I have just gotten a 12-week negative HIV test after a low-risk, but stupid exposure in-which I experimented with a gay man. When I told him that I was NOT interested in having anal sex (either way) he seemed surprised that I even thought of him wanting such an act, which was a reassuring indication that he does not perform anal sex with people he has only just met (but of course, I can never be sure). The indcident consisted of mostly frottage and him giving my oral sex occasionally, but the indicent I deeply regret is that I gave him oral sex briefly (not exactly sure how long - could be between 20 - 40 seconds) I did not remember tasting any precum (can never be sure if precum was there) and he did not ejaculate in my mouth. Another thing I regret if that I did not question his HIV status (argghh ... so stupid), so I will have to classify him as one of unknown status.

Okay, so just to recap and give so additional comment:

The possible risk factor was unprotected receptive fellatio.

He did not *** in my mouth and I do not remember tasting precum.

I had no sores in my mouth, and, despite the fact I don't brush my teeth and gums that regularly, my dentist (post-exposure) insists that my gums are healthy and pretty resident to gum disease. However I am not certain of how healthy my gums were at the time.

Despite meeting a really nice guy, I did not enjoy the experience and am not questioning my sexuality.

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It's been a hard three months, but I ended up getting tested
12 weeks post exposure with an ELISA (III/IV generation) antibody test at a UK NHS GUM clinic (the window period is 12, rather than 13 weeks in the UK) . The test came back negative! Which was a great relief!

So can I resume unprotected sex with my wife again? I asked the doctor is this result is definite, but doctors never give you straight yes or no answers.

I would generally classify my immune system as very good. I don't think that I have had a fever since I was a kid, and have NEVER developed an ulcer on my gums despite how common they are. Does this help certify my HIV negative status? Surely if my immune system was pretty good, I would have developed the virus much ealier? Like 4-6 weeks.

I know that the only people that have a 6-month window are type IV drug / PEP users etc., but also heard that the HIV virus can hide in the lymph tissue (like a dorment hepres virus) and release itself anytime, therefore rendering the immune-based window period unreliable. Is this true?

Thank you.

Hiv is always detectable and is not a dormant virus and is totaly different and a whole other type of infection than herpies .
It does make latent copies of itself but not in the way that you think as far as having a herpies outbreak weeks , months and even years after any posable infection .
Hiv has a very short lifespan inside the body of about 14 to 18 days and it needs to replicate itself at all times to sustain itself .
Also unlike a cold or flu ( which are DNA based infections ) hiv is ( RNA based ) which means all the copies of itself are a bit different from one another which also means that it makes many mistakes and the immune system will be able to destroy the weaker copies .
In answer to you're question oral sex is conciderd low risk and with you're testing it would be safe to say that you are hiv- but in the future stay monogamous and avoid the hell you have just been through .
......... Lost Spirit ..........