okay well obviously i am not really going to do that to myself but at this point it sure does sound tempting!:eek: dh brought home a horrible cold from work and of course dd and i caught it. so on top of her ear infection and teething she now has a bad cold! we are both so miserable!:blob_fire i feel like the world's worst and selfish mother!:mad: i know that she doesn't feel good but i feel like crap too and i have no one to help me other than my husband who has to get up early to go to work. i am just so tired and exhausted. she only sleeps in small intervals and i feel bad for her because she is only waking up because she can't breathe good. and she wants to nurse so bad but again she can't breathe enough to do that either. i have tried a lot of stuff, we have been steaming in the bathroom, decongestive, bulb aspirator and saline drops,baby vicks. and nothing is having much of an effect on her. she just whines and screams, it sounds like i am murdering her when i have to clean out her nose,which seems like every five minutes! i'm afraid the neighbors will think that i am beating her! i am so frustruated and tired beyond explanation. i just wish i had someone to hand her over to right now so i can get some rest. i can't even take any cold medicines because i am afraid to get too drowsy and not be able to take care of her. i'm sorry for all of this but i just really needed to vent. i feel so mean when i yell (not at her) and punch a pillow or slap the couch. and to top it off her little sharp baby nails need to be cut and she is practically tearing and shredding my arms,neck and face! i haven't felt like this since she was about two months old and looking back on it i have no idea how i survived it! thanks for listening to me. i feel just a teeny tiny bit better now!:)

hugs but also lol. i know what you mean by the pulling your hair out etc phrase. ds is teething has a cold and therefore is almost always in tears over the last few days.

I remember somehting just like that happening to me when ds was 4 weeks............ can dh take tomorrow off? What decongestant did you try, because I know that some did NOTHING for ds, but pediacare decongeatant worked great. Are you nursing, I think you said you are...........check whether you can take claritan, it may help with out the bad side effects, if I can take it, trust me, anyone can. ( check if you're nursing though) Feel better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hey ladies! its nice to know that i am not alone and that i can post here and not be judged! well things are going a little better today. she is still very sick but we're surviving. she actually is taking the pediacare decongestion but still not much of an effect on her. :(! i feel so bad for her. i am still sick as well as dh and he actually took half a day off because he wasnt feeling good. we'll see if i can squeeze in a nap. i just hope that tonight wont be as bad as last night, i don't know how i will make it if it is! i just hope that we will all be feeling better soon.

Something that may help you without any side effects is a nasal decongestant spray like Afrin. Regular Sudafed (you have to ask for it at the pharmacy counter as the PE kind you get OTC does not work nearly as well) also shouldn't have any side effects. I hate to mention it, but if she keeps screaming a lot you may be dealing with another ear infection and she may need a different antibiotic. Hopefully it is just her stuffy nose though and you will see more improvment tomorrow. When this is over in the next few days you and DH need to get a sitter and go out! It will do you both good.

Nancy

Keep your chin up, Steph. I hope you, baby and DH will be better soon.

Is there no-one you can leave your baby with for an hour or so in the daytime? I felt really awful the first time I left my baby at Nursery, then went home and slept as I felt so ill, but I knew it was the best thing for both of us. I got a chance to re-charge my batteries whilst DD was having fun and not driving me insane doing those baby things that drive you mad when you're not feeling well, like dropping things on the floor, scratching me and pulling my hair. Sorry if this is rubbing it in a bit if you can't do this, but if you've had any offers from friends or relatives, now's the time to take them up on the offer.

Rebbie

hugs to you, mama! sometimes it can be so hard.

thanks so much everyone! well things are slowly getting better over here. we are all still sick but she is at least sleeping better. at least i found a new use for wipies, i have been using them to blow my nose! they work great if you let them dry out just a little first. they are really gentle and havent made my nose all red and dry. but i use the pampers sensitive wipes. on a happier note my dd is getting closer and closer to crawling! she has been 'scooting' around and going backwards for a few weeks now but recently has started to actually move her legs forward when she is on her hands and knees! it won't be long now! and then she will be into absolutely everything! LOL!

I know just how you feel. My little boy had bad allergies and bad gas until he was a little over six months, plus lots of ear infections. I felt awful and hardly got any sleep. He couldn't lay down in his crib because he couldn't breath laying down so we had to sit on the couch all night with him. We went in shifts but it was still tough. During the day he would just scream and cry and I never thought he would get better. So I would like to tell you... Hang in there and ask for help when you feel like you need it. It takes a good mom to ask for help. :) Everything will get better and this experience will probably teach you a lot of patience. ;)