I had sexual contact 5 days ago with an unknown male. He said he was clean, and that I have nothing to worry about. What happened was that I gave him a blow job, he did not *** in my mouth, nor did I taste any pre-***. I am scared because this is my first gay encounter and I don't want it to be my last.

Hey,

Firstly, try to calm down, I know it's a distressing situation to find yourself in, but worrying and working yourself up into a panic won't change or help anything.

As I've come to understand it, oral is a very low risk activity as far as HIV goes, so the chances are that you're worrying about nothing.

Unfortunately, it's far too early for you to get tested, my doctor said that for it to be a reliable result, you need to wait for 3 months after the incident to get checked.

So, try to calm down, it's unlikely that you've contracted it. Now, you should definitely get tested when you can, because a doubt like this doesn't just disappear and I know how horrible it can be to constantly have it on your mind. In the mean time, try to forget about it as best you can, you can't do anything about it now anyway until you can have the test done.

More importantly, learn from this mistake. Don't put yourself in that position again. I wouldn't recommend just having sexual contact with any random person, and if you do still want to do that, make sure you use a condom to keep you and your partner safe.

It's a tough lesson to learn, but a valuable one.

Oh, oh! and before I forget, for God's sake, do NOT start researching HIV/it's possible symptoms on the internet, it'll make you even more paranoid and merely exacerbate the situation. Before you know it you'll have experienced every symptom on the page.

Stay away from things like that, but by all means if you need some support from people in the same situation as you, there are dozens of people who post on here regularly who will be more than willing to listen.

Take it easy.

Thanks for the encouragement, it makes me feel better. I think I am going to go crazy over the next three months. I don't want to get HIV over one stupid mistake, but I guess that is the corner I have painted myself into.

I really think you'll be fine, your encounter was so low risk, it's practically no risk!

Trust me, I'm right there with you, and we aren't the only ones.

I had an encounter a couple of years ago, and since then it's always been on my mind, but I kept talking myself out of getting tested and the longer I left it, the worse it felt.

I finally bullied myself into getting tested last Friday, and I have to wait a couple of weeks for my results, so they should in theory arrive some time next week... and well, yes, it's scary. Very scary. I'm dreading my phone ringing or finding a letter from the hospital at my door.

Hopefully we'll both get a second chance, and we've both learnt a lesson.
We all make mistakes, you're only human so don't beat yourself up over what happened. The real mistake would be to not learn from this and do it again!

I'm here for you if you need to talk.

:)

I just feel SO STUPID! Its not like I did not know what HIV was or anything. Now I see all these people on this site scared for their health...and their lives. Not that you can't live with HIV, but everything being equal I hope we are all HIV-. I of course scoured the internet for symptoms and tell tale signs of infection. I can't get them out of my head. Thanks for your words, hopefully we are the lucky ones. Take care, and try not to let it get to you.

Scared, take the advice to get tested. First and foremost don't take that someone believes you have HIV because they said get tested!!!!!!!!!!!!!It is a way of saying you WILL not believe any of us until you hear the words from a DOC and the test result that you are Negative. Human nature my friend, your brain, plays so many tricks. Second and foremost,get the heck of the internet, because your 3 months is going to be a eternity if your symptom surfing, which I know you are. God Bless you will be alright...Play it cool:cool:

By the way...I caught the "lucky ones statment". My friend we are all lucky to be breathing alright. You do NOT know what this world is going to throw at you TRUST ME and if you haven't read the news HIV is definitely not the worst...I Know! With that said live it...breath it and relax! I wish someone would have told me that a long time ago. Stop beating yourself up. There are some beautiful people on this site, I think you should Archive and read their threads...and then reflect...Later:p

I am sorry about the "Lucky Ones" statement, we are lucky, I have been thinking about that. No matter what happens it could be worse.