and black and white not to mention harsh wen the persons eesteem is already low, it was inconsiderate. your advice also made no logical sense-if this person didnt feel guilty do you think theyd be seeking help, do u think they enjoy it?, they no they r hurting their mother but self harm is an addiction, its done for a reason and requires help-wud u tell a heroin addict to just stop, they cannot just stop by themselves without help, yes they r hurting others around them and themselves-they dont want this just as self harmers dont but its not 'simple' as u called it. try to consider the bigger picture next time before posting and maybe only give advice if its polite and sensitve to the issue-maybe even try helpful.

thanx and gud luck on getting help. xox

I had feelings of being different all my life, but I never thought of doing self injurious acts. Please get help now! Gatsby has sound advice.

When I was a teenager I was a cutter. I also had alot of depression and anxiety and really had a hard time. I was hospitalized when I was 17 to get treatment. I was a good kid. Jutst had a hard time socially. I never did drugs, smoked, drank, etc., (still don't and I'm 34 now) One night, I overdosed on my anti-depressants and anti-anxiety drugs. I was comatose for several days. When I awoke, the first thing I saw was my parents' faces at the foot of my hospital bed. I realized how much they loved me. I felt bad for hurting them. Later I found out that the dr's didn't think that I'd make it. I am so grateful for being given a second chance at life and I have vowed to never "give up" again. I learned that I was not invincible. It took 5 years to get over my depression. And now, 17 years later, I have 1 Aspie son, 1 severe autistic son, 1 son with severe speech problems, and 1 daughter just recently diagnosed with ADD and CAPD. Not to mention my Aspie husband. I guess my advice would be: when you get the feeling to cut, RUN. Exercise really does wonders. Or do something you normally wouldn't do. Do the total opposite of cutting (whatever that would be). Listen to some wild music, scream in a bottle, or perhaps invest in a punching bag. And remember, you're not alone. This is a great board to vent to. I wish you the best and more! Also, now that I'm a mom, I realize how much I hurt my mother when I would cut and say that I didn't want to live anymore. I would never want any of my children to do that to me. Oh--another thing: I'm so embarrassed of my scars on my wrists. I dread the day when my kids ask me what happened. Or anyone else for that matter. There are some good medications out there as well. Hope this helps. And good luck to you. Keep us informed.

Thank you very much Pucca Chick, I agree with what you said :) self-harming is very hard giving up. And you can't just suddenly stop.

Hey I have Asbergers which leads to lots of depression and anger so I end up cutting my wrists and trying to commit suicide. I don't think my mum can cope anymore so has anybody got any advise? Please share :)

Pedro,

The one thing that I noticed in your thread......your concern for your mum.. That tells me that you are a very loving, and caring person for others. I am very proud of you for being able to have that much compasion for others while dealing with your Aspergers. It's not an easy condition to deal with, there is much frustration, lack of social skills on your part to voice your troubles, and concerns, and dealing with the fact that you are different is upsetting in itself.
There has to be a different way for you to deal with your frustrations. Cutting yourself is not the answer. You care too much for others to be hurting yourself. Take some time and think about other possibilities for releasing your frustration. Kickboxing, martial arts, yoga......and yes there is always thearapy, and medication that can be of benefit for you... Please before you try and hurt yourself again, stop and think about other options you have been given......

Sid..............Grandmother of Mikey......Mikey has Aspergers....I know his challenges and the ones that he will face throught his life. I have faith that he will make it, as will you!!!!!!

Hey I have Asbergers which leads to lots of depression and anger so I end up cutting my wrists and trying to commit suicide. I don't think my mum can cope anymore so has anybody got any advise? Please share :)

Pedro,

The one thing that I noticed in your thread......your concern for your mum.. That tells me that you are a very loving, and caring person for others. I am very proud of you for being able to have that much compasion for others while dealing with your Aspergers. It's not an easy condition to deal with, there is much frustration, lack of social skills on your part to voice your troubles, and concerns, and dealing with the fact that you are different is upsetting in itself.
There has to be a different way for you to deal with your frustrations. Cutting yourself is not the answer. You care too much for others to be hurting yourself. Take some time and think about other possibilities for releasing your frustration. Kickboxing, martial arts, yoga......and yes there is always thearapy, and medication that can be of benefit for you... Please before you try and hurt yourself again, stop and think about other options you have been given......

Sid..............Grandmother of Mikey......Mikey has Aspergers....I know his challenges and the ones that he will face throught his life. I have faith that he will make it, as will you!!!!!!